1. I can accept Failure. I can't accept not Trying.
1.1. The greatest Basketball Player of All time
1.1.1. Not a Natural
1.1.2. Cut from High School Team
1.1.3. Did not make into NCSU
1.1.3.1. Had to go to UNC
1.1.3.1.1. His well wishers wanted him to go Airforce Academy
1.1.4. Hard Working
1.1.4.1. Hardest working athelete in history of sport
1.1.4.2. Legendary for his dogged practice even at the height of his success
1.1.5. Mental Toughness
1.1.5.1. success stems from the mind. "The mental toughness and the heart are a lot stronger than some of the physical advantage you might have.
1.1.6. I can accept failure
1.1.6.1. I can't accept not trying!
1.2. Failure
1.2.1. FIXED
1.2.1.1. Failing at a certain outcome
1.2.1.1.1. they beat themselves up
1.2.2. GROWTH
1.2.2.1. failure = Not Learning/Growing
1.2.2.2. Not reaching for the things you value.
1.2.2.3. It means you're not fulfilling your potential.
1.2.2.4. In face of Setbacks
1.2.2.4.1. What will I do next time when I'm in this situation?
2. "Scoring Runs is about Process, not Talent"
2.1. The Greatest Hitter of All Time
2.1.1. Started as a Pitcher
2.1.1.1. Rookie Pitcher
2.1.2. He loved to practice.
2.1.2.1. One time he was disciplined and could not play games
2.1.2.1.1. What really hurt him
2.1.3. Being a pitcher helped Ruth develop his hitting
2.1.3.1. He could experiment at the plate
2.1.3.2. No one cares if a pitcher strikes out
2.1.3.3. No one cared if he looked bad when batting
2.1.3.4. If he missed it didn't matter
2.1.3.5. But he kept on swinging and getting better!
2.1.3.5.1. The big swings started to connect
2.1.4. he came to believe that scoring runs -was much more about process than about talent.
2.2. Process v/s Outcome
2.2.1. FIXED Mindset = Outcome
2.2.1.1. One evaluation can measure you forever
2.2.1.1.1. Hence I must succeed right now
2.2.1.2. You don't have time to grow if everything is on the line right now
2.2.1.3. It's all about the outcome
2.2.1.3.1. If you failed/ didn't win, its all wasted
2.2.2. GROWTH Mindset = Process
2.2.2.1. Enjoying what you do
2.2.2.2. Perseverance in face of difficulties
2.2.2.3. Journey is a reward
3. I just want to be remembered as a hard working lady
3.1. The Fastest Woman in the World
3.1.1. Far from a Physical wonder
3.1.1.1. 20th of 22 kids
3.1.1.2. Always sick
3.1.1.3. Born Pre-Mature
3.1.2. At 4
3.1.2.1. Nearly Died of
3.1.2.1.1. Pneumonia
3.1.2.1.2. Scarlet Fever
3.1.2.1.3. POLIO
3.1.3. At 9
3.1.3.1. she removed the calipers and took the first step, against the advice of doctor.
3.1.4. Physical Therapy till she was 12
3.1.4.1. She entered her first race without the calipers even while doctors were of opinion that she could not walk independently
3.1.5. Accomplishments
3.1.5.1. Won 3 gold medals in 1960 Rome olympic
3.1.5.1.1. 100m
3.1.5.1.2. 200m
3.1.5.1.3. 400m
3.1.5.2. Fastest woman on earth
3.1.6. Hard Work
3.1.6.1. After her incredible career, she said, "I just want to be remembered as a hardworking lady."
3.1.6.2. "Some might attribute my transformation to the laws of heredity... But I think it was my reward for all those hours of work on the bridle path, the neighborhood sidewalks and the schoolhouse corridors."
3.1.6.3. "There is something about seeing myself improve that motivates and excites me.
