WE

1. I

1.1. my full history as I know it

1.2. secrets

2. YOU

2.1. your full history as you know it

2.2. secrets

3. expectations

4. common communication space

5. growing trust

6. interests

6.1. common interests

6.2. individual interests

7. spiral of intimacy

8. tower of revelations

9. attractor set

9.1. topics

9.2. assurances

9.3. rituals

9.4. autopoietic dynamics

9.5. we conceive us as a we

9.6. we attractor

9.7. other "we's" supporting + competing

10. common history

10.1. crisis

10.2. trust

10.3. emotions

10.4. misunderstandings

10.5. distancing

10.6. undistancing

10.7. history of reciprocal conceptions

10.7.1. attraction

10.7.1.1. of capabiliteis

10.7.1.2. of virtues

10.7.1.3. of knowledge

10.7.1.4. of personality

10.7.1.5. of mind (dialogue)

10.7.1.6. of soul (understanding + acceptance)

10.7.2. symmetrical

10.7.2.1. friendship

10.7.3. asymmetrical

10.7.3.1. mentorship

10.7.3.2. teacher learner

10.8. expectation-expectations (Luhmann)

11. the space I allow you

12. the space you allow me

13. some playful associative brainstorming about the "fountain of we"