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10 Things to give up if you want to succeed be successful
by Absorb FM 03/07/2018
10 Things to give up if you want to succeed be successful
by Absorb FM
1. 4. Fear of Failure
1.1. Fear by itself is not bad
2. 5. Playing Small
2.1. 10x Rule
3. 10. Mental Weakness
3.1. I am not going to mince words here - I am not going to sugarcoat anything
3.2. The reason you are not succeeding is because you are operating like a mental weakling
3.2.1. The obstacles are stopping you!
3.2.2. The pressure is deflating you
3.2.3. The fear is stopping you
3.2.4. You are allowing anxiety to stop you
3.2.5. You are allowing nervousness to trick you into inaction
3.2.6. The obstacles are overwhelming you
3.3. There - I said it.
3.3.1. I don't want to mince words here.
3.4. Let me ask you this - What is the difference between a candle and a Forest fire?
3.4.1. A candle is blown out in face of a very mild wind
3.4.2. But a Forest fire .... IT is inflamed in face of winds
3.4.2.1. In fact, the stronger the winds, the stronger the fire gets
3.4.3. You have to choose to be a forest fire not a candle
3.4.3.1. Become a forest fire my friend. Become a forest fire
3.5. Grit
3.5.1. Dr Angela Duckworth
3.5.2. Research
3.5.2.1. Westpoint academy
3.5.2.1.1. Elite military academy in the world
3.5.2.1.2. What makes cadets succeed or fail?
3.6. Meditations
3.6.1. Marcus Aurelius: "The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way."
3.6.2. Obstacles are here to help you become stronger
3.6.3. Obstacles are here to help you get ahead
3.6.4. They become the fuel to your fire
3.6.4.1. But you have to WORK
3.6.4.2. Become a forest fire... not a candle
3.7. You are probably wondering - Well how do I become mentally tougher?
3.7.1. It is possible to become mentally indestructible.... there are strategies to do exactly that.
3.7.1.1. You don't have strategies
3.7.1.2. The problem is that .... You don't have the mental tools to become mentally tougher
3.7.1.2.1. Go find them
3.7.1.2.2. Download my 10 Point mental toughness checklist - 10 strategies to handle any life challenge.
4. 7. Being Reactive
4.1. 7 Habits of highly effective people
5. Books Referred
5.1. Sam Walton
5.2. Elon Musk
5.3. 10x Rule
5.4. Michael Phelps
5.5. Michael Jordan
5.6. Feel the fear
5.7. Resilience
5.8. Grit
5.9. Compound Effect
5.10. Never Eat Alone
5.11. Magic of Thinking Big
5.12. Think and Grow Rich
5.13. Outwitting the Devil Within
5.14. Mindset
5.15. On the shortness of life
5.16. Feeling Good
5.17. Be obsessed or be average
5.18. How to be rich
6. Your comfort zone
6.1. Feel the fear and do it anyways
6.2. You must give up your comfort zone
6.3. Stop playing safe
7. 9. Your present Identity
7.1. Tony Robbins
7.1.1. The most powerful force in human nature is our identity
7.1.2. We stay consistent with our identity
7.1.2.1. Whether that is good or bad is up to you
7.1.3. Our results are always consistent with
7.1.3.1. Who we think we are in that pursuit
7.1.3.1.1. Winner
7.1.3.1.2. Loser
7.1.3.1.3. Millionaire
7.1.3.1.4. Billionaire
7.1.3.1.5. Broke
7.1.4. So whatever it is you want to succeed at
7.1.4.1. what is your identity in that area?
