1. Fundamental Attribution Error
1.1. The bias to attribute our own behavior to our circumstances while attributing someone else’s actions to their character
1.1.1. If I did something disappoint you
1.1.1.1. Reason
1.1.2. If you did something offensive
1.1.2.1. Character
1.1.2.1.1. Mean
1.1.2.1.2. Rude
1.1.2.1.3. Jerk
1.1.3. Always a gap
1.1.3.1. How do you fill the gap?
1.1.4. Kids
1.1.4.1. Someone else's Kid They are a bad Parent
1.1.4.2. My Kid, She's having a bad day.
1.1.4.3. Plank Eye
1.2. The devil wants you to fill the gaps with accusations. (accuser)
1.2.1. She’s about herself
1.2.1.1. He doesn’t care
1.2.1.2. Can’t trust
1.2.2. Accusations
1.2.2.1. Erode marriages
1.2.2.2. Split friendships
1.2.2.3. Destroy churches
1.3. God wants you to fill the gaps with love!
1.3.1. Proverbs 17:9 9 Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends.
1.3.2. Love
1.3.2.1. Gives benefit of the doubt.
1.3.2.2. Assumes the best
1.3.2.3. Trusts the other person
1.3.2.4. Believes in other person
1.3.3. Ephesians 4:2 Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.
2. Because of your love
2.1. Make allowances
2.2. Not all about You
2.2.1. Bad mood isn’t about u
2.2.2. Edge voice
2.2.3. Careless driving
2.2.4. Bad day
2.2.5. Distracted
2.2.6. Bad news
2.2.7. Fighting battle!
3. What if someone
3.1. Intentionally Rude
3.2. Blatantly Hateful?
3.3. Wonder what going through?
3.3.1. Hurt people...
3.4. Instead of
3.4.1. Offended by
3.4.1.1. Compassion for
3.5. Proverbs 19:11 11 Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs.
4. Overlook
4.1. Hebrew word overlook means to “Pass Over.”
4.2. Choose to
4.2.1. PASS OVER IT
4.2.2. I’M OVER IT!
4.3. Conscious decision to
4.3.1. LET IT GO
4.3.2. Form of Forgiveness
5. Why The Grudge
5.1. Coming Up
5.1.1. I'm Over It
5.1.2. The Faith to Forgive
5.1.3. Forgiving God?
5.2. We've all been there
5.2.1. Forgiving Betrayals
5.2.2. Yourself
5.2.3. God!
5.3. Most find selves
5.3.1. offended
5.3.2. annoyed
5.3.3. bothered
5.3.4. hurt—Small
5.3.5. insignificant
5.4. Age perpetual offense
5.4.1. Quick Judge
5.4.2. Condemn
5.4.3. Call foul
5.4.4. Offended
5.5. If you are on a continuous search to be offended, you will always find what you are looking for!
6. Your life is too short and your calling too great to be offended by something small!
6.1. Proverbs 19:11 11 Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs.
6.2. Get over The Grudge?
6.2.1. We close the gap with LOVE!
6.2.1.1. Proverbs 10:12 12 Hatred stirs up quarrels, but love makes up for all offenses.
6.3. Dynamic exists in every interaction
6.3.1. Rarely recognize it!
6.3.2. There is a GAP between an action and our reaction
6.3.3. We get to CHOOSE what we PUT IN THE GAP!
6.3.4. Example
6.3.4.1. Action
6.3.4.1.1. (Flipoff)
6.3.4.2. Gap
6.3.4.2.1. (We interpret!)
6.3.4.3. Problem
6.3.4.3.1. We are Horrible Interpreters!
6.3.4.4. Anyone every misinterpreted what you said or did???
6.3.4.5. Not what I meant! Even think that?