1. Congruence You can’t create congruence with something you’ve never defined, so it’s important to consciously create a unifying self-image of who you are and who you want to be.
1.1. Set New Standards for Yourself
1.2. Set Your Mood Meter
1.3. Keep Your Word and Follow Through
2. Caring To be worthy of more caring, we simply must accept it, see that it’s all around us, and, of course, return the blessing.
2.1. Care for Thyself
2.1.1. Schedule a minimum of seven hours of sleep every night Remember: Smaller portions, more produce Exercise at least three times per week Meditate Drink a lot more water Give yourself a break, and a little credit Tap into the emotional side of yourself more often
2.2. Be More Vulnerable and Allow Others to Care for You
2.3. Be More Present, Interested, and Attentive to Others
3. Connection True lifelong happiness comes from connecting with and loving others, so it’s best we figure out how to do that as soon as possible and as best we can.
3.1. Define and Design Your Ideal Relationships
3.2. Practice Positive Projection
3.3. Find and Cultivate “Growth Friends”
4. Challenge Challenge thinking immediately inspires thoughts about the journey–it’s about giving something more of yourself.
4.1. Choose Fulfilling Challenges
4.1.1. Singularity of focus Stretch of effort and capability Scoring of performance Sense of completion Sharing of experience and result
4.2. Focus on the Journey and Don’t Fear Rejection
4.3. Set Monthly Thirty-Day Challenges
5. Contribution This is covered by common maxims like “Make a difference. Leave a legacy. Share your gifts and abilities.” and so forth.
5.1. Give of Yourself (and Give Yourself Credit While You’re at It)
5.2. Give to (Deeply Meaningful Contribution Experiences)
5.3. Mentor, Mentor, Mentor
6. Control This desire to regulate and influence our overall life experience is what the human drive for control is all about.
6.1. Control Your Outlook and Character
6.2. Control for New
6.2.1. The ninety-day getaway The restaurant or dining tour Shows, sporting events, experiences Travel adventures Expanding your peer circle Skill development
6.3. Control Workflow
7. Competence With so much on the line, how can we activate our drive for competence in a healthy and energizing way? What moves the needle the most in developing competence?
7.1. Assess and Direct Your Desire to Learn
7.1.1. Future Identity Intrinsic Value Utilitarian Value Opportunity Cost Delay Time Personal Control/Agency Social Support and Connection Bandwidth Belief Resource Availability Autonomy
7.2. Set a Real Challenge, Plan for Success, and Get a Coach
7.3. Integrate Successes into Your Identity
8. Change Do I both welcome and cause change?
8.1. Make Change About the Gains, Not the Losses
8.2. Get Clarity, Think Big, and Be Bold
8.3. Make Real Choices
8.3.1. I want this, not that. Do more of this, no more of that. When this happens, do that. Always choose this, not that. Do this now, then that.
9. Creative expression Everything you do is an act of self-expression and creativity.
9.1. Amplify Creative Expression in All Areas of Your Life
9.1.1. Home, Work, Intimate Relationship, Friendships, Leisure, Contributions
9.2. Study People and Design
9.2.1. “How do I become more creative?” The answer would be, “Go watch people and explore the world.”
9.3. Create More, Share More
9.3.1. The idea is the spark, the physical form the outcome.
10. Consciousness How do we live at the highest levels of our own human consciousness? How do we transcend them?
10.1. Focus Your Consciousness
10.1.1. Be conscious of your thoughts Be conscious of your emotional and physical energies Be conscious of your behavior Be conscious of others Be conscious of your progress
10.2. Transcend Consciousness
10.2.1. Be conscious of the present moment Be conscious of coincidence and intuition Be conscious of love