The Six Forces That Fuel Friendship by Julie Beck

1. 4. Ritual

1.1. Rituals are traditions that fuel a friendship and give it a shared culture.

2. 5. Imagination

2.1. In a world where friendship often defaults to the sidelines, imagining the function of a friendship is important.

2.1.1. Ex: friends who bought a house together, who went to therapy together, who raised children together.

2.1.2. A friendship can be whatever you want it to be.

3. 6. Grace

3.1. Forgiveness that we offer each other when we fall short.

3.2. Allowing for space that creates connection and reconnection (after period of absences) which is nothing short of a miracle.

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5. 1. Accumulation

5.1. Time spent together is the simplest form of forming and sustaining a friendship.

5.2. Study: It takes 40 - 60 hours together in the first 6 weeks to turn an acquantainace into a casual friend AND 80 - 100 hours to become more than casual friends.

6. 2. Attention

6.1. Connection can happen anywhere anytime.

6.1.1. Paying attention to when these connection clicks.

7. 3. Intention

7.1. Intentionality on forging friendships is the next step.

7.2. It's like a courtship which requires energy and thought

7.2.1. but it has to be joyful.