1. The Dream Sheet
2. 5 Practices for becoming an Exemplary Leader
2.1. Practice 1: Model the Way
2.1.1. Things I LEARNED about myself
2.1.1.1. 5 most important values (Talks about values and principles; LPI score: 5)
2.1.1.1.1. Spirituality and Faith
2.1.1.1.2. Family
2.1.1.1.3. Happiness
2.1.1.1.4. Learning
2.1.1.1.5. Success
2.1.1.2. Actions that align with my values (Sets personal example; LPI score: 3)
2.1.1.2.1. Need to improve on this
2.1.1.3. Legacy Day
2.1.1.4. Promises and commitments (Follows through on promises; LPI score:5)
2.1.1.4.1. Even though I marked a 5 on my student LPI, after doing this exercise in the workbook, I realized this needs improvement.
2.2. Practice 2: Inspire a Shared Vision
2.2.1. Things I LEARNED about myself
2.2.1.1. Vision for group in class. (Look ahead and communicate future; LPI score: 4)
2.2.1.1.1. "Growing together, and everyone completing and attend summer course."
2.2.1.1.2. Need to improve on this
2.2.1.2. What feels good when involved in meetings/projects (Upbeat and positive; LPI score: 4)
2.2.1.2.1. I learn more about myself. Coursework is less than other classes. But sometimes it is burdensome when my energy is drained from a full schedule.
2.2.1.3. Ultimate purpose of group (Communicate purpose and meaning; LPI score: 2)
2.2.1.3.1. Need to improve on this
2.3. Practice 3: Challenge the Process
2.3.1. Things I LEARNED about myself
2.3.1.1. 3 skills or abilities (Challenges skills and abilities; LPI score: 2)
2.3.1.1.1. I want to learn how to communicate effectively.
2.3.1.1.2. Find ways to motivate others into action.
2.3.1.1.3. I want to develop more confidence in my actions.
2.3.1.1.4. Need to improve
2.3.1.2. Improvements (Searches for innovative ways to improve; LPI score: 2)
2.3.1.2.1. Personality
2.3.1.2.2. Piling too much on plate
2.3.1.2.3. Need to improve
2.3.1.3. Actions that address challenge (Helps others try out new ideas; LPI score: 1)
2.3.1.3.1. Don't procastinate
2.3.1.3.2. Use a planner more consistently
2.3.1.3.3. Organize time
2.3.1.3.4. Need to improve
2.3.1.4. Things learned from experiences (Ask , "What can we learn?"; LPI score: 4)
2.3.1.4.1. Actions are learned
2.4. Practice 4: Enable Others to Act
2.4.1. Things I LEARNED about myself
2.4.1.1. How I treat others (Treat others with respect; LPI score: 4)
2.4.1.1.1. Respecting vs. Liking
2.4.1.2. Listening to others (Actively listens to diverse viewpoints; LPI score: 5)
2.4.1.2.1. Silent; all ears
2.4.1.2.2. 3 things to better listen and understand
2.4.1.2.3. Being a better listener will build trust. People will feel they have a voice in the group and feel important.
2.4.1.3. Giving people freedom to work (Gives people choice about how to do their work; LPI score: 5)
2.4.1.3.1. 8/10 Frequency of degree to which I let others have freedom to do their work
2.4.1.3.2. Actions to instill greater confidence in others
2.4.1.4. Relationships with others (Fosters cooperative relationships; LPI score: 5)
2.4.1.4.1. 8/10 degree of competitiveness with others
2.4.1.4.2. Good balance between cooperation and competition
2.4.1.4.3. Goals are need for a more cooperative environment
2.5. Practice 5: Encourage the Heart
2.5.1. Things I LEARNED about myself
2.5.1.1. Acknowledge someone (Encouraging others; LPI score: 4)
2.5.1.1.1. Words of encouragement
2.5.1.1.2. Giving person a little treat like chocolate
2.5.1.1.3. Giving thanks
2.5.1.1.4. Offer to help
2.5.1.1.5. Public praise; have gift basket delivered
2.5.1.1.6. 15 things to look for to recognize someone
2.5.1.2. Showing Appreciation (Expresses appreciation for people's contributions; LPI score: 5)
2.5.1.2.1. 5 things to show greater appreciation
2.5.1.3. Ways to Recognize Someone for a Contribution (Praises people; LPI score: 3)
2.5.1.3.1. 25 ways to recognize someone for a contribution
2.5.1.3.2. Actions to take: I am committed to develop ways to become creative when showing appreciation. I will try some of the examples listed.
