1. Not Taking a Stand for What's Right
1.1. Remaining silent when you witness abuses
1.2. Not encouraging people to express their differing views
2. Only taking action in a group, not as an individual
3. Acceptance
3.1. Poor Choices
3.1.1. Relationships
3.1.2. Careers
3.1.3. Finances
3.1.4. Health
3.2. Unsafe Situations
3.2.1. Drunk driving
3.2.2. Placing self in harm
3.2.3. Drug addictions
3.3. Mental Wellness
3.3.1. Depression
3.3.2. Social disorders
3.3.3. Food addictions
3.4. Scars
3.4.1. Suicide attemps
3.4.2. Cutting
3.4.3. Accidents
3.4.4. Emotional
3.4.5. Surgeries
4. Accountability
4.1. Decisions
4.1.1. Thinking only with the mind
4.1.2. Short term ease over long term gain
4.2. Non-action
4.2.1. Not owning up to mistakes
4.2.2. Keeping quiet when you have something to say
4.2.3. Devaluing your worth/intelligence (work, home socially)
4.3. Hurtful words
4.3.1. Apologizing when necessary
4.3.2. Granting forgiveness when necessary
4.3.3. Taking your frustration out on others
4.3.4. Targeting vulnerable people (weaker than you, children etc)
4.4. Hurtful actions
4.4.1. Screaming at others
4.4.2. Blaming others
4.4.3. Hurting yourself physically
4.4.4. Downgrading yourself emotionally
4.4.5. Placing yourself in physical or emotional danger
5. Achievement
5.1. Lack of effort
5.1.1. Expecting you are entitled to what you want
5.1.2. Wanting results without putting in effort (work, relationships)
5.1.3. Acting like you don't care
5.1.4. Disregarding others achievements
5.2. Jealousy
5.2.1. Coveting someone else's life
5.2.2. Talking poorly about those who have more than you
5.2.3. Eager for other peoples’ collapse or demise
5.2.4. Bragging that you are more in finance and career than you are
5.2.5. Bragging that your relationship is more than what it is
5.3. Sabatage
5.3.1. Not giving good efforts consistently
5.3.2. Not trying because you already see failure
5.3.3. Deliberately making someone else look bad
5.3.4. Doing something to ruin your own opportunity (low self-worth related)
6. Belonging
6.1. Treatment to Others
6.1.1. Bullying
6.1.2. Harassing
6.1.3. Condescending
6.1.4. Lying and false praise
6.1.5. Shifting your needs to an expectation for someone else to fulfill
6.2. Treatment to Self
6.2.1. Hurt yourself mentally and physically
6.2.2. Change diet to fit into a certain group
6.2.3. Not be authentic to self to belong somewhere else
6.2.4. Afraid to show your genuine self
6.2.5. Lying to emulate others’ expectations of you
7. Competitiveness
7.1. Dirty Moves
7.1.1. Cheating to win
7.1.2. Drawing attention to others wrongdoings
7.1.3. Sabotaging others
7.2. Self-Centeredness
7.2.1. Control freak
7.2.2. Always making sure you’re in the spotlight
7.2.3. Taking all the credit
7.2.4. Not inviting others in to opportunities (sports, work, self-growth, etc.)
7.3. Deceitfulness
7.3.1. False caring for personal gain
7.3.2. Misrepresentation of information
7.3.3. Deliberate actions to harm another
8. Conformity
8.1. Pretending to be Someone Else
8.1.1. Losing self-identity
8.1.2. Participating in behaviors that are contrary to values
8.1.3. Feeling fitting in means more than being your authentic self
8.2. Forcing Others to Conform to You
8.2.1. Not accepting others for who they are
8.2.2. Limiting growth by surrounding yourself with like-mindedness
8.2.3. Being inconsiderate to opposing viewpoints and opinions
8.3. Ego-driven
8.3.1. Keeping up with the Joneses syndrome
