1. Not Taking a Stand for What's Right
1.1. Remaining silent when you witness abuses
1.2. Not encouraging people to express their differing views
2. Only taking action in a group, not as an individual
3. Achievement
3.1. Lack of effort
3.1.1. Expecting you are entitled to what you want
3.1.2. Wanting results without putting in effort (work, relationships)
3.1.3. Acting like you don't care
3.1.4. Disregarding others achievements
3.2. Jealousy
3.2.1. Coveting someone else's life
3.2.2. Talking poorly about those who have more than you
3.2.3. Eager for other peoples’ collapse or demise
3.2.4. Bragging that you are more in finance and career than you are
3.2.5. Bragging that your relationship is more than what it is
3.3. Sabatage
3.3.1. Not giving good efforts consistently
3.3.2. Not trying because you already see failure
3.3.3. Deliberately making someone else look bad
3.3.4. Doing something to ruin your own opportunity (low self-worth related)
4. Belonging
4.1. Treatment to Others
4.1.1. Bullying
4.1.2. Harassing
4.1.3. Condescending
4.1.4. Lying and false praise
4.1.5. Shifting your needs to an expectation for someone else to fulfill
4.2. Treatment to Self
4.2.1. Hurt yourself mentally and physically
4.2.2. Change diet to fit into a certain group
4.2.3. Not be authentic to self to belong somewhere else
4.2.4. Afraid to show your genuine self
4.2.5. Lying to emulate others’ expectations of you
5. Competitiveness
5.1. Dirty Moves
5.1.1. Cheating to win
5.1.2. Drawing attention to others wrongdoings
5.1.3. Sabotaging others
5.2. Self-Centeredness
5.2.1. Control freak
5.2.2. Always making sure you’re in the spotlight
5.2.3. Taking all the credit
5.2.4. Not inviting others in to opportunities (sports, work, self-growth, etc.)
5.3. Deceitfulness
5.3.1. False caring for personal gain
5.3.2. Misrepresentation of information
5.3.3. Deliberate actions to harm another
6. Conviction
6.1. Poor Moral Compass
6.1.1. Don’t stick to what you stand for
6.1.2. Make choices based on emotions, not considering after effects
6.1.3. Acting like you don’t care just to hide how much you do care
6.2. Not Adhering to Values
6.2.1. Taking actions contrary to what you really want
6.2.2. Letting fear dictate your choices
6.2.3. Giving others passes with topics that are high value to you
6.3. My Way or the Highway Attitude
6.3.1. Leaving no room for compromise with peers
6.3.2. Leaving no room for discussion with family
6.3.3. Humiliating and degrading those who feel differently than you
7. Courage
7.1. Guilt Over Flee Instinct
7.1.1. Knowing you’ve walked away when you should have stayed
7.1.2. Remaining quiet when you feared the results of speaking your truth
8. Dependency
8.1. Addictions
8.1.1. Drugs
8.1.2. Alcoho
8.1.3. Food
8.2. On Others
8.2.1. Putting up with bad treatment out of fear
8.2.2. Allowing yourself to be manipulated
8.2.3. Desperation to please others
9. Endurance
9.1. Quit Easily
9.1.1. At goals
9.1.2. In relationships
9.1.3. At jobs due to lack of satisfaction
9.2. Poor Health Choices
9.2.1. Eating or drinking foods that make you ill
9.2.2. Turning your back to hard work to make good changes
9.2.3. Finding comfort in unhealthy things
9.3. Flight Instinct
9.3.1. Hurt them before they hurt you in a relationship
9.3.2. Expect your “doom’s day” to come
9.3.3. Have a fight and then take flight
9.3.4. Growing angry with others for addressing their emotions
9.3.5. Diverting situations to cast blame to others
