1. Most people are not willing to do what it truly takes to get a “yes”.
2. How People Do Get a “Yes”
2.1. Do not be a beggar, be a giver
2.2. Never even aim to ask for anything.
2.3. Just aim to give value to people.
2.4. Then, if/when comes time to ask for something, you will almost always get a “yes”.
2.5. Getting a “yes” is about having a mutual relationship.
2.5.1. It’s not about asking and leaving.
2.5.2. It’s about giving and receiving, giving and receiving, etc.
2.5.3. It is, in essence, a friendship.
3. 3 Ways to Add Value to Someone
3.1. Do some research
3.1.1. Find their social media accounts and get an idea of what kind of person they are. Don’t be creepy though
3.1.2. If the person is somewhat famous, look up their personal website or their wikipedia page.
3.1.3. Find their most approachable friends and ask them questions. Again, don’t be creepy
3.1.4. If the person has written books, read them
3.1.5. If the person has a blog, read the blog.
3.1.6. Once you have a better idea of who they really are, adding value to them is suddenly much easier.
3.1.6.1. They like to read? Recommend them a book.
3.1.6.2. Be creative. Be authentic. Give them something they want based on your research.
3.2. Simply ask them how you can help them
3.2.1. If you don’t try, you don’t know if it will work or not.
3.2.2. Simply asking is so easy and cheap that it’s worth trying, almost every time.
3.3. Give and adjust
3.3.1. If you know the person’s interests, you can always find something to give.
3.3.2. If you get a response, you’ve opened up the line of communication.
3.3.2.1. From there, you may get a better idea of what they really need.
3.3.2.2. If not, you can either ask them directly, or keep trying.