8.3.2. It’s #1 or you’re done
8.4. Deliberately Antagonise
8.4.1. Force yourself to act out in order to stand out
8.4.2. Argue just to argue
8.4.3. Heckle and insult those who are not like you
9. Conviction
9.1. Poor Moral Compass
9.1.1. Don’t stick to what you stand for
9.1.2. Make choices based on emotions, not considering after effects
9.1.3. Acting like you don’t care just to hide how much you do care
9.2. Not Adhering to Values
9.2.1. Taking actions contrary to what you really want
9.2.2. Letting fear dictate your choices
9.2.3. Giving others passes with topics that are high value to you
9.3. My Way or the Highway Attitude
9.3.1. Leaving no room for compromise with peers
9.3.2. Leaving no room for discussion with family
9.3.3. Humiliating and degrading those who feel differently than you
10. Correctness
10.1. Conceit
10.1.1. Never admit flaws
10.1.2. Quick to blame others
10.1.3. Having a “me” for the victory, “we” for the solution attitude
10.2. Condescending Acts
10.2.1. Thinking lesser of others due to education
10.2.2. Assuming people are lazy when they don’t adhere to your standards
10.3. Beat yourself up for mistakes you would easily forgive others for
10.4. Overly Self-Critical
10.4.1. Smother yourself in a demand for perfectionism
10.4.2. Act like you have nothing to offer
11. Courage
11.1. Guilt Over Flee Instinct
11.1.1. Knowing you’ve walked away when you should have stayed
11.1.2. Remaining quiet when you feared the results of speaking your truth
12. Dependability
12.1. Promises Kept
12.1.1. Follow-through failures with work
12.1.2. Follow-through failures with relationships
12.2. Self Dependability
12.2.1. Not adhering to goals you set
12.2.2. Missing out on events because of addiction issues
12.2.3. Giving yourself no expectations for success
13. Dependency
13.1. Addictions
13.1.1. Drugs
13.1.2. Alcoho
13.1.3. Food
13.2. On Others
13.2.1. Putting up with bad treatment out of fear
13.2.2. Allowing yourself to be manipulated
13.2.3. Desperation to please others
14. Emotions
14.1. Poor Self-Esteem
14.1.1. Embrace the negative qualities people bestow upon you
14.1.1.1. Reject positive attributes people bestow upon you
14.2. Anger
14.2.1. At yourself for feeling like a “loser”
14.2.2. At others for holding you back
14.2.3. At your life situation
14.3. Disconnected
14.3.1. No one else cares, so why try
14.3.2. No one understands me
14.3.3. Coping mechanisms
15. Endurance
15.1. Quit Easily
15.1.1. At goals
15.1.2. In relationships
15.1.3. At jobs due to lack of satisfaction
15.2. Poor Health Choices
15.2.1. Eating or drinking foods that make you ill
15.2.2. Turning your back to hard work to make good changes
15.2.3. Finding comfort in unhealthy things
15.3. Flight Instinct
15.3.1. Hurt them before they hurt you in a relationship
15.3.2. Expect your “doom’s day” to come
15.3.3. Have a fight and then take flight
15.3.4. Growing angry with others for addressing their emotions
15.3.5. Diverting situations to cast blame to others
16. Enjoyment
16.1. Lingering Guilt
16.1.1. Sabotaging your happiness because you don’t feel worthy
16.1.2. Creating financial strain by material obsession
16.1.3. Never fully enjoying life because Black Balls weigh you down
16.1.3.1. You didn’t earn it so you shouldn’t enjoy it
16.2. Feelings of Not Being Worthy
16.2.1. Your friends and family deserve better than you
16.2.2. Disconnected from your life’s “why”
17. Envy
