1. When dealing with anger
1.1. In others
1.1.1. Don't got for tit for tat
1.1.2. When your emotions engage
1.1.2.1. Shut your face
1.1.3. See from every perspective
1.1.3.1. You don't have to agree, just understand
1.1.4. Look for the fear button
1.1.4.1. That's where the emotion is coming from
1.1.4.2. Feeling like they are loosing control
1.1.4.3. Feeling incompetent
1.2. In Yourself
1.2.1. Be wise
1.2.1.1. Fight quick conclusions
1.2.1.2. Pray
1.2.1.2.1. Get God's perspective
1.2.2. Handle each conflict separately
1.2.2.1. Ask What do you want
1.2.2.1.1. Of other person
1.2.2.1.2. Of yourself
1.2.2.1.3. Revenge never a productive motivation
1.2.3. When nothing helps, wait
1.2.3.1. Can't change a closed mind
1.2.3.2. You will not will someone's heart in an argument
1.2.3.3. Psalm 40:1–2 (NLT) 1 I waited patiently for the LORD to help me, and he turned to me and heard my cry.
2. Abigail
2.1. Wise servant tells Abigail
2.1.1. 1 Samuel 25:14 (NLT) 14 Meanwhile, one of Nabal's servants went to Abigail and told her, “David sent messengers from the wilderness to greet our master, but he screamed insults at them.
2.2. VS 17 your husband Is a jerk and you're the only one who can do anything about it.
2.3. Gets to work
2.3.1. 200 loaves of bread
2.3.2. 100 clusters of raisins
2.3.3. 200 cakes
2.4. Does not tell Jerk face
2.4.1. Does your wife every handle you
2.5. Does not fight
2.5.1. She protects
2.5.1.1. Literally saves Nabal's life
2.6. Meets David
2.6.1. 1 Samuel 25:24 (NLT) 24 She fell at his feet and said, “I accept all blame in this matter, my lord. Please listen to what I have to say.
2.6.1.1. Take blame when you can
2.6.2. 1 Samuel 25:25 (NLT) 25 I know Nabal is a wicked and ill-tempered man; please don't pay any attention to him. He is a fool, just as his name suggests. But I never even saw the young men you sent.
2.6.2.1. It is a great woman
2.6.2.1.1. Protects husband
2.6.2.1.2. From himself
2.6.3. 1 Samuel 25:26 (NLT) 26 “Now, my lord, as surely as the Lord lives and you yourself live, since the Lord has kept you from murdering and taking vengeance into your own hands, let all your enemies and those who try to harm you be as cursed as Nabal is.
2.6.3.1. David has not spoken yet
2.6.3.2. Gently says
2.6.3.2.1. “Do you really want to do murder today”
2.7. David is rescued
2.7.1. From himself
2.7.2. 1 Samuel 25:33 (NLT) 33 Thank God for your good sense! Bless you for keeping me from murder and from carrying out vengeance with my own hands.
3. Act one: the conflict
3.1. Husband and wife
3.1.1. Everything about them is different
3.2. Employee and employer
3.2.1. Hey how ya doing
3.2.1.1. 1 Samuel 25:5-6 (NLT) 5 he sent ten of his young men to Carmel with this message for Nabal: 6 “Peace and prosperity to you, your family, and everything you own!
3.2.2. Shalom, shalom, shalom!
3.2.3. We took care of you and we would like a tip
3.2.3.1. 1 Samuel 25:7-8 (NLT) 7 I am told that it is sheep-shearing time. While your shepherds stayed among us near Carmel, we never harmed them, and nothing was ever stolen from them. 8 Ask your own men, and they will tell you this is true. So would you be kind to us, since we have come at a time of celebration? Please share any provisions you might have on hand with us and with your friend David.”
3.2.4. 1 Samuel 25:10 (NLT) 10 “Who is this fellow David?” Nabal sneered to the young men. “Who does this son of Jesse think he is? There are lots of servants these days who run away from their masters.
3.2.5. Stupid is as stupid does video
3.3. David our hero goes crazy
3.3.1. They tell David
3.3.2. 1 Samuel 25:13 (NLT) 13 “Get your swords!” was David's reply as he strapped on his own. Then 400 men started off with David, and 200 remained behind to guard their equipment.
3.3.3. I am right, I have the moral high ground
3.3.3.1. 1 Samuel 25:21 (NLT) 21 David had just been saying, “A lot of good it did to help this fellow. We protected his flocks in the wilderness, and nothing he owned was lost or stolen. But he has repaid me evil for good.
3.3.4. 1 Samuel 25:22 (NLT) 22 May God strike me and kill me if even one man of his household is still alive tomorrow morning!”
3.3.5. Ant with and atomic bomb
3.3.6. Oh, David
3.3.6.1. Faithful in wilderness
3.3.6.2. Knew worship
3.3.6.2.1. Man of integrity
3.3.6.3. Now justifying
3.3.6.3.1. He deserves this
3.3.6.3.2. My duty
3.3.6.3.3. Most dangerous lies
3.3.6.3.4. We tell ourselves
3.3.7. Hangs between
3.3.7.1. Anger
3.3.7.2. Murder
4. YouTube
5. Anger
5.1. paralyzing emotion
5.1.1. unpredictable
5.1.2. so many faces
5.1.2.1. being perturbed
5.1.2.2. rage
5.2. public
5.2.1. can't get words back
5.2.2. everyone knows
5.2.2.1. self-control
5.2.2.1.1. obvious answer
5.2.2.1.2. insurmountably difficult
5.2.2.2. anger is a choice
5.2.2.2.1. becomes habit
5.2.2.3. form of insanity
5.2.2.3.1. not in control
5.2.2.3.2. temporary insanity
6. David goes nuts
6.1. How things work
6.2. shepherds worked for landowners
6.3. David decides to kill his boss
6.4. One act play in several scenes
6.5. Saul
6.5.1. Still King
6.6. David
6.6.1. 600 guerrilla fighters
6.6.2. Fighting various tribes
6.6.2.1. Paran
6.6.2.2. Protecting shepherds
6.6.2.2.1. Working away from home
6.6.2.2.2. Custom dictated a tip
6.6.2.2.3. No written law
6.6.3. Protecting clocks of Nabal
6.6.3.1. Its payday
6.6.3.2. Problem
6.6.3.2.1. Nabal
7. QR
8. Important characters
8.1. Nabal
8.1.1. 1 Samuel 25:2 (NLT) 2 There was a wealthy man from Maon who owned property near the town of Carmel. He had 3,000 sheep and 1,000 goats, and it was sheep-shearing time.
8.1.2. Nabal Means fool
8.1.2.1. 5572 I. ðÈáÈì (nâ·皇?âl): adj foolish, stupid, i.e., pertaining to lacking understanding or even the capacity for understanding, implying a willful moral insolence and impudence and disobedience to the law of God (Dt 32:6, 21; Ps 74:18; Eze 13:3+
8.1.2.2. Why did your mom hate you?
8.1.2.3. Vs 3
8.1.2.3.1. Harsh
8.1.2.3.2. Evil in dealings
8.1.2.3.3. Unfair
8.1.3. Combination
8.1.3.1. Stupid
8.1.3.2. Harsh
8.1.3.3. Evil
8.2. Abigale his wife
8.2.1. 1 Samuel 25:3 (NLT) 3 … his wife, Abigail, was a sensible and beautiful woman. But Nabal, a descendant of Caleb, was crude and mean in all his dealings.
8.2.2. Hot, Smart, Loved God
8.2.3. Not controlled by emotions
8.2.3.1. Like us… Backwards of stereotype