SELF DECEPTION

1. Self Deception

1.1. determines ones experience

1.2. we are never the problem

1.3. excuse for every problem that places the blame on others or things out of our control

1.4. Blind to your own problems

1.5. resist suggestion that you are the problem

1.6. blinds us to the true causes of the problem

2. How we get in the box

2.1. Self Betrayal: acting against what you feel you should do

2.2. Having a sense to do something for others but not doing it.

2.3. When you betray yourself you start to see the world in a way that justifies your self betrayal

2.4. Maximizing someone else's faults and minimizing your own

2.5. Viewing the world as self justifying makes reality distorted

2.6. Self betrayal leads to being in the box

3. excuse for every problem that places the blame on others or things out of our control

4. In and out of the box

4.1. In the box: see people as objects

4.2. In the box means doing the 'right' thing the 'wrong' way at times

4.3. Out of the Box: see people as people

4.4. Out of the box gets more desirable results in leadership

4.5. 'being in the box'

4.6. Not what you do or say but how you do or say it.

4.7. Has a major influence on others as to being in or out of the box

5. Getting out of the box

5.1. Starting to see people as people

5.2. Regretting what you had done or not done

5.3. Regretting the self deception

5.4. Wanting to change for someone starts the change of being out of the box

5.5. Stop resisting others