3.2. Effort v/s Gift
3.2.1. Effort
3.2.1.1. Fixed Mindset
3.2.1.1.1. Effort is a bad thing
3.2.1.1.2. If you are smart/talented => You won't need Effort
3.2.1.1.3. Why is effort so terrifying?
3.2.1.2. Growth Mindset
3.2.1.2.1. Effort turns Ability into Accomplishment
3.2.1.2.2. Effort is positive
3.2.1.2.3. Effort is a Requirement for success
3.2.2. Gift
3.2.2.1. Fixed Mindset
3.2.2.1.1. GIFT = Ability
3.2.2.2. Growth Mindset
3.2.2.2.1. Ability is not a Gift. I must develop myself.
3.2.2.2.2. The ultimate gift is the one we all have
3.2.2.2.3. Mozart
3.2.3. Proving yourself
3.2.3.1. Fixed Mindset
3.2.3.1.1. success is about proving you're smart or talented
3.2.3.1.2. a fixed ability that needs to be proven
3.2.3.1.3. Trying to validate yourself
3.2.3.1.4. If Successful = Feeling of pride
3.2.3.1.5. If Unsuccessful = feeling of shame
4. Playing Up
4.1. FIXED
4.1.1. I'm Flawless
4.1.2. I'm enough as I am
4.1.3. Thriving on the sure Thing
4.1.4. Going for what's within their reach
4.2. GROWTH
4.2.1. Success is about stretching yourself.
4.2.1.1. Stretching Beyond what's possible today
4.2.1.2. I can learn and develop
4.2.2. Its really HARD
4.2.2.1. And I try Really HARD
4.2.2.2. And I can do something I couldn't do before
4.2.3. PLAYING UP
4.2.3.1. "All my life I've been playing up, meaning I've challenged myself with players older, more skillful, more experienced- in short, better than me."
4.2.3.1.1. Mia Hamm
4.2.3.2. If you only go through life doing stuff that's easy, shame on you.
4.2.3.2.1. Patricia Miranda, Olympic Wrestling Medalist
4.2.4. Hallmarks of growth Mindset
4.2.4.1. LOVing THE CHALLENGE
4.2.4.2. Believing in Effort
4.2.4.3. Resilience in face of setbacks
4.2.4.3.1. Sticking to it
4.2.4.4. Wanting to GROW yourself
5. Research Studies
5.1. As we feared, the ability praise pushed students right into fixed mindset, and they showed all the signs of it, too:
5.2. In contrast, when students were praised for effort, 90 percent of them wanted the challenging new task that they could learn from.
5.3. enjoying of the problems? After the success, everyone loved the problems, but after the difficult problems, the ability students said it wasn't fun anymore. It can't be fun when your claim to fame, your special talent, is in jeopardy.
5.4. a growth mindset helps people to see prejudice for what it is- someone else's view of them- and to confront it with their confidence and abilities intact.
5.5. The precocious Fixed Mindsetter
5.5.1. This boy is invested in his brain- not in making it grow but in singing its praises.
5.5.2. When he talks about how easy everything is for him in school, you all say, "Oh, that's too bad. You're not learning. Can you find something harder to do so you could learn more?"
5.5.3. "Champs are the people who work the hardest. You can become a champ. Tomorrow tell me something you've done to become a champ."
6. I presently Struggle With
6.1. P90x
6.1.1. I can't do it
6.1.1.1. I am stagnant
6.1.1.2. This is who I am
6.1.1.3. Right now is all that matters
6.1.2. I presently struggle with
6.1.2.1. I am on a trajectory
6.1.2.1.1. The slope of trajectory is important. Not the current state
6.1.2.2. I can't do it ....
6.1.2.2.1. YET
6.1.2.3. I can grow
7. Growth Mindset in Relationships
7.1. Grow Your Mindset
7.1.1. After a rejection, do your feel judged, bitter, and vengeful?
7.1.2. Get in touch with all the feelings, and see it you can view it from a growth mindset. What did you learn from it?
7.1.3. Did it teach you something about what you want and don't want in your life?
7.1.4. teach you some positive things that were useful in later relationships?
7.2. Effort v/s Gift
7.2.1. Fixed
7.2.1.1. 1. If You Have to Work at It, It Wasn't Meant to Be
7.2.1.1.1. One problem is that people with fixed mindset expect everything good to happen automatically.
7.2.1.1.2. But they both felt, with great sorrow, that if the relationship were the right one, they wouldn't have to work so hard.
7.2.1.1.3. but people in this mindset don't expect magic. They believe that a good, lasting relationship comes from effort and from working through inevitable differences.
7.2.1.1.4. fixed- mindset idea that if you have ability, you shouldn't have to work hard?
7.2.1.1.5. Every marriage demands an effort to keep it on the right track, there is a constant tension...between the forces that hold you together and those that can tear you apart.