10. Envy
10.1. Casting Blame
10.1.1. Using “if only I’d…” as an excuse
10.1.2. Saying others made you fail
10.1.3. Too ashamed to look in the mirror
10.1.4. Your environment
10.1.5. Your upbringing
10.2. Outlashing
10.2.1. Being angry at everyone to cover your sadness
10.2.2. Flying off the handle in a rage easily
10.2.3. Hoping someone’s new relationship flops
10.2.4. Hoping someone’s new job sucks
10.3. Manipulation
10.3.1. Preying on others weaknesses to get your way
10.3.2. Lying or exaggerating to gain false sympathy
10.3.3. Placing your joy as an expectation of others to fulfill
11. Fear
11.1. Not Speaking up
11.1.1. Self-preservation is more important than your voice
11.1.2. Not sharing good ideas out of fear of rejection
11.1.3. Feeling you don’t have a voice worth hearing
11.2. Embarrassment over Actions
11.2.1. Being around co-workers/family when you’ve lost control
11.2.2. Losing composure due to influence of drugs/alcohol
11.2.3. Sharing feelings that were not returned
11.2.4. Lashing out at others for not agreeing with you
11.3. Guilt from harm Done to others
11.3.1. Injuring another intentionally
11.3.2. Injuring another unintentionally
11.3.3. Saying words that damaged a relationship
11.3.4. Contributing to someone else’s problems/challenges
12. Freedom
12.1. Incarceration
12.1.1. Embarrassment
12.1.2. Fear of rejection
12.1.3. Fierce privacy
12.2. Life Impacted by Someone Else's Incarceration
12.2.1. Parents not there
12.2.2. Spouse serving time
12.2.3. Children getting into trouble
12.3. Financial Freedom
12.3.1. Poor financial management
12.3.2. Lack of “experiences”
12.3.3. Struggling to make it paycheck to paycheck
12.4. Emotional Freedom
12.4.1. Allowing others to define your value
12.4.2. Not forgiving others
12.4.3. Not forgiving yourself
12.5. Time Freedom
12.5.1. Staying busy to avoid dealing with issues
12.5.2. Having to work unusually long hours to pay bills
12.5.3. Poor time management
12.5.4. Addiction to TV and electronic devices
13. Harmony
13.1. Drama
13.1.1. Start it
13.1.2. Embrace it
13.1.3. Fuel it
13.2. Attention
13.2.1. If you’re happy everyone can be happy
13.2.2. Not seeking personal harmony to make someone else happy
13.2.3. Bossing people around
13.3. False testimony
13.3.1. Saying “I’m fine,” when you are not
13.3.2. Passing up on opportunities to talk from the heart and mind
13.3.3. Lying to someone else to make them feel better
14. Integrity
14.1. Trustworthyness
14.1.1. Others trusting you
14.1.2. Your trust for others
14.2. Sticking to Commitments
14.2.1. Reliability
14.2.2. Courage
14.2.3. Confidence
14.3. Best Interests
14.3.1. Best choices over easy choices
14.3.2. Honesty over lies
14.3.3. Hard work over cutting corners
15. Manipulation
15.1. Forcing Outcomes
15.1.1. Loved ones
15.1.2. Friends
15.1.3. Family
15.1.4. Professional peers
15.2. Hurting Others
15.2.1. Words
15.2.2. Actions
15.2.3. Decisions
15.3. Hurting Yourself
15.3.1. Putting off necessary self-work
15.3.2. Increasing expectations on others
16. Parenting
16.1. Abandonment
16.1.1. Not present parent
16.1.2. Never knew parent
16.1.3. Adoption
16.2. Abusive
16.2.1. The abuser
16.2.2. The abused
16.3. Personal Demons
16.3.1. Finding fulfillment through kids
16.3.2. Being what your parents weren’t to you
16.3.3. Not looking at kids as individuals, but as property
16.4. Insecurity
16.4.1. Will I mess them up?
16.4.2. Am I doing the right thing?