7.1.4.1.1. Do you see yourself as a winner?
7.1.4.1.2. Do you see yourself struggling with it?
7.2. Resilience - Navy Seal Eric Grietens
7.2.1. 99% people are run by feelings
7.2.1.1. Feelings -> Action -> Identity
7.2.2. We must
7.2.2.1. Identity -> Action -> Feelings
7.2.3. We must define who we want to become
7.2.4. That will define the actions for us
7.2.5. That will define our feelings
7.2.6. Ancient greeks
7.2.6.1. Actors used to put on the mask
7.2.6.2. Over time they became that character
7.3. Psycho cybernetics - one of the greatest self help classics by a plastic surgeon
7.3.1. Our self image defines the limits of what we will accomplish in our lives
7.3.2. You may set big goals
7.3.2.1. If your self image does not believe it is possible
7.3.2.2. You will keep failing at it
7.3.3. So it is imperative to change your self image - your identity
7.3.4. Redefine your self identity
7.3.4.1. I am a winner
7.3.4.2. I am successful
7.3.4.3. Act as if
7.3.4.3.1. Feel as if
7.4. Total Recall - Arnold
7.4.1. Don't think about what you need to do
7.4.2. Instead think of who you want to become
7.4.3. And you will figure out what to do as a result of it
7.5. Think and Grow Rich
7.5.1. Acting as if
7.5.2. How would you act if you had already accomplished the goal
7.5.3. Who would you be?
7.5.4. Do that right now
7.5.4.1. Dont wait till the goal is accomplished to be that person. Act as if TODAY
8. 2. Negative People, Cynical people and people who have no ambition
8.1. Jim Rohn
8.1.1. We are the average of the 5 people
8.1.1.1. In every area of life
8.1.1.1.1. Health
8.1.1.1.2. Wealth
8.1.1.1.3. Relationships
8.1.2. Take a hard look
8.2. Compound Effect
8.2.1. Darren Hardy
8.2.2. The subtle effect of influences
8.2.2.1. Initially - too hard to notice
8.2.2.2. Over time - too hard to break those influences
8.3. Never Eat Alone
8.3.1. Learn how to
8.3.1.1. Connect with good people
8.3.1.2. Build networks
8.3.1.3. Inner game and how to implement it.
8.3.2. Towards the end of the video I will give you an ACTION checklist - simple guide you can implement tomorrow.
9. 1. Your Excuses
9.1. 1.
10. 1. Indecision
10.1. 1. Think and Grow Rich
10.1.1. The biggest cause of failure = Indecision
10.1.2. Decide what you want
10.1.3. GO after it with all you've got
10.1.4. You don't need the perfect plan
10.1.4.1. But you do need to decide
10.1.4.2. Plans will evolve over time
10.1.5. The key to success is
10.1.5.1. Definiteness of purpose
10.1.5.1.1. What you want
10.1.5.2. Not definiteness of plans
10.1.6. Successful people
10.1.6.1. Reach decisions quickly
10.1.6.2. Change them slowly
10.2. 2. Outwitting the Devil Within
10.2.1. The biggest reason why people surrender to the devil within
10.2.1.1. DRIFTING
10.2.1.2. They find no success
10.2.2. Drifting
10.2.2.1. No aims
10.2.2.2. No specific goals
10.2.2.3. Inability to make decisions on the course of life you desire
11. 6. Notion that SUCCESS will be easy for you because you have talent, skills, smarts or intelligence
11.1. Undefeated Mind
11.1.1. Dr Alex Lickerman
11.1.2. Want to accomplish great things?
11.1.3. Tell yourself
11.1.3.1. It is going to be 10x harder
11.1.3.2. Than what you think it is going to be
11.2. Going through hardships is part of the journey - no matter how talented you are
11.2.1. Elon Musk
11.2.1.1. It has not been an easy journey at all
11.2.1.2. He was very close to bankruptcy in 2008
11.2.1.2.1. Almost about to loose Tesla and Space X
11.2.2. Michael Jordan
11.2.2.1. Greatest basketball player ever
11.2.2.2. "I can't accept not trying"