3. Student LPI
3.1. Model the Way
3.1.1. Score: 22
3.2. Inspire a Shared Vision
3.2.1. Score: 16
3.3. Challenge the Process
3.3.1. Score: 16
3.4. Enable Others to Act
3.4.1. Score: 23
3.5. Encourage the Heart
3.5.1. Score: 19
4. Work History
4.1. United Discount Drug
4.1.1. 1902 N. Academy Guymon, OK 73942 (580)338-8421
4.1.1.1. Pharmacy Intern July 2014-Present
4.1.1.1.1. Answer phone calls from doctors, nurses, and patients
4.1.1.1.2. Input prescriptions in computer
4.1.1.1.3. Filled prescriptions
4.1.1.1.4. Counseled and translated for patients
4.1.1.1.5. Put order back on shelves
4.1.1.1.6. Worked movie counter
4.2. City National Bank and Trust Company
4.2.1. 601 N. Main Guymon, OK 73942 (580)338-6561
4.2.1.1. Bank Teller May 2011-January 2012
4.2.1.1.1. Performed customers transactions
4.2.1.1.2. Answered phone calls
4.2.1.1.3. Greeted customers
4.2.1.1.4. Worked drive thru
4.3. Sheilo's Mexican American Restaurant
4.3.1. Goodwell, OK 73939
4.3.1.1. Waitress January 2007- August 2010
4.3.1.1.1. Waited on people
4.3.1.1.2. Took orders for food and drinks
4.3.1.1.3. Refilled condiments
4.3.1.1.4. Cleaned, swept, and mopped area including bathrooms
5. Organization Involvment
5.1. Kappa Epsilon
5.1.1. Member Fall 2013-present
5.2. Tau Beta Sigma
5.2.1. Member Spring 2012-present
5.2.1.1. Historian Fall 2012-Spring 2013
5.2.1.2. President Spring 2015
6. 3 Parts to becoming an Emotionally Intelligent Leader
6.1. Part 1
6.1.1. Personal Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, Threats
6.1.1.1. Emotional Self-Perception
6.1.1.1.1. S: One way that I excel in this capacity is that I look at how I feel and act when I am in public.
6.1.1.1.2. W: I need to develop this when I argue with my siblings. I let my emotions control me and act immature.
6.1.1.1.3. O: There are times in my group where a certain officer does not complete several tasks. I can take advantage of this since it tends to happen a lot and set an example to other members.
6.1.1.1.4. T: My pride can get in the way in developing in this capacity. Whenever it comes to pride, I stop thinking and do not step down.
6.1.1.2. Emotional Self-Control
6.1.1.2.1. S: Since I am a quiet person, my emotions tend not to show as much.
6.1.1.2.2. W: I need to develop in ways to demonstrate my emotions appropriately.
6.1.1.2.3. O: School work and exams cause emotions to arise in students. I can take advantage of this situation and calm myself by studying ahead.
6.1.1.2.4. T: A major for this capacity is my shyness when it comes to demonstrating my emotions.
6.1.1.3. Authenticity
6.1.1.3.1. S: I strongly believe and live my values.
6.1.1.3.2. W: I need to keep my values straight. There are times where I tend to fluctuate them.
6.1.1.3.3. O: I am the president of a music sorority. This is a great opportunity to really focus on what I say and on my actions.
6.1.1.3.4. T: Having too much on my plate is a threat to this. I am occupied that I tend to forget on the things that I said.
6.1.1.4. Healthy Self-Esteem
6.1.1.4.1. S: I have confidence whenever to comes to things related to school and my faith.
6.1.1.4.2. W: I need to work on my confidence when I am in public.
6.1.1.4.3. O: I could take advantage that I study with a group of people. I need to start with a small group and slowly work on up.
6.1.1.4.4. T: My self-esteem tends to go down when I hear people talking bad about others. If they talk about others, that means when I am not present they could talk bad about me.
6.1.1.5. Flexibility
6.1.1.5.1. S: I love to ask for feedback, and I usually take it into account when to change.
6.1.1.5.2. W: It is hard for me to change things that have been set for a long time. It is difficult, and when it is changed I tend not to have a good attitude about it.
6.1.1.5.3. O: Being in a music sorority for about 4 years I see things that we do the same. Now that I am president, I have the opportunity to look at things and see if there are changes that could benefit the chapter.