17.1. Casting Blame
17.1.1. Using “if only I’d…” as an excuse
17.1.2. Saying others made you fail
17.1.3. Too ashamed to look in the mirror
17.1.4. Your environment
17.1.5. Your upbringing
17.2. Outlashing
17.2.1. Being angry at everyone to cover your sadness
17.2.2. Flying off the handle in a rage easily
17.2.3. Hoping someone’s new relationship flops
17.2.4. Hoping someone’s new job sucks
17.3. Manipulation
17.3.1. Preying on others weaknesses to get your way
17.3.2. Lying or exaggerating to gain false sympathy
17.3.3. Placing your joy as an expectation of others to fulfill
18. Family
18.1. Mental Abuse
18.1.1. Yelling, not talking
18.1.2. Negative words
18.1.3. No effort
18.1.4. No feelings of security
18.1.5. No self-forgiveness
18.1.6. No forgiveness of abuser
18.2. Physical Abuse
18.2.1. Escalated situations
18.2.2. Scars
18.2.2.1. Lying to others about what happened
18.2.3. Bruises
18.2.4. Broken bones
18.2.5. Will not forgive abuser
18.3. Sexual Abuse
18.3.1. Feeling bad if it felt good
18.3.2. Will not forgive self
18.3.3. Fear of talking
18.3.4. Not wanting to be judged
18.3.5. Lying to others to keep it secret
18.3.6. Lack of forgiveness to yourself
18.3.7. Lack of forgiveness to your abuser
18.4. Poverty
18.4.1. Embarrassment for parents’ struggles
18.4.2. Embarrassment for your own struggles
18.4.3. Feeling you will always be in poverty
18.4.4. Not daring to dream big out of fear
18.4.5. Not taking big actions out of fear
18.5. Lack of Love
18.5.1. Not sure why your parents had you
18.5.2. Don’t add up to siblings achievements
18.5.3. Not the “favorite” child
19. Fear
19.1. Not Speaking up
19.1.1. Self-preservation is more important than your voice
19.1.2. Not sharing good ideas out of fear of rejection
19.1.3. Feeling you don’t have a voice worth hearing
19.2. Embarrassment over Actions
19.2.1. Being around co-workers/family when you’ve lost control
19.2.2. Losing composure due to influence of drugs/alcohol
19.2.3. Sharing feelings that were not returned
19.2.4. Lashing out at others for not agreeing with you
19.3. Guilt from harm Done to others
19.3.1. Injuring another intentionally
19.3.2. Injuring another unintentionally
19.3.3. Saying words that damaged a relationship
19.3.4. Contributing to someone else’s problems/challenges
20. Fitness
20.1. Lack of Self-Care
20.1.1. Claiming no time
20.1.2. Not wanting to admit the work you need to do
20.2. Lack of Love
20.2.1. Feeling good may not bring you happiness
20.2.2. Achieving a fitness goal may not change your life
20.2.3. You don’t deserve to feel great about yourself
20.3. Desiring to be Unseen (Insecurities)
20.3.1. Hiding behind vices (food/drugs/ alcohol) so you’re not attractive
20.3.2. Fearful of interaction with others
21. Freedom
21.1. Incarceration
21.1.1. Embarrassment
21.1.2. Fear of rejection
21.1.3. Fierce privacy
21.2. Life Impacted by Someone Else's Incarceration
21.2.1. Parents not there
21.2.2. Spouse serving time
21.2.3. Children getting into trouble
21.3. Financial Freedom
21.3.1. Poor financial management
21.3.2. Lack of “experiences”
21.3.3. Struggling to make it paycheck to paycheck
21.4. Emotional Freedom
21.4.1. Allowing others to define your value
21.4.2. Not forgiving others
21.4.3. Not forgiving yourself
21.5. Time Freedom
21.5.1. Staying busy to avoid dealing with issues
21.5.2. Having to work unusually long hours to pay bills
21.5.3. Poor time management
21.5.4. Addiction to TV and electronic devices
