1. Dysfunctional family
1.1. Degree of secrecy
1.1.1. Inability to talk about problems
1.1.2. Experiences
1.1.3. Needs
1.1.4. Wants
1.1.5. Feelings
1.2. Members think they must play rigid roles
1.3. Lack of communication
1.3.1. WE DON'T TALK ABOUT THOSE THINGS!
1.4. We learn not to believe in ourselves
1.5. Member usually sseking for approval
2. Definition of Love
2.1. EROS
2.1.1. Passion
2.1.2. Obsession
2.1.3. Suffering
2.1.4. Pain
2.1.5. Anxiety
2.1.6. Mystery
2.1.7. Drama
2.2. AGAPE
2.2.1. Care
2.2.2. Commitment
2.2.3. Basic values
2.2.4. Understading
2.2.5. Trust
2.2.6. Respect
2.2.7. Support
2.2.8. Comfort
3. Attraction
3.1. People are attracted to
3.1.1. Other people who replicate childhood experiences
3.2. People are not attracted to
3.2.1. Healthy people
3.2.2. Kind, stable, reliable people
4. Codependent
4.1. People who grew up in emotional dysfunctional families
4.2. Development of unhealthy ways of relating to others
4.2.1. Find needy people, with some sort of emotional problems
4.3. People who take on roles they are not supposed to
5. Sexual response
6. Hungry people, make poor shoopers
7. Human behavior
7.1. Women
7.1.1. Caregivers
7.1.2. Love others
7.1.3. Obsessions
7.1.3.1. Relationships
7.1.3.2. Sugary foods
7.1.3.3. Self sabotage
7.1.3.4. Alcohol
7.2. Men
7.2.1. Caretakers and providers
7.2.2. Anger, destructive behavior
7.2.3. Obsessions
7.2.3.1. Work
7.2.3.2. Sports
7.2.3.3. Hobbies
7.2.3.4. Sex
8. Abandonment
8.1. Literal
8.2. Emotional
9. Love relationships
9.1. Affected by childhood experiences
9.2. Common feelings
9.2.1. Wait
9.2.2. Hope
9.2.3. Guilt
9.2.4. Shame
9.2.5. Depression
9.2.6. Low self-steem