6.1.1.5.4. T: Some things are hard to change, and if takes more effort than I want to give, I tend to not go with it.
6.1.1.6. Optimism
6.1.1.6.1. S: I always feel I have this thing about me. When things are bad, I always look at the positive.
6.1.1.6.2. W: Sometimes it is hard to share with others.
6.1.1.6.3. O: Share my positive thoughts especially with those that are close to me.
6.1.1.6.4. T: It gets tough for me to look at the positive when adversity after adversity happens.
6.1.1.7. Initiative
6.1.1.7.1. S: I am an independent person. I do not need someone to tell me to do something.
6.1.1.7.2. W: Even though I don't need someone to motivate me, I sometimes need someone to back me up.
6.1.1.7.3. O: In the organization that I am involved, there are certain projects that tend to not be the focus of the group.
6.1.1.7.4. T: With my schedule, I tend to get tired which causes to have no energy to get motivated.
6.1.1.8. Achievement
6.1.1.8.1. S: I strive for excellence everyday.
6.1.1.8.2. W: Sometimes striving for this can cause getting tired all the time and stress.
6.1.1.8.3. O: There is the opportunity to strive to learn as much as I can for each of the courses that I am taking.
6.1.1.8.4. T: Standards may be too high.
6.1.2. Sources of Stress
6.1.2.1. Work Overload
6.1.2.2. Anticipatory Stresssor
6.1.2.3. Lack of Control
6.1.2.4. It is important to be aware and name default reactions to stress because it stops us from reacting and allows to improve.
6.1.3. 3 Reactions to Stress
6.1.3.1. Aggression
6.1.3.1.1. This applies to me since I stress over work load. I aggressively work on completing my assignment one after another.
6.1.3.2. Repression
6.1.3.2.1. Does not apply to me. I let whatever is stressing me to stay in my mind 24/7.
6.1.3.3. Fixation
6.1.3.3.1. This applies to me. I focus on certain project/ exam that is stressing me until that is completed.
6.1.4. 3 Techniques for Managing Stress
6.1.4.1. Reactive Strategies
6.1.4.1.1. I do not do any actions that are reactive. I look to manage my stress in other ways.
6.1.4.2. Proactive Strategies
6.1.4.2.1. There are various things I do in this category
6.1.4.3. Enactive Strategies
6.1.4.3.1. This doesn't really apply to me. Instead of removing stressor, I tend to fix it or work around it.
6.1.5. Triggers
6.1.5.1. People
6.1.5.1.1. Siblings
6.1.5.1.2. Friends
6.1.5.1.3. Organizations
6.1.5.1.4. Reaction: I shut down or have a bad attitude towards each.
6.1.5.2. Places
6.1.5.2.1. School
6.1.5.2.2. Reaction: I focus on being productive
6.1.5.3. Events
6.1.5.3.1. Family parties
6.1.5.3.2. Reaction: I leave after a few hours of being there
6.1.5.4. Behaviors
6.1.5.4.1. Lack of dedication
6.1.5.4.2. Reaction: show frustration towards person
6.1.5.5. Situations
6.1.5.5.1. When house is dirty and my siblings are fighting on who gets to clean it
6.1.5.5.2. Reaction: I usually give in and clean the house or I leave the house for long periods
6.1.6. Flexibility
6.1.6.1. Mind set
6.1.6.1.1. To further develop, I can have a more open mindset. I could also contribute to giving new ideas in group projects
6.1.6.2. Skill set
6.1.6.2.1. To further develop, I will make goals every week to examine things. Then I will make plans and follow actions accordingly.
6.2. Part 2
6.2.1. Empathy
6.2.1.1. From this activity I learned that empathy is an important quality to have as a leader.
6.2.1.2. To work on this, one must put his or herself in other people's shoes especially during conflict.
6.2.2. Getting to Why
6.2.2.1. In order for an organization to be successful 3 things must be defined.
6.2.2.1.1. Why- Why they are doing what they do, it is the purpose, cause, and belief
6.2.2.1.2. How- How they do it.
6.2.2.1.3. What- What they do.
6.2.3. Mission Statements
6.2.3.1. One way to know what an organization does is through mission statements
6.2.4. Vision Statements
6.2.4.1. This describes the purpose
6.2.5. Setting Goals
6.2.5.1. Skills, talents, and/ or abilities to improve leadership capacity
6.2.5.1.1. Confidence
6.2.5.1.2. Communication
6.2.5.2. SMART GOALS- Specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, time bound.
6.2.5.2.1. A goal to improve my skills that falls under this category is preparing with plenty of time to present projects planned out in class this semester.
6.2.5.3. Stretch GOALS- will make a significant difference but not sure how you will accomplish them
6.2.5.3.1. This semester is almost to its end, and Kappa Epsilon is soon having their officer elections. I will run for a leadership position for next semester.