11.2.2.3. Was cut from his high school basketball team
11.3. Mindset
11.3.1. Dr Carol Dweck
11.3.2. Fixed Mindset
11.3.2.1. You can accomplish something because you have talent or skills in that area
11.3.2.2. You don't need to work hard
11.3.2.3. Effort is bad - because you are gifted
11.3.3. Growth Mindset
11.3.3.1. No matter how much talent or skill I have - I will have to work hard and constantly grow myself.
11.3.3.2. That is the path to success
11.3.3.3. Effort is good
11.3.4. Fixed
11.3.4.1. It will be easy or
11.3.4.1.1. I should do something else
11.3.5. Growth
11.3.5.1. It will be hard
11.3.5.1.1. But I can handle it
11.3.5.1.2. I can grow and get better
11.4. Give up the notion that it will be easy
11.4.1. Embrace the idea that it will be HARD work
11.4.2. It will be very tough
11.4.3. It will be gut wrenching
11.4.4. It will take more hard work than you ever imagined
11.5. Paradox
11.5.1. Once you know it is going to be HARD
11.5.1.1. It becomes easy
11.5.2. Because once you accept that
11.5.2.1. You don't fight the struggle
11.5.2.2. You keep going
11.5.2.3. You go through the tough times
11.5.2.4. Because you expect them
11.6. Tony Robbins Seminar
11.6.1. The biggest problem you have is that you think you should not have problems
11.6.2. The size of your life is directly proportional to the size of the problems you can handle in life.
12. Thinking that You don't have what it takes to be successful
12.1. This is insidious
12.2. This is a cop-out
12.2.1. You are just deceiving yourself
12.3. It's not that you don't have what it takes
12.3.1. It's that you are not working what you have
12.3.2. You are not taking action
12.4. If you can watch this video - you have what it takes
12.5. You don't need more talent or smarts
12.5.1. You can grow yourself
12.6. But what you don't have is the courage to ACT
12.6.1. Courage to try
12.6.2. Courage to fail
12.7. You are just playing scared in life
12.8. You have everything
12.8.1. What is missing is massive, insane, herculean, consistent hard work
12.9. MINDSET
12.9.1. carol dweck
12.9.2. Growth Mindset
12.9.3. Fixed Mindset
13. 3. Amateur Ways
13.1. Turning Pro
13.1.1. Want greatness?
13.1.1.1. Give up your amateur ways
13.1.1.2. Become a PRO
13.1.2. Difference between Amateur and Pro
13.1.2.1. Their Habits
13.1.2.2. Amateurs =
13.1.2.2.1. amateur habits
13.1.2.3. Pros=
13.1.2.3.1. Pro Habits
13.1.3. What do Pros do?
13.1.3.1. No matter what is happening, they put in the hard work. They do what is necessary
13.1.4. You are hurt?
13.1.4.1. You still play
13.1.5. You are tired?
13.1.5.1. You play
13.1.6. You are not ready
13.1.6.1. You play
13.2. Elon Musk Biography
13.2.1. I work 100+ hours a week
13.2.2. If you work 50 hours a week, I will accomplish in 1 yr what you will in 2 years.
13.2.3. By sheer hard work, I will beat you
13.2.4. When he started his first startup
13.2.4.1. Didnt even rent an apartment
13.2.4.2. Used to sleep under his desk at office
13.2.4.3. Worked hard all day
13.3. Sam Walton
13.3.1. Made in America
13.3.2. Even after he was a billionaire
13.3.2.1. 16 hours a day, 7 days a week
13.3.2.2. Used to show up to work at 2:30 AM on Saturday mornings
13.4. Michael Phelps
13.4.1. Biography - "No Limits - The Will to succeed"
13.4.2. 1998-203
13.4.2.1. 5 years
13.4.2.1.1. Practiced every single day
13.4.2.2. Only 3 days off from practice
13.4.2.3. Prom
13.4.2.4. Snowstorm
13.4.2.5. Wisdom Tooth removal
13.5. Ask yourself
13.5.1. How pro are you?
13.5.2. How pro are your Work habits?
13.5.3. How pro are your habits in the area you want to succeed in?
14. 1. Blaming your circumstances
14.1. 1. Magic of thinking Big
14.1.1. 1. Napoleon Hill: Attack, I say attack. I make circumstance
15. 4. Low Standards
15.1. Tony Robbins
15.1.1. If you want to succeed, raise your standards.
15.1.2. We all meet our standards
15.1.2.1. Whether High or LOW
15.1.3. In every area of life
15.1.3.1. Health
15.1.3.2. Wealth
15.1.3.3. Relationships
15.1.4. Low standard
15.1.4.1. Mediocrity
15.2. 3. When we raise our standards, when we raise the bar for ourselves, we always find the way to meet that bar.