16.4.3. What if they make a mistake?
17. Sacrifice
17.1. Martyr Complex
17.1.1. You can only rely on you
17.1.2. Trying to do it all and expecting appreciation for it
17.1.3. Hyper-focus on all you do
17.2. Feeling Unappreciated
17.2.1. Putting self-worth on what you do
17.2.2. Feeling the world owes you because of what you do
17.2.3. Willing to accept false appreciation from people because you made them feel bad
18. Spirituality
18.1. Faith
18.1.1. Afraid to think of more
18.1.2. Desires to see, not just believe
18.1.3. Wanting the contentment others have
18.1.4. Lashing out at the thought of a higher power
18.1.5. Intensive efforts to not have faith
18.2. Lack of Belief in Anything
18.2.1. God or higher powers are cruel
18.2.2. Coping with hurt
18.2.3. Dealing with loss
18.2.4. Focusing anger on no higher power
18.3. Not Feeling Presence of Higher Power
18.3.1. Unknown purpose
18.3.2. Lacking passion and drive
18.3.3. No inspiration in the world around you
18.3.4. Too much bad happens, not enough good
19. Trust
19.1. In Yourself
19.1.1. Bad choices
19.1.2. Prolonged suffering
19.1.3. Inability to say “no”
19.2. In Others
19.2.1. More than yourself
19.2.2. Never
19.2.3. Makes you too vulnerable
19.3. In Systems
19.3.1. Lack of control
19.3.2. Works for others, not for you
19.3.3. Confining
20. Acceptance
20.1. Poor Choices
20.1.1. Relationships
20.1.2. Careers
20.1.3. Finances
20.1.4. Health
20.2. Unsafe Situations
20.2.1. Drunk driving
20.2.2. Placing self in harm
20.2.3. Drug addictions
20.3. Mental Wellness
20.3.1. Depression
20.3.2. Social disorders
20.3.3. Food addictions
20.4. Scars
20.4.1. Suicide attemps
20.4.2. Cutting
20.4.3. Accidents
20.4.4. Emotional
20.4.5. Surgeries
21. Accountability
21.1. Decisions
21.1.1. Thinking only with the mind
21.1.2. Short term ease over long term gain
21.2. Non-action
21.2.1. Not owning up to mistakes
21.2.2. Keeping quiet when you have something to say
21.2.3. Devaluing your worth/intelligence (work, home socially)
21.3. Hurtful words
21.3.1. Apologizing when necessary
21.3.2. Granting forgiveness when necessary
21.3.3. Taking your frustration out on others
21.3.4. Targeting vulnerable people (weaker than you, children etc)
21.4. Hurtful actions
21.4.1. Screaming at others
21.4.2. Blaming others
21.4.3. Hurting yourself physically
21.4.4. Downgrading yourself emotionally
21.4.5. Placing yourself in physical or emotional danger
22. Conformity
22.1. Pretending to be Someone Else
22.1.1. Losing self-identity
22.1.2. Participating in behaviors that are contrary to values
22.1.3. Feeling fitting in means more than being your authentic self
22.2. Forcing Others to Conform to You
22.2.1. Not accepting others for who they are
22.2.2. Limiting growth by surrounding yourself with like-mindedness
22.2.3. Being inconsiderate to opposing viewpoints and opinions
22.3. Ego-driven
22.3.1. Keeping up with the Joneses syndrome
22.3.2. It’s #1 or you’re done
22.4. Deliberately Antagonise
22.4.1. Force yourself to act out in order to stand out
22.4.2. Argue just to argue
22.4.3. Heckle and insult those who are not like you
23. Correctness
23.1. Conceit
23.1.1. Never admit flaws
23.1.2. Quick to blame others
23.1.3. Having a “me” for the victory, “we” for the solution attitude
23.2. Condescending Acts
23.2.1. Thinking lesser of others due to education
23.2.2. Assuming people are lazy when they don’t adhere to your standards