22. Friendship
22.1. Betrayal
22.1.1. Wronging someone else
22.1.2. Someone else wronging you
22.1.3. Stepping back from helping friend in need even if it was for your own good
22.1.4. Stepping away from helping a friend because you just didn’t want to
22.2. Distrust
22.2.1. Setting others up for failure
22.2.2. Setting yourself up for failure
22.3. Poor Choices
22.3.1. Not surrounding yourself with success
22.3.2. Placing yourself in a non-stimulating environment
22.3.3. Relapsing into old habits when you have a bad day
23. Harmony
23.1. Drama
23.1.1. Start it
23.1.2. Embrace it
23.1.3. Fuel it
23.2. Attention
23.2.1. If you’re happy everyone can be happy
23.2.2. Not seeking personal harmony to make someone else happy
23.2.3. Bossing people around
23.3. False testimony
23.3.1. Saying “I’m fine,” when you are not
23.3.2. Passing up on opportunities to talk from the heart and mind
23.3.3. Lying to someone else to make them feel better
24. Honesty
24.1. Lying to Yourself
24.1.1. Pretending things are okay
24.1.2. Saying you’ll wake up and start an addiction-free life
24.1.3. Denying your own emotional and mental needs
24.1.4. Refusing needed help
24.2. Lying to Others
24.2.1. Not admitting struggles when asked
24.2.2. Pretending to be in control
24.3. Loss Through Dishonesty
24.3.1. Pushing people away
24.3.2. Denying when caught in a lie
24.3.3. Blaming others for your shortcomings until they leave
25. Integrity
25.1. Trustworthyness
25.1.1. Others trusting you
25.1.2. Your trust for others
25.2. Sticking to Commitments
25.2.1. Reliability
25.2.2. Courage
25.2.3. Confidence
25.3. Best Interests
25.3.1. Best choices over easy choices
25.3.2. Honesty over lies
25.3.3. Hard work over cutting corners
26. Intuitiveness
26.1. Lack of Trust in Own Instincts
26.1.1. Relationships
26.1.2. Common sense daily situations
26.1.3. Struggle to accept what’s good for the long-term
26.2. Ignoring Instincts
26.2.1. Dangerous situations
26.2.2. Broken heart
26.2.3. Bad relationships
26.2.4. Wrong job choices
27. Manipulation
27.1. Forcing Outcomes
27.1.1. Loved ones
27.1.2. Friends
27.1.3. Family
27.1.4. Professional peers
27.2. Hurting Others
27.2.1. Words
27.2.2. Actions
27.2.3. Decisions
27.3. Hurting Yourself
27.3.1. Putting off necessary self-work
27.3.2. Increasing expectations on others
28. Marriage/Relationship
28.1. Infidelity
28.1.1. Before marriage
28.1.2. During marriage
28.1.3. Secrets and lies
28.2. Sexual Addiction
28.2.1. Shame
28.2.2. Compulsion
28.2.3. Hiding it
28.2.4. Secrets and lies
28.3. Feelings of Lack
28.3.1. With relationship
28.3.2. In marriage
28.3.3. With self
28.4. Communication
28.4.1. Failed communication on your end
28.4.2. No communication
28.4.3. Arguments
28.4.4. Not sure about so much responsibility
28.4.5. Defensive conversations
28.5. Doubts
28.5.1. Not meant to be married
28.5.2. Not meant to be a parent
28.6. Extreme Dependency
28.6.1. Feeling your life is over if your relationship is
28.6.2. Putting up with poor treatment for financial stability
28.6.3. Remaining with someone because it’s better than being alone
28.7. Parenting
28.7.1. Overly protective
28.7.2. Compensating
28.7.3. Wrong choice
28.7.4. Overwhelming
29. Parenting
29.1. Abandonment
29.1.1. Not present parent
29.1.2. Never knew parent
29.1.3. Adoption
29.2. Abusive
29.2.1. The abuser
29.2.2. The abused
29.3. Personal Demons
29.3.1. Finding fulfillment through kids