15.2.1. 4. But until we raise our standards we continue to suffer in mediocrity
15.3. Think and Grow Rich
15.3.1. Burn the boats
15.3.2. Raise your standards to the point that you have basically said.... I will never accept that lower standard.
15.4. 1. 10x Rule
15.4.1. You must think 10x bigger
15.4.2. Not just 2x or 3x
15.4.2.1. But 10x bigger
15.4.3. 10x goals
15.4.3.1. Small goals do not inspire
15.4.3.1.1. Small goals do not get us to want to take massive action
15.4.3.2. 10x problems
15.4.3.2.1. 10x challenges
15.5. Magic of Thinking Big
15.5.1. Think Bigger every day
15.5.2. The greatest human weakness is selling oneself short
15.5.3. The price tag the world puts on us is the same as what we put on ourselves
15.5.4. Your standards are like a thermostat for your achievement
15.5.4.1. If your standards are low
15.5.4.1.1. You get them
15.5.4.2. If your standards are high
15.5.4.2.1. You get them
15.5.5. Size of your life = size of your thinking
15.5.5.1. Think big goals
15.5.5.1.1. Win big
15.5.5.2. Think small goals
15.5.5.2.1. Win small
15.5.5.3. Choice is yours
15.5.5.4. Big thinking and big plans are not any more difficult than small thinking and small plans. In fact they can actually be easier because you can enroll the power of others
15.6. Becoming Unreasonable in life
15.6.1. Demand it from life
16. 7. Slavery to your feelings
16.1. 99% of people are slaves to their feelings
16.1.1. They dont harness the power of their feelings and emotions
16.1.2. Instead they allow their feelings to run their lives
16.2. You have to stop being a slave to your feelings
16.2.1. You are fearful
16.2.2. You feel tired?
16.2.3. You feel overwhelmed
16.2.4. You feel scared, nervous, anxious?
16.3. You can do that
16.4. You don't become numb to your feelings
16.4.1. You learn how to harness the power of your feelings to your advantage.
16.4.2. Good or bad
16.4.2.1. You can harness the power inherent in those feelings to your advantage
16.5. 7 Habits of highly effective people
16.5.1. Habit #1 - To be proactive
16.5.1.1. To act in alignment with our values - not our feelings
16.5.1.2. Motivation is a feeling
16.5.1.2.1. Dont depend on it
16.5.1.3. Fear is a feeling
16.5.1.3.1. Don't surrender to it
16.5.1.4. Anxiety and nervousness
16.5.1.4.1. Don't let them stop you
16.5.1.5. Not feeling like working hard
16.5.1.5.1. Just a feeling
16.5.2. Learn to ACT - no matter how you feel
16.6. Feeling Good - Dr Burns
16.6.1. Cognitive behavioral therapy
16.6.2. No matter how you are feeling
16.6.2.1. They all started with a thought
16.6.2.2. Change your thoughts and you can change your feelings
16.6.2.3. Change what you are thinking
16.7. Feel the fear and do it anyways
16.7.1. You may feel fear
16.7.2. Buy you must take action any ways
16.7.3. You feel it.... you don't surrender to it
16.7.4. Courage is not the absence of fear
16.7.5. It is "Taking ACTION" in face of fear
16.8. A lot of people wait around for that feeling of motivation or inspiration
16.8.1. 1. A really bad strategy for success.
16.8.1.1. Motivation never falls in your lap
16.8.2. 2. Progress is the best motivator
16.8.2.1. 3. Action is the best way to create progress
16.8.2.2. Action creates confidence
16.8.3. Motivation is not a strategy
16.8.3.1. It is a feeling
16.8.3.2. We can not be at the mercy of our feelings
16.8.4. We must act no matter how we feel
17. 5.Dreaming, Hoping and Wishing
17.1. You need a Burning Desire
17.1.1. An obsession
17.1.2. Anything else will not work
17.2. 2. Wishing and Hoping
17.2.1. Tony Robbins
17.2.1.1. Hope is the battle cry of the WIMP - Tony Robbins
17.2.2. 2. Stop Wishing. Stop Hoping.
17.2.2.1. 1. Decide that you have to be successful. Decide that it must happen
17.2.3. 3. When you want success as bad as you want to breathe then you will be successful
17.3. Think and Grow Rich
17.3.1. There is a reason why it is the 1st chapter in the greatest self help books of all time
17.3.1.1. It is the 1st step towards all great achievements
17.3.2. Here is what he said in the book:
17.3.2.1. "A burning desire to be, and to do is the starting point from which the dreamer must take off. Dreams are not born of indifference, laziness, or lack of ambition."
