mind map of known loss
by Julie Thi Underhill
1. survivors
1.1. Execution x2
2. Loss of long-term romantic relationship
2.1. x12
2.2. Abandonment
3. abuse
3.1. police (physical) assult x2
3.2. child x4
3.2.1. sexual (x400)
3.3. abuse (domestic x
3.4. sexual x22
3.5. abuse (stranger assault x2)
3.6. emotional x6
3.6.1. verbal x6
3.7. Scapegoated, blamed x2
3.8. Bullying
3.9. Experienced racist words and actions
3.10. Online Bullying
3.11. sexual harassment
4. Loss of health
4.1. Mental health crisis x3
4.2. mental illness
4.3. starvation x2
4.4. Chronic physical health problems x3
4.5. vitality
4.6. heart disease x1
4.7. Diabetes x3
4.8. traumatic brain injury
4.9. PTSD
5. language (loss) due to assimilation
5.1. Chinese x 18
5.2. Spanish x 3
6. Abandonment by a primary caregiver (x5)
7. Shame
7.1. Body x 2
7.1.1. x10
7.2. Emotions (4)
7.2.1. too numerous to count
7.3. Culture 2
7.3.1. Code Switching
7.4. Gaslighting (3)
7.4.1. x6
7.5. Family Secrets x15
7.6. Being asked to leave school
7.7. Sexuality
7.8. Expectations
8. homicide x8
8.1. observed
8.2. family member
8.3. Heartbreak
8.3.1. x10
9. Sexism x21
9.1. street harrassment x 500
9.2. belittlement
9.3. being talked over
9.4. Expectations
10. Racism x9
10.1. called names by partner's family
10.2. asked by boss to wear derogatory clothing depicting another ethnic group
10.3. Intimate relation loss due to racism of partner's family x2
10.4. Relationship rejection due to racism
11. Freedom of movement
12. Mundane human contact (e.g. pre-COVID) x2
13. armed robbery/home invasion
14. separation
14.1. covid
14.1.1. family x12
14.1.2. friends x6
14.2. forced migration
15. forced emigration/immigration
16. ableism
17. Drug abuse/ opioid/ painkillers
18. attempted suicide x2
19. natural causes x 17
20. Abandonment by parent x3
20.1. depression
20.2. A
21. too many to count
22. Victim of genocide, relatives lost (x105+?)
22.1. Ostracized, alienated from group
23. Ghosted by friends
24. family x2
24.1. unrealistic expectations x5
24.1.1. x6
24.2. betrayal
25. rape x7
25.1. sister
25.1.1. girlfriends
25.2. friends
26. death
26.1. suicide x7
26.2. x12 + x7
26.3. COVID-19
26.4. Death of pet
27. Incarceration
27.1. Divorce/relationship breakup x3
27.2. abuse while incarceratied
28. Loss of friendships
28.1. Geographic dispersal
28.1.1. Relinquishing child at birth
28.2. Victims of civil war, loss of country
28.3. x6
29. war
29.1. Revolution & exile
29.1.1. Political imprisonment
29.1.2. Separation
30. Depression x10
30.1. Self x1
31. Relational loss
31.1. betrayal/cheating/lies (x110)
31.2. Family
31.3. Loss of a dog in youth
32. Loss of Family
32.1. x15
32.2. Adoption x2
32.3. Revoluation
33. alcoholism
33.1. abuse of family due to lack of treatment
33.2. death due to liver disease
34. exclusion
34.1. x2
34.2. x10
35. religious
35.1. forced baptism
35.1.1. indoctrination/brainwashing x100