6.2.6. Resistance
6.2.6.1. How I respond to change depends on what the change is. There are 3 levels of resistance.
6.2.6.1.1. LEVEL 1: I don't get it.
6.2.6.1.2. LEVEL 2: I don't like it.
6.2.6.1.3. LEVEL 3: I don't like you.
6.3. Part 3
6.3.1. Observing different elements of an organization's culture
6.3.1.1. Symbolic Elements
6.3.1.1.1. Something of value that all can see or know
6.3.1.2. Role Elements
6.3.1.2.1. Individuals who are either heroes or villains
6.3.1.3. Interactive Elements
6.3.1.3.1. Shared rituals and accepted behaviors
6.3.1.4. Context Elements
6.3.1.4.1. History of campus
7. Emotional Intelligence Assessment
7.1. Consciousness of self
7.1.1. Emotional Self-Perception
7.1.1.1. Score: 19
7.1.2. Emotional Self-Control
7.1.2.1. Score: 13
7.1.3. Authenticity
7.1.3.1. Score: 14
7.1.4. Healthy Self-Esteem
7.1.4.1. Score: 16
7.1.5. Flexibility
7.1.5.1. Score: 14
7.1.6. Optimism
7.1.6.1. Score: 17
7.1.7. Initiative
7.1.7.1. Score: 14
7.1.8. Achievement
7.1.8.1. Score: 21
7.2. Consciousness of others
7.2.1. Displaying Empathy
7.2.1.1. Score: 16
7.2.2. Inspiring Others
7.2.2.1. Score: 16
7.2.3. Coaching Others
7.2.3.1. Score: 11
7.2.4. Capitalizing on Difference
7.2.4.1. Score: 14
7.2.5. Developing Relationships
7.2.5.1. Score: 16
7.2.6. Building Teams
7.2.6.1. Score: 16
7.2.7. Demonstrating Citizenship
7.2.7.1. Score: 14
7.2.8. Managing Conflict
7.2.8.1. Score: 14
7.2.9. Facilitating Change
7.2.9.1. Score: 12
7.3. Consciousness of Context
7.3.1. Analyzing the Group
7.3.1.1. Score: 15
7.3.2. Assessing the Environment
7.3.2.1. Score: 16
8. Beyond Change Management
8.1. A Call for Conscious Change Leaders
8.1.1. In order to achieve breakthrough results from change, there are 3 areas to focus on
8.1.1.1. Content
8.1.1.2. People
8.1.1.3. Process
8.1.2. Organizations have to look at all drivers of change. Most important ones are culture, behavior, and mindset
8.1.3. Leaders need to achieve transformational change. In order to achieve that, the following are essential. These are the ones I have to improve on by looking at my past leadership experience.
8.1.3.1. Looking at error and improving.
8.1.3.2. Healing the past
8.1.3.3. Communication
8.1.3.4. Active listening
8.1.3.5. Trust
8.1.4. Many times we are in autopilot. We do things without being aware and not thinking about things. I realize I do this often.
8.1.4.1. To improve, I plan on writing and planning things ahead of time. I do not want to go through motions without thinking about it. I also believe reflecting after will help.
8.1.4.2. Wake up calls are also important, but it vital to wake up to calls before it is too late.
8.1.4.2.1. My example for this is my brother. He kept getting the call that being overweight is not good from my parents. Step 2 was when he and I would go for runs he could not keep up. The 3rd was the military recruiter telling him that he needs to lose weight in order to be considered for recruitment. That was his wake up call to change for the better. Now he eats healthy and maintains a very active life.
8.1.5. Another things leaders need to consider is having a plan (agenda) to achieve this.
8.1.5.1. This increases the speed and decreases the cost of change.
8.1.5.1.1. My action for this is to plan ahead/ make goals before the semester starts on what I want to achieve.
8.2. People Dynamics
8.2.1. Ego
8.2.1.1. This is the biggest thing that gets in our way of truly being ourselves. I can relate to this.
8.2.1.1.1. We use our fear to protect us.
8.2.1.1.2. This results in extreme dedication.
8.2.1.1.3. Ego looks at our external reasons why things are not going well.
8.2.1.2. To help avoid ego getting in our way, we have to look at our being (self of pure awareness).
8.2.2. Mindset
8.2.2.1. I relate this word to walking the talk. It is looking at if I act how I say I act. I need to attend and manage my self then others.
8.2.3. Culture
8.2.3.1. There are numerous things that influence culture. It is vital to have a culture that is constructive. This relates to:
8.2.3.1.1. Achievement
8.2.3.1.2. Self-Actualizing
8.2.3.1.3. Humanistic encouraging
8.2.3.1.4. Affiliative