17.3.3. One of the most important keys to success is a burning desire
17.3.3.1. Not an ordinary desire
17.3.3.2. Not hope or wish
17.3.4. Why do we need a burning desire?
17.3.4.1. Because ordinary desires do not enroll the immense power of our sub-conscious mind
17.3.4.2. We need to harness the power of SCM in order to do great things
17.3.4.3. We need to burn with that desire
17.3.5. Your sub-conscious mind needs to be charged up with that burning desire
17.3.5.1. To the point that nothing matters
17.4. Be Obsessed or be average - Grant Cardone
17.4.1. The title of the book is an absolute truth
17.4.2. Great Success requires a crazy obsession
17.4.3. Otherwise we are mired in mediocrity
17.4.4. If you are not accomplishing big goals
17.4.4.1. You are obsessed about the wrong things.
17.5. How to be Rich - Felix Dennis
17.5.1. Compulsion is very different from desire. A person with compulsion says, “I will do whatever it takes to get to this goal. I will do whatever it takes to get to this dream, to this destination that I'm after.” Compulsion is much more intense than just a regular desire.
17.5.2. Most people have hopes and wishes and dreams
17.5.2.1. But you need compulsion
18. 8. Waiting for the perfect opportunity
19. 9. Perfectionism
19.1. 1. Its actually just fear that’s masked as perfectionism
19.2. How to be an imperfectionist
20. 8. Sense of complacency
20.1. 7. Waiting for the PERFECT time to take action
20.1.1. 1. Now is the only time you have
20.2. 4. The idea that Somehow, Someday it will all work out
20.2.1. 1. It will not happen
20.2.1.1. Dreams don't just come true
20.2.2. Insidious Notion
20.2.2.1. Someday
20.2.2.2. One day
20.2.3. Someday never comes, my friend
20.2.4. You succeed because you gave it everything
20.2.4.1. Not because it just happened
20.2.5. 10x Rule
20.2.5.1. Success is your duty
20.2.5.2. Success is your responsibility
20.2.5.3. You have to pursue success
20.2.5.4. You have to go after it
20.2.6. Be Obsessed or be average
20.2.6.1. You have to obsess about it
20.2.6.2. If you are not obsessing about it
20.2.6.2.1. You are getting mediocre results
20.2.6.3. You have to pursue success relentlessly
20.2.6.4. Be Obsessed or be average
20.2.6.4.1. Commit now - Figure it out later
20.2.6.4.2. Create a sense of urgency in your life
20.2.7. Give up that entitlement mentality
20.2.7.1. You are smart, intelligent etc
20.3. Develop a maniacal sense of URGENCY
20.3.1. NOW
20.3.2. FAST
20.4. You feel that you have all the time in the world
20.5. Every day, we are moving one day closer to death
20.6. Seneca said in the book "On the shortness of life":
20.6.1. We act like mortals in face of all that we fear and
20.6.2. We act like immortals in face of all that we desire
20.6.3. We have to invert that
20.6.4. What happens when we act like immmortals in face of all that we desire?
20.6.4.1. We feel we have infinite time
20.6.4.2. We become compacent
20.6.5. We must act like mortals in face of all that we desire
20.6.5.1. We dont have enough time
20.6.5.2. Time is running out
20.6.5.3. We need a sense of urgency
20.6.6. What happens when we act mortal in face of all that we fear?
20.6.6.1. We don't attack our fears
20.6.6.2. We don't try to conquer them
20.6.6.3. We don't expand our comfort zones.
20.6.7. We have to act like we are immortals in face of all that we fear
20.6.7.1. So we take action in face of fear
20.6.7.2. So that we courageously move forward without fearing the repurcussions
20.7. We must develop this insane sense of URGENCY
20.7.1. SPEED
20.7.2. Do it NOW
20.7.3. DOn't wait
20.7.4. Dont second guess
20.7.4.1. Time is running out
20.8. Magic of Thinking Big
20.8.1. We must develop the attacking mindset
20.8.2. Action and Attack are very underrated.
20.8.3. Action precedes action
20.8.4. "NOW" is the magic word for success
20.8.5. Tomorrow, sometime, later etc are the synonyms of NEVER - and that leads to failure
20.8.6. Dont wait. Attack NOW
21. Count down ideas 10 to 1
21.1. 1 is mental weakness
21.2. 10 is indecision
21.3. Number Audio to modify
21.3.1. 1. The first thing you have to give up
21.3.1.1. Coming up at number 10 is
21.3.2. 2. is good
21.3.3. 3. So the 3rd thing
21.3.3.1. Instead of 3rd - make it the NEXT
21.3.4. 4. Is good
21.3.5. 5. is good
21.3.6. 6. Is good
21.3.7. 7. is good
21.3.8. 8. is good
21.3.9. 9. is good
21.3.10. 10.
21.3.10.1. The most important thing