23.3. Beat yourself up for mistakes you would easily forgive others for
23.4. Overly Self-Critical
23.4.1. Smother yourself in a demand for perfectionism
23.4.2. Act like you have nothing to offer
24. Dependability
24.1. Promises Kept
24.1.1. Follow-through failures with work
24.1.2. Follow-through failures with relationships
24.2. Self Dependability
24.2.1. Not adhering to goals you set
24.2.2. Missing out on events because of addiction issues
24.2.3. Giving yourself no expectations for success
25. Emotions
25.1. Poor Self-Esteem
25.1.1. Embrace the negative qualities people bestow upon you
25.1.1.1. Reject positive attributes people bestow upon you
25.2. Anger
25.2.1. At yourself for feeling like a “loser”
25.2.2. At others for holding you back
25.2.3. At your life situation
25.3. Disconnected
25.3.1. No one else cares, so why try
25.3.2. No one understands me
25.3.3. Coping mechanisms
26. Enjoyment
26.1. Lingering Guilt
26.1.1. Sabotaging your happiness because you don’t feel worthy
26.1.2. Creating financial strain by material obsession
26.1.3. Never fully enjoying life because Black Balls weigh you down
26.1.3.1. You didn’t earn it so you shouldn’t enjoy it
26.2. Feelings of Not Being Worthy
26.2.1. Your friends and family deserve better than you
26.2.2. Disconnected from your life’s “why”
27. Family
27.1. Mental Abuse
27.1.1. Yelling, not talking
27.1.2. Negative words
27.1.3. No effort
27.1.4. No feelings of security
27.1.5. No self-forgiveness
27.1.6. No forgiveness of abuser
27.2. Physical Abuse
27.2.1. Escalated situations
27.2.2. Scars
27.2.2.1. Lying to others about what happened
27.2.3. Bruises
27.2.4. Broken bones
27.2.5. Will not forgive abuser
27.3. Sexual Abuse
27.3.1. Feeling bad if it felt good
27.3.2. Will not forgive self
27.3.3. Fear of talking
27.3.4. Not wanting to be judged
27.3.5. Lying to others to keep it secret
27.3.6. Lack of forgiveness to yourself
27.3.7. Lack of forgiveness to your abuser
27.4. Poverty
27.4.1. Embarrassment for parents’ struggles
27.4.2. Embarrassment for your own struggles
27.4.3. Feeling you will always be in poverty
27.4.4. Not daring to dream big out of fear
27.4.5. Not taking big actions out of fear
27.5. Lack of Love
27.5.1. Not sure why your parents had you
27.5.2. Don’t add up to siblings achievements
27.5.3. Not the “favorite” child
28. Fitness
28.1. Lack of Self-Care
28.1.1. Claiming no time
28.1.2. Not wanting to admit the work you need to do
28.2. Lack of Love
28.2.1. Feeling good may not bring you happiness
28.2.2. Achieving a fitness goal may not change your life
28.2.3. You don’t deserve to feel great about yourself
28.3. Desiring to be Unseen (Insecurities)
28.3.1. Hiding behind vices (food/drugs/ alcohol) so you’re not attractive
28.3.2. Fearful of interaction with others
29. Friendship
29.1. Betrayal
29.1.1. Wronging someone else
29.1.2. Someone else wronging you
29.1.3. Stepping back from helping friend in need even if it was for your own good
29.1.4. Stepping away from helping a friend because you just didn’t want to
29.2. Distrust
29.2.1. Setting others up for failure
29.2.2. Setting yourself up for failure
29.3. Poor Choices
29.3.1. Not surrounding yourself with success
29.3.2. Placing yourself in a non-stimulating environment
29.3.3. Relapsing into old habits when you have a bad day
30. Honesty
30.1. Lying to Yourself
30.1.1. Pretending things are okay
30.1.2. Saying you’ll wake up and start an addiction-free life
30.1.3. Denying your own emotional and mental needs
30.1.4. Refusing needed help
30.2. Lying to Others
30.2.1. Not admitting struggles when asked
30.2.2. Pretending to be in control
30.3. Loss Through Dishonesty
30.3.1. Pushing people away
30.3.2. Denying when caught in a lie
30.3.3. Blaming others for your shortcomings until they leave
31. Intuitiveness
31.1. Lack of Trust in Own Instincts
31.1.1. Relationships
31.1.2. Common sense daily situations
31.1.3. Struggle to accept what’s good for the long-term
31.2. Ignoring Instincts
31.2.1. Dangerous situations
31.2.2. Broken heart
31.2.3. Bad relationships
31.2.4. Wrong job choices
32. Marriage/Relationship
32.1. Infidelity
32.1.1. Before marriage
32.1.2. During marriage
32.1.3. Secrets and lies
32.2. Sexual Addiction
32.2.1. Shame
32.2.2. Compulsion
32.2.3. Hiding it
32.2.4. Secrets and lies
32.3. Feelings of Lack
32.3.1. With relationship
32.3.2. In marriage
32.3.3. With self
32.4. Communication
32.4.1. Failed communication on your end
32.4.2. No communication
32.4.3. Arguments
32.4.4. Not sure about so much responsibility
32.4.5. Defensive conversations
32.5. Doubts
32.5.1. Not meant to be married
32.5.2. Not meant to be a parent
32.6. Extreme Dependency
32.6.1. Feeling your life is over if your relationship is
32.6.2. Putting up with poor treatment for financial stability
32.6.3. Remaining with someone because it’s better than being alone
32.7. Parenting
32.7.1. Overly protective
32.7.2. Compensating
32.7.3. Wrong choice
32.7.4. Overwhelming
33. Power
33.1. Use of Power
33.1.1. Manipulation
33.1.2. Control
33.1.3. Gaining power
33.2. Out of Control
33.2.1. Desperation to have power
33.2.2. Surrendering all power and not caring
34. Sexuality
34.1. Sexually Addicted
34.1.1. Shame
34.1.2. Excitement
34.1.3. Lack of contro
34.2. Diseases
34.2.1. Have had STDs
34.2.2. Have given others STDs
34.3. Gender Confusions
34.3.1. Desires to be the other sex
34.3.2. Feeling inadequate when compared to other women or men
34.4. Sexual Orientation Confusion
34.4.1. Born the wrong sex
34.4.2. Embarrassment
34.4.3. Bottled up emotions
34.4.4. Unhealthy releases
34.5. Experimentation
34.5.1. Uncertainty
34.5.2. Held back desire
34.5.3. Unhealthy ideas
34.5.4. Embarrassment
34.6. Sterility
34.6.1. Conceiving issues
34.6.2. Feeling inadequate
34.6.3. Lack of pleasure
34.7. Self Worth
34.7.1. Seeking instant gratification
34.7.2. Not thinking you’re a valued treasure
34.7.3. Putting yourself in situations you are not comfortable with
34.7.4. Releasing guilt from sexual assault
34.7.5. Releasing guilt of abortion
34.7.6. Releasing guilt from rape
34.8. Unhealthy Cravings
34.8.1. Wanting illegal sexual acts
34.8.2. Pornography addiction
34.8.3. Sex addiction
35. Success
35.1. Self-Evaluation
35.1.1. Poor attempts
35.1.2. Laziness
35.1.3. Always overlooked
35.2. Compare and Contrast
35.2.1. Not as good as others
35.2.2. Under appreciated
35.3. Getting a "Raw Deal"
35.3.1. The world is against you
35.3.2. Expectations without action
35.3.3. Discrimination
35.3.4. Discrediting your skills
35.3.5. Define success by others
36. Wealth
36.1. Mindset
36.1.1. Lacking
36.1.2. False abundance
36.1.3. Unhealthy
36.2. Self-Worth
36.2.1. Low
36.2.2. Undervalued
36.3. Materialism
36.3.1. Long for despite not fulfilling
36.3.2. Cling to
36.3.3. Sacrifice in other areas to have
36.4. Compulsive Behaviours
36.4.1. Gambling
36.4.2. Sex
36.4.3. No control over finances