29.3.2. Being what your parents weren’t to you
29.3.3. Not looking at kids as individuals, but as property
29.4. Insecurity
29.4.1. Will I mess them up?
29.4.2. Am I doing the right thing?
29.4.3. What if they make a mistake?
30. Power
30.1. Use of Power
30.1.1. Manipulation
30.1.2. Control
30.1.3. Gaining power
30.2. Out of Control
30.2.1. Desperation to have power
30.2.2. Surrendering all power and not caring
31. Sacrifice
31.1. Martyr Complex
31.1.1. You can only rely on you
31.1.2. Trying to do it all and expecting appreciation for it
31.1.3. Hyper-focus on all you do
31.2. Feeling Unappreciated
31.2.1. Putting self-worth on what you do
31.2.2. Feeling the world owes you because of what you do
31.2.3. Willing to accept false appreciation from people because you made them feel bad
32. Sexuality
32.1. Sexually Addicted
32.1.1. Shame
32.1.2. Excitement
32.1.3. Lack of contro
32.2. Diseases
32.2.1. Have had STDs
32.2.2. Have given others STDs
32.3. Gender Confusions
32.3.1. Desires to be the other sex
32.3.2. Feeling inadequate when compared to other women or men
32.4. Sexual Orientation Confusion
32.4.1. Born the wrong sex
32.4.2. Embarrassment
32.4.3. Bottled up emotions
32.4.4. Unhealthy releases
32.5. Experimentation
32.5.1. Uncertainty
32.5.2. Held back desire
32.5.3. Unhealthy ideas
32.5.4. Embarrassment
32.6. Sterility
32.6.1. Conceiving issues
32.6.2. Feeling inadequate
32.6.3. Lack of pleasure
32.7. Self Worth
32.7.1. Seeking instant gratification
32.7.2. Not thinking you’re a valued treasure
32.7.3. Putting yourself in situations you are not comfortable with
32.7.4. Releasing guilt from sexual assault
32.7.5. Releasing guilt of abortion
32.7.6. Releasing guilt from rape
32.8. Unhealthy Cravings
32.8.1. Wanting illegal sexual acts
32.8.2. Pornography addiction
32.8.3. Sex addiction
33. Spirituality
33.1. Faith
33.1.1. Afraid to think of more
33.1.2. Desires to see, not just believe
33.1.3. Wanting the contentment others have
33.1.4. Lashing out at the thought of a higher power
33.1.5. Intensive efforts to not have faith
33.2. Lack of Belief in Anything
33.2.1. God or higher powers are cruel
33.2.2. Coping with hurt
33.2.3. Dealing with loss
33.2.4. Focusing anger on no higher power
33.3. Not Feeling Presence of Higher Power
33.3.1. Unknown purpose
33.3.2. Lacking passion and drive
33.3.3. No inspiration in the world around you
33.3.4. Too much bad happens, not enough good
34. Success
34.1. Self-Evaluation
34.1.1. Poor attempts
34.1.2. Laziness
34.1.3. Always overlooked
34.2. Compare and Contrast
34.2.1. Not as good as others
34.2.2. Under appreciated
34.3. Getting a "Raw Deal"
34.3.1. The world is against you
34.3.2. Expectations without action
34.3.3. Discrimination
34.3.4. Discrediting your skills
34.3.5. Define success by others
35. Trust
35.1. In Yourself
35.1.1. Bad choices
35.1.2. Prolonged suffering
35.1.3. Inability to say “no”
35.2. In Others
35.2.1. More than yourself
35.2.2. Never
35.2.3. Makes you too vulnerable
35.3. In Systems
35.3.1. Lack of control
35.3.2. Works for others, not for you
35.3.3. Confining
36. Wealth
36.1. Mindset
36.1.1. Lacking
36.1.2. False abundance
36.1.3. Unhealthy
36.2. Self-Worth
36.2.1. Low
36.2.2. Undervalued
36.3. Materialism
36.3.1. Long for despite not fulfilling
36.3.2. Cling to
36.3.3. Sacrifice in other areas to have
36.4. Compulsive Behaviours
36.4.1. Gambling
36.4.2. Sex
36.4.3. No control over finances