7.2.1.1.6. It's probably why so many relationships go stale- because people believe that being in love means never having to do anything taxing.
7.2.1.2. 2. Problems Indicate Character Flaws
7.2.1.2.1. The second big difficulty with the fixed mindset is the belief that problems are a sign of deep- seated flaws. But just as there are no great achievements without setbacks, there are no great relationships without conflicts and problems along the way.
7.2.1.2.2. So once people with the fixed mindset see flaws in their partners, they become contemptuous of them and dissatisfied with the whole relationship.
7.2.1.2.3. A growth mindset doesn't mean he would necessarily confront her, but he would confront it- the situation.
7.2.1.3. A no-effort relationship is a doomed relationship, not a great relationship. It takes work to communicate accurately and it takes work to expose and resolve conflicting hopes and beliefs. It doesn't mean there is no "they lived happily ever after," but it's more like "they worked happily ever after."
7.2.1.4. THE PARTNER AS ENEMY
7.2.1.4.1. In fact, in the fixed mindset you have a limited set of choices. One is to blame your own permanent qualities. And one is to blame your partner's.
7.2.1.4.2. In the fixed mindset, I had needed my blame and bitterness.
7.2.2. Growth
7.2.2.1. EACH ONE A LOSER
7.2.2.1.1. Relationship expert Danial Wile says that choosing a partner is choosing a set of problems. There are no problems- free candidates. The trick is to acknowledge each other's limitations, and build from there.
7.3. Learn/Grow v/s Rejection and Failure
7.3.1. Fixed
7.3.1.1. CAN THIS MARRIAGE BE SAVED?
7.3.1.1.1. never to think these fixed-mindset thoughts: My partner is incapable of change. Nothing can improve our relationship. These ideas, he says, are almost always wrong.
7.3.2. Growth
7.3.2.1. In every relationship, issue arise. Try to see them from a growth mindset: Problems can be a vehicle for developing greater understanding and intimacy.
7.3.2.2. embark on a relationship, they encounter a partner who is different from them, and they haven't learned how to deal with the differences. In a good relationship, people develop these skills and, as they do, both partners grow and the relationship deepens. But for this to happen, people need to feel they're on the same side.
7.4. Process v/s Outcome
8. Growth Mindset in Business
8.1. ENRON AND THE TALENT MINDSET
8.2. Effort v/s Gift
8.2.1. Growth
8.2.1.1. True self- confidence is "the courage to be open- to welcome change and new ideas regardless of their source." Real self- confidence is not reflected in a title, an expensive suit, a fancy car, or a series of acquisitions. It is reflected in your mindset: your readiness to grow.
8.2.1.2. they recall times they have seen people learn to do things they never thought these people could do
8.2.1.3. Create an organization that prizes the development of ability- and watch the leaders emerge.
8.2.2. Fixed
8.2.2.1. Are you a fixed- mindset boss, focused on your power more than on your employees' well- being? Do you ever reaffirm your status by demeaning
8.2.2.2. Iacocca lived the fixed mindset. Although he started out living the car business and having breakthrough ideas his need to prove his superiority start to dominate, eventually killing his enjoyment and stifling his creativity. As time went on and he became less and less responsive to challenges from competitors, he resorted to the key weapons of the fixed mindset- blame, excuses, and the stifling of critics and rivals.
8.3. Learn/Grow v/s Rejection/Failure
8.3.1. Fixed
8.3.1.1. It's hard for courage and innovation to survive in a company with fixed mindset.
8.3.2. Growth
8.3.2.1. Instead of just giving employees an award for the smartest idea or praise for a brilliant performance, they would get praise for taking initiative, for seeing a difficult task through, for struggling and learning something new, for being undaunted by a setback, or for being open to and acting on criticism.
8.4. Process v/s Outcome
8.4.1. Fixed
8.4.1.1. When bosses become controlling and abusive, they put everyone into a fixed mindset. This means that instead of learning, growing, and moving the company forward, everyone starts worrying about being judged.
8.4.2. Growth
9. A Champion's Mindset
9.1. THE IDEA OF THE NATURAL
9.1.1. Muhammad Ali - was not a natural
9.1.1.1. In fact, he boxed all wrong.
9.1.1.1.1. He kept his jaw exposed.
9.1.1.1.2. He pulled back
9.1.1.1.3. He had great speed but he didn't have the physique of a great fighter.
9.1.1.2. Ali's brilliance was his mind. His brains, not his brawn.
9.1.1.2.1. Your hands can't hit
9.1.1.2.2. "He was paradox. His physical performances in the ring were absolutely wrong... Yet, his brain was always in perfect working condition." "He showed us all: "that all victories come from here," hitting his forehead with his index finger. Then he raised a pair of fists, saying. "Not from here."
9.2. Effort v/s Gift
9.2.1. Fixed
9.2.1.1. And finished products have to protect themselves, lament, and blame. Everything but take charge.
9.2.1.2. Remember, in the fixed mindset, effort is not a cause for pride. It is something that casts doubt on your talent.
9.2.1.3. Naturals Shouldn't Need Effort
9.2.1.3.1. people prize natural endowment over earned ability.
9.2.2. Growth
9.2.2.1. personal success is when you work your hardest to become your best.
9.3. Process v/s Outcome
9.3.1. Growth
9.3.1.1. took charge of the processes that bring success- and that maintain it.
9.3.1.2. "I derive just as much happiness from the process as from the results. I don't mind losing as long as I see improvement or I feel I've done as well as I possibly could. If I lose, I just go back to the track and work some more."
9.3.1.3. "After every game or practice, if you walk off the field knowing that you gave everything you had, you will always be a winner."
9.3.2. Fixed
9.4. Learning and Growing v/s Rejection and Failure
9.4.1. Growth
9.4.1.1. Those with growth mindset found setbacks motivating. They're informative. They're a wake-up call.
9.4.1.2. Athletes with a growth mindset find success in learning and improving, not just winning. The more you can do this, the more rewarding sports will be for you- and for those who play them with you!
9.4.1.3. Those with the growth mindset found success in doing their best, in learning and improving.
9.4.1.4. He wants to be the best, even the best ever. "But the best me- that's little more important."
9.5. Character
9.5.1. comes out of a growth mindset.
9.5.2. Mental Toughness
9.5.2.1. But the sixth jump won her a bronze medal, more precious than her gold ones. "The strength for that sixth jump came from my assorted heartbreaks over the years... I'd collected all my pains and turned them into one mighty performance."
9.5.3. All of those people had character. None of them thought they were special people, born with the right to win. They were people who worked hard, who learned how to keep their focus under pressure, and who stretched beyond their ordinary abilities when they had to.
9.5.4. "If I wasn't dyslexic, I probably wouldn't have won the Games. If I had been a better reader, then that would have come easily, sports would have come easily.....and I never would have realized that the way you get ahead in life is hard work."
9.5.5. When you read about an athlete or team that wins over and over and over, remind yourself, 'More than ability, they have character.'
9.5.6. And second, that character can be learned.
10. How to APPLY Growth Mindset in your life
10.1. Understanding Your Brain
10.1.1. Its like a Muscle
10.1.1.1. Neuroplasticity
10.1.1.1.1. Changes
10.1.1.1.2. Gets Stronger w/ use
10.1.1.2. Gets better with Practice and learning
10.1.1.2.1. Forms new connections
10.1.1.2.2. Grows
10.1.1.2.3. Changes in density of neurons in relevant areas of the brain
10.1.2. Hard Becomes Easy
10.1.2.1. Things that you once found very hard or even impossible become easy.
10.1.3. Every time you think about not doing work remember that "my neurons could grow if I did do the work"
10.1.4. Thinking = chemical communication of nerve cells
10.1.4.1. When learning
10.1.4.1.1. Brain Cells
10.1.4.1.2. Existing connections
10.1.4.1.3. Areas of brain responsible for those skills becomes
10.1.4.1.4. when performing related tasks
10.1.4.1.5. Brain development is dependent on stimulation of
10.2. Process for developing GROWTH Mindset
10.2.1. What are the opportunities for learning and growth today?
10.2.2. As you think of opportunities Make CONCRETE Plans
10.2.2.1. When will you do it
10.2.2.2. Where will you do it
10.2.2.3. How will you do it
10.2.2.4. Vivid details
10.2.2.5. Growth Oriented plan
10.2.3. As you encounter the inevitable obstacles and setbacks
10.2.3.1. Form a new Plan
10.2.3.2. Ask yourself
10.2.3.2.1. When where and how will I act on my new plan?
10.2.4. What do I have to do to maintain and continue the growth?