1. Reframing illustration
1.1. Where you focus make the difference
1.1.1. Creating a different way of looking at a situation or relationship by changing its meaning.
1.1.2. You can’t control what happens to you
1.1.3. But you can control how you frame it
1.1.4. This point life were you expecting something different?
1.1.4.1. Worked hard
1.1.4.1.1. Degree
1.1.4.1.2. Job overqualified diff field.
1.1.4.2. Dreamed great marriage
1.1.4.2.1. Married sweetheart
1.1.4.2.2. Divorced
1.2. Paul dreamed about going to Rome as a preacher, but instead, he went as a prisoner.
1.2.1. Philippians 1:12-13 NWV Now I want you to know, brothers and sisters, that what has happened to me really sucks. As a result of the hell I've been through, I'm quitting Bible Study and never coming back to church.
1.2.2. Philippians 1:12 (NIV) 12 Now I want you to know, brothers and sisters, that what has happened to me has actually served to advance the gospel.
1.2.3. Paul dreamed about going to Rome as a preacher, but instead, he went as a prisoner.
1.2.3.1. Philippians 1:12-13 NWV Now I want you to know, brothers and sisters, that what has happened to me really sucks. As a result of the hell I've been through, I'm quitting Bible Study and never coming back to church.
1.2.3.2. Philippians 1:13 (NLT) 13 For everyone here, including the whole palace guard, knows that I am in chains because of Christ.
1.2.3.2.1. What most people would think is bad
1.2.3.2.2. Framing as good!
1.2.3.2.3. Chained influential Roman guards
1.2.3.2.4. New every 8 hours
1.2.3.2.5. Philippians 1:14 (NLT) 14 And because of my imprisonment, most of the believers here have gained confidence and boldly speak God’s message without fear.
1.2.4. Philippians 1:13 (NLT) 13 For everyone here, including the whole palace guard, knows that I am in chains because of Christ.
1.2.4.1. What most people would think is bad
1.2.4.2. Framing as good!
1.2.4.3. Chained influential Roman guards
1.2.4.4. New every 8 hours
1.2.4.4.1. Vs 14
1.2.4.5. Philippians 1:14 (NLT) 14 And because of my imprisonment, most of the believers here have gained confidence and boldly speak God’s message without fear.
1.3. Thank God for what didn’t happen
1.3.1. Girl told parents
1.3.1.1. Met guy bar
1.3.1.2. Pregnant
1.3.2. Probation over in year
1.3.2.1. Start looking job once out rehab
1.3.3. Consider marrying me
1.3.3.1. We can’t afford
1.3.3.2. Moving in
1.3.3.3. Oh, that's not true, I Got a D on my biology test.
1.3.4. Missed goals at work
1.3.4.1. Didn’t lose job
1.3.4.2. Car wreck
1.3.4.2.1. Expensive
1.3.4.2.2. At least no one was hurt.
2. REFRAMING YOUR STORY AND RELATIONSHIPS
3. Cognitive Reframing
3.1. If God works in all things for good
3.1.1. Reject unhealthy Default Frames
3.1.1.1. Loser
3.1.1.2. Failure
3.1.1.3. Not smart
3.1.2. Reframing
3.1.2.1. Not passively receiving circumstance
3.1.2.1.1. Actively interpreting
3.1.2.1.2. Not interpreting God through circumstances!
3.1.2.1.3. Interpreting my circumstances through the goodness of God!
3.1.2.2. What has happened me
3.1.2.2.1. Actually served advance the gospel
3.1.2.3. You can’t control what happens to you
3.1.2.4. But you can control how you frame it
4. Message Video
5. Ever had someone complain who had it better than you.
5.1. Mind is a battlefield
5.2. Most life’s battles are won or lost mind
5.3. The life you have is a reflection of the thoughts you think
5.3.1. Comes into your mind
5.3.1.1. Comes out in your life
5.3.2. Cannot have a positive life
5.3.2.1. Negative mind
6. Cognitive Biases
6.1. A cognitive bias is a strong, preconceived notion of someone or something, based on information we have, perceive to have, or lack. These preconceptions are mental filter the human brain produces to expedite information processing—to quickly help it make sense of what it is seeing.
6.2. Cognitive bias
6.2.1. Mistake in reasoning based on personal experiences or preferences
6.2.1.1. Grew up around abusive men
6.2.1.1.1. Hard trust men
6.2.1.2. Parents said “rich people bad”
6.2.1.2.1. Feel guilty start to succeed
6.2.2. The FILTERS you have
6.2.2.1. Shape how you see life
6.2.3. Change filter
6.2.3.1. Change feel
6.2.4. The FILTERS you have
6.2.4.1. Shape how you see life
6.2.5. Change filter
6.2.5.1. Change feel
6.3. Cognitive Bias is a Default Filter
6.3.1. Pre-wired interpret
6.3.2. Why
6.3.2.1. 2 people respond differently same situation
6.4. FACTS are the same
6.4.1. It’s the FILTER
6.4.1.1. Feedback
6.4.2. Church
6.4.2.1. Xians hypocrites
6.4.2.2. Feel God
6.4.3. Read some news sources
6.4.3.1. Vaccine answer
6.4.3.2. Kill you
6.4.4. Facts don't matter when you have a good filter.
6.4.5. Numbers 13/14
6.4.5.1. Moses sent 12 spies to explore land
6.4.5.2. 2 Great
6.4.5.2.1. Beautiful
6.4.5.2.2. Let’s go take the land
6.4.5.3. 10
6.4.5.3.1. Land devours
6.4.5.3.2. Giants
6.4.5.3.3. We are like grasshoppers!
6.5. The Facts are the same
6.5.1. It’s the FILTER
6.5.2. Not just the FILTER
6.5.2.1. It’s also the FRAME
6.5.3. Same situation
6.5.3.1. How you frame it
6.5.3.2. Determines how you see it
7. QR
8. Neural pathways
8.1. Experience new
8.1.1. Programming brain
8.1.1.1. The little brain in my hand
8.1.1.2. Baby smiles
8.1.1.2.1. Mom smiles back
8.1.1.2.2. Smiling good
8.1.1.3. Baby touches hot stove
8.1.1.3.1. Ouch
8.1.1.3.2. Baby wants sucker
8.1.2. Mind battlefield
8.1.2.1. Most of life’s battles won or lost in mind
8.1.2.2. 2 Corinthians 10:5 (NIV) 5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
8.1.3. Your life is always moving in direction of your strongest thoughts.
8.1.3.1. What comes into your mind
8.1.3.1.1. Comes out in your life
8.1.3.2. Cannot have a positive life with a negative mind
8.1.3.3. Your emotions are a thermometer
8.1.3.3.1. Your thoughts are a thermostat
8.1.4. How do we train our minds
8.1.4.1. Philippians 4:8 (NLT) 8 And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
8.1.4.2. Write it on your hand
8.1.4.3. Memorize scripture
8.1.4.4. The 4 line prayer
8.1.4.4.1. Money/Blessing
8.1.4.4.2. Disappointed in how something turned out? Remind yourself what is important.
8.1.4.4.3. Need to repent or feeling arrogant?
8.1.4.4.4. Wanting to bless someone? Angry with someone? Need to forgive someone? Feeling jealous of someone?
8.1.4.5. 2 Cor 10:3-5
8.1.4.5.1. 2 Corinthians 10:3–5 (NLT) 3 We are human, but we don’t wage war as humans do. 4 We use God’s mighty weapons, not worldly weapons, to knock down the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments.
8.1.4.5.2. 2 Corinthians 10:5 (NLT) 5 We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ.