1. Denial — "I feel fine."; "This can't be happening, not to me." Denial is usually only a temporary defense for the individual. This feeling is generally replaced with heightened awareness of possessions and individuals that will be left behind after death. Denial can be conscious or unconscious refusal to accept facts, information, or the reality of the situation. Denial is a defense mechanism and some people can become locked in this stage. Kubler Ross recommends that family members and health professionals not prolong denial by distorting the truth about the person's condition. In doing so, they prevent the dying person from adjusting to impending death and hinder necessary arrangements, for social supports, for bringing closure, and for making decisions about medical interventions. [3] Anger — "Why me? It's not fair!"; "How can this happen to me?"; '"Who is to blame?" Once in the second stage, the individual recognizes that denial cannot continue. Because of anger, the person is very difficult to care for due to misplaced feelings of rage and envy. Anger can manifest itself in different ways. People can be angry with themselves, or with others, and especially those who are close to them. It is important to remain detached and nonjudgmental when dealing with a person experiencing anger from grief. Bargaining — "I'll do anything for a few more years."; "I will give my life savings if..." The third stage involves the hope that the individual can somehow postpone or delay death. Usually, the negotiation for an extended life is made with a higher power in exchange for a reformed lifestyle. Psychologically, the individual is saying, "I understand I will die, but if I could just do something to buy more time..." People facing less serious trauma can bargain or seek to negotiate a compromise. For example "Can we still be friends?.." when facing a break-up. Bargaining rarely provides a sustainable solution, especially if it's a matter of life or death. Depression — "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"; "I'm going to die soon so what's the point?"; "I miss my loved one, why go on?" During the fourth stage, the grieving person begins to understand the certainty of death. Because of this, the individual may become silent, refuse visitors and spend much of the time crying and grieving. This process allows the dying person to disconnect from things of love and affection. It is not recommended to attempt to cheer up an individual who is in this stage. It is an important time for grieving that must be processed. Depression could be referred to as the dress rehearsal for the 'aftermath'. It is a kind of acceptance with emotional attachment. It's natural to feel sadness, regret, fear, and uncertainty when going through this stage. Feeling those emotions shows that the person has begun to accept the situation. Acceptance — "It's going to be okay."; "I can't fight it, I may as well prepare for it." In this last stage, individuals begin to come to terms with their mortality, or that of a loved one, or other tragic event. This stage varies according to the person's situation. People dying can enter this stage a long time before the people they leave behind, who must pass through their own individual stages of dealing with the grief.
2. Connections: Inspiration, Vigour, Tenacity, Endurance, Resolution, Persistence , Determination, Steadfastness, Perseverance
3. Connections: Conductor, Orchestrator, Self Manager, Team Leader, Enjoyment, Synergy, Strategy
4. About...
4.1. Description
4.1.1. Thrive Star is the centre core of the human design template model and fundamental principles of The Thrive Programme.
4.1.2. Based on universal natural laws and scientific research. Thrive Star is a simple yet complex integrated pentagrammic human template. Consisting of the essence and qualities of the 5 primary colours: White, Red, Blue, Yellow and Green. And the 5 Human Centres: Thinking, Moving, Instinctive, Emotional and Sexual Centres.
4.1.3. A truly versatile human psychological template, self therapy and personal development tool. YOUR FIVE STAR TEAM PLAYERS...
4.1.4. enabling you to understand yourself and how your mind works. that can be applied to any situation or occurrence in life, to further understanding, self awareness, mindfulness, assist with your personal endeavours and to lead a happy for filling life.
4.1.5. A truly versatile human psychological template, self therapy and personal development tool, that can be applied to any situation or occurrence in life, to further understanding, self awareness, mindfulness, assist with your personal endeavours and to lead a happy for filling life.
4.1.6. A simple yet complex integrated template that is able to explain itself by means of itself. Constituting of the essence and qualities of the 5 primary colours, White, Red, Blue, Yellow and Green. Core foundation in your 5 Human Centres, Thinking, Moving, Instinctive, Emotional and Sexual. Are your 5 Inner Team Players, Thinker, Actioner, Regulator, Orchestrator and Pioneer. Making self inquiry of your Thoughts, Behaviours, Feelings, Emotions and Beliefs.
4.1.7. A complex system built of five integral centres, thinking, moving, instinctual, emotional and sexual, all participating in a whole body.
4.1.8. Green. Core foundation in your 5 Human Centres, Thinking, Moving, Instinctive, Emotional and Sexual
4.2. Principles
4.3. Purposes
4.4. Connections
4.4.1. The Human Complex
4.4.1.1. The Spirit
4.4.1.1.1. Universal Home
4.4.1.2. The Soul
4.4.1.2.1. Planetary Home
4.4.1.3. The Mentality
4.4.1.3.1. Mental Body
4.4.1.4. The Higher Emotions
4.4.1.4.1. Higher Emotional Body
4.4.1.5. The Principle Promotors
4.4.1.5.1. Feelings
4.4.1.5.2. Character
4.4.1.5.3. Principles
4.4.1.6. The Physical Body
4.4.1.6.1. Lungs
4.4.1.6.2. Heart
4.4.1.6.3. Intestines
4.4.1.6.4. Stomach
4.4.1.6.5. Liver
4.5. Potential
4.5.1. The Mission (if you choose to accept). To establish, publicise and promote understanding of The Human Template of Personal Development. To further increase self awareness, consciousness and human enlightenment.
5. The Centres
5.1. Thinking Centre
5.1.1. Mind & Mentality
5.1.1.1. Characteristic way of thinking
5.1.1.2. Personalised electrical life of the brain
5.1.1.2.1. Mindset
5.1.2. Brain
5.1.2.1. Be careful what you think!
5.1.2.2. Store house
5.1.2.2.1. Sum total of all collective brain activity, stocks, references and results.
5.2. Instinctive Centre
5.2.1. Nervous System
5.2.1.1. Feelings
5.2.2. Defence System
5.2.2.1. Fear
5.3. Emotional Centre
5.3.1. Lower Emotional
5.3.1.1. Like & Dislike
5.3.1.2. Gain & Loss
5.3.1.3. Judgement & Criticism
5.3.2. Higher Emotional
5.3.2.1. Assessment & Comparison
5.3.2.1.1. Non judgemental
5.3.2.2. What fits & does not fit
5.4. Sexual Centre
5.4.1. Lower Sexual
5.4.1.1. Sexual Urges & Reproduction
5.4.2. Higher Sexual
5.4.2.1. Pioneering & Growth
5.5. Moving Centre
5.5.1. Blood System
5.5.2. Stomach
5.5.2.1. Repetitive Reaction
5.5.2.1.1. General Habitual Living
5.5.2.2. Assisting & Stopping
5.5.2.3. Agony & Ecstasy
5.5.2.4. Shout & Whisper
5.5.2.5. Coarseness & Fineness
5.5.2.6. Sloth & Vigour
6. The Team Players
6.1. THINKER
6.1.1. To perceive the intended meaning, significance, explanation or cause of the information or knowledge presented.
6.1.1.1. WHAT?
6.1.1.2. Without Bias
6.1.1.2.1. Neutral
6.1.1.3. Store House
6.1.1.3.1. White Stock
6.1.2. You are what you think you are what you do...
6.1.3. Indexed and cross-referenced multiple storage system
6.1.4. Desire for logistics and what appears to be useless knowledge
6.1.5. Forever searching for, or acquiring, or caught by, what appears to be unrelated information that crosses or fits adjacently to what it already has.
6.1.6. The White Player in its purest form is unbiased, factual, storing information, data, as a library of cross referenced
6.2. MOTIVATOR
6.2.1. Player who proceeds to do something to achieve an aim or personal goal.
6.2.1.1. HOW?
6.2.1.2. Stardards
6.2.1.3. To Do
6.2.1.4. Ego
6.2.2. MOTIVATOR
6.2.3. Actioner
6.3. REGULATOR
6.3.1. Player who controls or maintains the rate, speed, safety and quality of a process.
6.3.1.1. WHY?
6.3.1.2. Principles
6.3.1.3. Feelings
6.3.1.4. Safety
6.3.1.5. Care
6.3.1.6. Patience
6.3.1.7. Protection
6.4. ORCHESTRATOR
6.4.1. Player who shares or exchanges information or ideas, conveying an emotion or feeling.
6.4.1.1. WHERE?
6.4.1.2. WHO?
6.4.1.3. Connections
6.4.1.4. Self Manager
6.4.1.5. Team Leader
6.4.1.6. Joy
6.4.1.6.1. Enjoyment
6.4.1.6.2. Pleasures
6.4.1.6.3. Entertainment
6.4.1.7. Synergy
6.4.1.8. Strategy
6.4.1.9. Conductor
6.4.2. Interaction or co-operation of two or more people, groups or things to produce a combined effect greater than the sum of their separate effects.
6.4.3. Be careful of the stories you tell yourself, you never know they may come true.
6.4.4. The way in which two or more people, groups or things are connected, or the state of being connected and their behaviour towards each other.
6.4.5. Meaning & Purpose
6.4.5.1. Needs been met
6.5. PIONEER
6.5.1. Player who explores and opens up unknown territories, an innovator or developer of new ideas or techniques.
6.5.1.1. WHEN?
6.5.1.2. Inspiration
6.5.1.3. Vigour
6.5.1.4. Tenacity
6.5.1.5. Endurance
6.5.1.6. Resolution
6.5.1.7. Persistence
6.5.1.8. Determination
6.5.1.9. Steadfastness
6.5.1.10. Perseverance
6.5.2. To work through difficulties and develop new paths towards specific aims.
6.5.3. To not get stopped, give up or retreat. We know only of success or resolve.
6.5.4. To break new ground, new thinking, invent, make the seemingly impossible, possible
6.5.5. Having the capacity to develop something in the future, latent qualities or abilities that may be developed and lead to success or usefulness.
6.5.6. Humour
7. Together
7.1. Meditation
7.2. Self Inquiry
7.3. Reactions responses
7.3.1. Thoughts
7.3.2. Behaviours
7.3.2.1. How do you react or behave when you think that...?
7.3.3. Feelings
7.3.3.1. I am feeling...
7.3.4. Emotions
7.3.4.1. Anger
7.3.4.2. Fear
7.3.4.3. Sadness
7.3.4.4. Shame
7.3.4.5. Disgust
7.3.4.6. Surprise
7.3.5. Beliefs
7.3.5.1. Mental Filter - When we notice only what the filter allows or wants us to notice, and we dismiss anything that doesn’t ‘fit’. Like looking through dark blinkers or ‘gloomy specs’, or only catching the negative stuff in our ‘kitchen strainers’ whilst anything more positive or realistic is dismissed.
7.3.5.1.1. Am I only noticing the bad stuff? Am I filtering out the positives? Am I wearing those ‘gloomy specs’? What would be more realistic?
7.3.5.2. Prediction - Believing we know what’s going to happen in the future.
7.3.5.2.1. Am I thinking that I can predict the future? How likely is it that that might really happen?
7.3.5.3. Compare and despair - Seeing only the good and positive aspects in others, and getting upset when comparing ourselves negatively against them.
7.3.5.3.1. Am I doing that ‘compare and despair’ thing? What would be a more balanced and helpful way of looking at it?
7.3.5.4. Critical self - Putting ourselves down, self- criticism, blaming ourselves for events or situations that are not (totally) our responsibility.
7.3.5.4.1. There I go, that internal bully’s at it again. Would most people who really know me say that about me? Is this something that I am totally responsible for?
7.3.5.5. Shoulds and musts - Thinking or saying ‘I should’ (or shouldn’t) and ‘I must’ puts pressure on ourselves, and sets up unrealistic expectations.
7.3.5.5.1. Am I putting more pressure on myself, setting up expectations of myself that are almost impossible? What would be more realistic?
7.3.5.6. Mind-Reading - Assuming we know what others are thinking (usually about us).
7.3.5.6.1. Am I assuming I know what others are thinking? What’s the evidence? Those are my own thoughts, not theirs. Is there another, more balanced way of looking at it?
7.3.5.7. Judgements - Making evaluations or judgements about events, ourselves, others, or the world, rather than describing what we actually see and have evidence for.
7.3.5.7.1. I’m making an evaluation about the situation or person. It’s how I make sense of the world, but that doesn’t mean my judgements are always right or helpful. Is there another perspective?
7.3.5.8. Emotional Reasoning - I feel bad so it must be bad! I feel anxious, so I must be in danger.
7.3.5.8.1. Just because it feels bad, doesn’t necessary mean it is bad. My feelings are just a reaction to my thoughts – and thoughts are just automatic brain reflexes.
7.3.5.9. Mountains and Molehills - Exaggerating the risk of danger, or the negatives. Minimising the odds of how things are most likely to turn out, or minimising positives.
7.3.5.9.1. Am I exaggerating the bad stuff? How would someone else see it? What’s the bigger picture?
7.3.5.10. Catastrophising - Imagining and believing that the worst possible thing will happen.
7.3.5.10.1. OK, thinking that the worst possible thing will definitely happen isn’t really helpful right now. What’s most likely to happen?
7.3.5.11. Black and white thinking - Believing that something or someone can be only good or bad, right or wrong, rather than anything in-between or ‘shades of grey’.
7.3.5.11.1. Things aren’t either totally white or totally black – there are shades of grey. Where is this on the spectrum?
7.3.5.12. Memories - Current situations and events can trigger upsetting memories, leading us to believe that the danger is here and now, rather than in the past, causing us distress right now.
7.3.5.12.1. This is just a reminder of the past. That was then, and this is now. Even though this memory makes me feel upset, it’s not actually happening again right now.
7.4. The Work
7.4.1. 1. Is it true? (Yes or no. If no, move to question 3.) 2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true? (Yes or no.) 3. How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought? 4. Who would you be without the thought
7.5. Targets
7.6. iCBT
7.6.1. Here's what happened:
7.6.2. I feel:
7.6.3. My negative thoughts are:
7.6.3.1. My thinking was:
7.6.3.1.1. My personal notes are:
7.6.3.2. My thought has these distortions:
7.6.3.3. My more rational thought is:
7.6.3.3.1. My more rational thoughts are:
7.6.4. I now feel: