1. Ideas
1.1. What alive in you?
1.2. Influencer
1.2.1. Notes on Jon and Missy
1.2.2. Patrick Grove
1.2.3. Cameron Herold
1.2.4. Pick you own
1.2.5. MBS Recording
1.2.6. Anti goals
1.2.7. Steve Jobs
1.2.7.1. “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today? And whenever the answer has been No for too many days in a row I know I need to change something. Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. death is the destination we all share. Nobody has ever escaped it… Your time is limited. So don’t waste it living someone else’s life.”
1.2.8. Jeff Bezos
1.2.9. Rob Dyrdek
1.2.10. Derek Sivers
1.2.10.1. https://sive.rs/n
1.3. Who here is successful?
1.3.1. How do you know?
2. Spirit
2.1. I want them to not only look forward, but to reflect back, metabolize learnings and and appreciate their journey
2.1.1. Vision casting and reflection
2.1.1.1. How is wisdom formed
2.1.1.1.1. Metabolize learnings and make it your message
2.2. Music will be important and maybe I can play it in my talk (i've always wanted to do this)
2.3. I want them to walk away with something tangible
2.3.1. Photo of themselves
2.3.2. And or be reminded after the event (90 day letter)
2.4. Something that comes up a lot lately is the notion of "enough"
2.4.1. https://www.facebook.com/JaysonGaignard/posts/pfbid0hZfAkh7SjRUQsA9BhxgWoZdvN7nfp8YyLNizxD1ksrhR5tcD8EHDmhQ5V5Crkmbyl
2.4.2. A conversation with "it's ok to be ok."
2.5. I think there's an opportunity to seed conversations and discussions throughout. The gathering (at dinners and such)
2.6. Traps
2.6.1. Trying to do too much in one session
2.6.2. Imposter Syndrome
2.6.2.1. Who am I to lead a session like this - I don't have it all figured out. But I'm pretty bloody close.
2.6.2.1.1. I feel deeply rooted and grounded in my relationship / parenting /
2.6.3. How do you help people identify what they want?
2.6.3.1. Identify everything you don't want
2.6.3.2. Layers of an onion
2.6.3.3. Inspired by others
3. Depository
3.1. Perfect Day Exercise 2013
3.1.1. https://www.mindmeister.com/map/352070153
3.2. Podcast
3.2.1. Episode 0
3.2.1.1. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1EuEQe2xAvdwzhJd15JqiGzW0CYoCft4H5pJaMFaXGUw/edit
3.2.2. The most important number
3.2.2.1. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1vMwvs_XwrBBPKvK_vdcnUVYVJee-jJaITo4tssyAjtw/edit
3.2.3. Scaling is stupid
3.2.3.1. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1-A8UKrNDrP5XI6ZaIygvZdvAU3vBC9o2r9Pa4hdy7rE/edit
3.2.4. The perfect calendar worksheet 2014
3.2.4.1. https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B_LeP-Y7OsC_YjRhZXc4TndHUWc/view?usp=sharing&resourcekey=0-zjwgXnLG2Iwx6v8G-FzZqA
3.2.5. The perfect day script
3.2.5.1. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1ZT-2P3GKjvLt7DmKVSLLZ4xDYc__-9Sn71Aqeq656CU/edit
3.2.6. The perfect day worksheet 2017
3.2.6.1. https://drive.google.com/file/d/1cCLehZbJTVQlToLHWTGnl_FcSO6Tcnhd/view?usp=share_link
3.3. MMT at Home Mindmap
3.3.1. https://www.mindmeister.com/map/1851502979
3.4. Perfect Day Recording
3.4.1. https://sessions.mmtalumni.com/courses/take/mmt-at-home-the-perfect-day/lessons/24121001-a-framework-that-can-change-your-life
3.5. Psychology of Money
3.5.1. https://readwise.io/bookreview/6760462
3.6. Mindvalley
3.6.1. https://home.mindvalley.com/quests/en/lifebook-online
3.6.2. https://life.mindvalley.com/start
3.6.2.1. My assessment
3.7. A day in the life
3.7.1. https://www.evernote.com/shard/s70/sh/7f6c256d-30a1-4fb5-a822-8f91907c6eb6/3094322e2162e996d19476fa811b611e
3.8. RPM
3.8.1. https://www.evernote.com/shard/s70/sh/4e003cdb-78fa-4337-ab3d-c2314b0a5151/1a5b7dabcc0a6b8926faf49e261fd0ea
3.9. James Clear
3.9.1. https://jamesclear.com/great-speeches/enough-by-john-c-bogle
3.10. How to live a good life - Jonathan Fields
3.11. Notes
3.11.1. Ideas on Money
3.11.1.1. The hardest financial skill is getting the goalpost to stop moving.
3.11.1.2. the ceiling of social comparison is so high that virtually no one will ever hit it. Which means it’s a battle that can never be won, or that the only way to win is to not fight to begin with—to accept that you might have enough, even if it’s less than those around you.
3.11.1.3. The idea of having “enough” might look like conservatism, leaving opportunity and potential on the table. I don’t think that’s right. “Enough” is realizing that the opposite—an insatiable appetite for more—will push you to the point of regret.
3.11.1.4. There are many things never worth risking, no matter the potential gain.
3.11.1.5. Reputation is invaluable. Freedom and independence are invaluable. Family and friends are invaluable. Being loved by those who you want to love you is invaluable. Happiness is invaluable. And your best shot at keeping these things is knowing when it’s time to stop taking risks that might harm them. Knowing when you have enough . The good news is that the most powerful tool for building enough is remarkably simple, and doesn’t require taking risks that could damage any of these things.
3.11.1.6. A Nigerian scam artist once told The New York Times that he felt guilty for hurting others, but “poverty will not make you feel the pain.” 13 What Gupta and Madoff did is something different. They already had everything: unimaginable wealth, prestige, power, freedom. And they threw it all away because they wanted more. They had no sense of enough .
3.11.1.7. To make money they didn’t have and didn’t need, they risked what they did have and did need. And that’s foolish. It is just plain foolish. If you risk something that is important to you for something that is unimportant to you, it just does not make any sense. There is no reason to risk what you have and need for what you don’t have and don’t need. It’s one of those things that’s as obvious as it is overlooked.
3.11.1.8. Evolutionarily, this makes sense. Humans have always pushed for more. It’s how our species soldiers on. But is ceaseless yearning the path to happiness? Is it a necessity for creating great work? I’m not so sure.
3.11.1.9. We look at successful people and think they must be happy. They must feel so good about themselves, what they’ve accomplished, what they have. Of course, it’s not remotely true. Most of them — like most of us — are eaten up by all they still have to do.
3.11.1.10. No journey is without an endpoint.
3.11.1.11. Austrian writer Stefan Zweig tells us, “History relates no instance in which a conqueror has been surfeited with conquests.” The human mind, our drive to acquire, is insidious, moving the goalpost as soon as we approach it — or sometimes before we’ve even seen it.
3.11.1.12. Now compare that to the stillness that comes from a sense of “enough.” No relentless wanting. No insecurity of comparison. No need to do, do, do.
3.11.1.12.1. My LSD experience
3.11.1.13. Nothing can be of such great benefit to you, in your quest for moderation in all things, than to frequently contemplate the brevity of one’s life span, and its uncertainty. Whatever you undertake, cast your eyes on death. (Epistle 114.27)
3.11.1.13.1. Some arrive at death in a rage, but no one greets death’s arrival cheerfully except those who have long prepared themselves for it. Seneca. How to Die (Ancient Wisdom for Modern Readers) (p. 23). Princeton University Press. Kindle Edition.
3.11.1.14. The median American home increased from 983 square feet in 1950 to 2,436 square feet in 2018.
3.11.1.15. Compared to generations prior, control over your time has diminished. And since controlling your time is such a key happiness influencer, we shouldn’t be surprised that people don’t feel much happier even though we are, on average, richer than ever.
3.11.1.16. In his book 30 Lessons for Living, gerontologist Karl Pillemer interviewed a thousand elderly Americans looking for the most important lessons they learned from decades of life experience. He wrote: No one—not a single person out of a thousand—said that to be happy you should try to work as hard as you can to make money to buy the things you want. No one—not a single person—said it’s important to be at least as wealthy as the people around you, and if you have more than they do it’s real success. No one—not a single person—said you should choose your work based on your desired future earning power. What they did value were things like quality friendships, being part of something bigger than themselves, and spending quality, unstructured time with their children. “Your kids don’t want your money (or what your money buys) anywhere near as much as they want you. Specifically, they want you with them,” Pillemer writes.
3.11.1.17. “In the largest frame, everything is fine.” That sounds very much like the message Lucius Annaeus Seneca preached to Roman readers of the mid-first century AD, relying on Stoic philosophy, rather than an organic hallucinogen, as a way to glimpse that truth. “The interconnectedness of all things” was also one of his principal themes, as was the idea that one must rehearse for death throughout one’s life—for life, properly understood, is really only a journey toward death; we are dying every day, from the day we are born.
3.11.1.18. Having a strong sense of controlling one’s life is a more dependable predictor of positive feelings of wellbeing than any of the objective conditions of life we have considered. More than your salary. More than the size of your house. More than the prestige of your job. Control over doing what you want, when you want to, with the people you want to, is the broadest lifestyle variable that makes people happy. Money’s greatest intrinsic value—and this can’t be overstated—is its ability to give you control over your time. To obtain, bit by bit, a level of independence and autonomy that comes from unspent assets that give you greater control over what you can do and when you can do it.
3.11.1.19. But what could be more foolish than to marvel that something will happen on a certain day, when it could happen on any day? Our end-point is fixed where the inescapable necessity of the fates has planted it, but none of us knows how far off from that endpoint our course lies. Therefore let’s shape our minds as though we’d arrived at the last lap….
3.11.1.20. What difference does it make to extend something, if the amount of added time is little more than nothing? There’s only one way we can say that the life we live is long: if it’s enough.
3.11.1.20.1. Just as with storytelling, so with life: it’s important how well it is done, not how long. It doesn’t matter at what point you call a halt. Stop wherever you like; only put a good closer on it.9 Farewell. (Epistle 77.5–20)
3.11.1.21. At a party given by a billionaire on Shelter Island, Kurt Vonnegut informs his pal, Joseph Heller, that their host, a hedge fund manager, had made more money in a single day than Heller had earned from his wildly popular novel Catch-22 over its whole history. Heller responds, “Yes, but I have something he will never have … enough.”
3.11.1.22. The highest form of wealth is the ability to wake up every morning and say, “I can do whatever I want today.” People want to become wealthier to make them happier. Happiness is a complicated subject because everyone’s different. But if there’s a common denominator in happiness—a universal fuel of joy—it’s that people want to control their lives. The ability to do what you want, when you want, with who you want, for as long as you want, is priceless. It is the highest dividend money pays.
3.11.1.23. Being busy is often celebrated but that’s chaos, not clarity. It’s not something we should be proud of.
3.11.1.24. We construct a life of complexity, with the end goal of achieving a life of simplicity.
3.11.1.25. The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say no to almost everything. ~ Warren Buffet
3.11.1.26. How we spend our days is how we spend our lives.
3.11.1.27. How you do anything is how you do everything.
3.11.1.28. Humans are terrible at predicting the future and knowing what we truly want. So test your assumptions of what you want in life by shooting bullets before canon balls.
3.11.1.29. “In the future you will own nothing and have access to everything”
3.12. Jeff Bazos
3.12.1. https://www.fastcompany.com/90662406/jeff-bezos-uses-a-simple-framework-for-making-big-decisions-heres-how-it-works
3.13. How will you measure your life
3.13.1. https://hbr.org/2010/07/how-will-you-measure-your-life
3.14. MBS
3.14.1. Next big thing
3.15. https://hbr.org/2001/11/the-real-reason-people-wont-change
3.16. Rob Nixon
3.17. “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives. What we do with this hour, and that one, is what we are doing. A schedule defends from chaos and whim. It is a net for catching days. It is a scaffolding on which a worker can stand and labor with both hands at sections of time. A schedule is a mock-up of reason and order—willed, faked, and so brought into being; it is a peace and a haven set into the wreck of time; it is a lifeboat on which you find yourself, decades later, still living.”
3.18. https://ourworldindata.org/time-use
3.19. Design the long life you love
3.19.1. When I get lost in the messy middle, I look for my creative North Star—less is more.
3.20. Hell yeah or no
3.20.1. But on your death bed, you don’t want that horrible regret, feeling like you spent your life pursuing what someone said you should want, instead of what you actually wanted.
3.20.2. If I’m acting too undisciplined, I realize it’s because I’ve stopped vividly seeing my future. I can only see the present. If I’m acting too disconnected, I realize it’s because I’m obsessed with my goals. I can see only the future.
3.20.3. Saying no makes your yes more powerful.
3.20.4. Say no to almost everything. This starts to free your time and mind.
3.20.5. I never trust a yes from someone who never says no.
3.20.6. When this week did I NOT say no?
3.20.7. Most of us have lives filled with mediocrity. We said yes to things that we felt half-hearted about. So we’re too busy to react when opportunities come our way. We miss out on the great because we’re busy with the mediocre.
3.21. I try to embrace 2 extremes. The notion that I won't be here forever and that I should delay certain things. I have a long life so don't rush - Compound
3.22. 90 Day Year
3.23. Videos
3.23.1. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M3G9LOJZTmM
3.23.2. Tony Robbins
3.23.3. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3AO2U16uoeI
3.24. https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/work-sleep-family-fitness-or-friends-pick-3.html
3.25. https://www.facebook.com/JaysonGaignard/posts/pfbid0298KFAATWjhavk2kz8Xu7ZF2mWZXJeKT62wbr6zZcsw4Kq3DN575YVXFAxgMzX2xVl? __cft__[0]=AZWRE0-7RKuO2wBNH8TqdnW30dh6BUqT8I3TXQHuhLY4dpdcZ-0S3y2IzogcgDcltkhjaP1XCEAYUQVbD3_XbobwBEowsoDv6zEqliZELE44uKf1t3in3u1rS7SOEARSB--HR2MjxucM8rKeYo4cD936M8J3NcE7fQa_B76Sz11Oqw& __tn__=%2CO%2CP-R
4. Anchoring
4.1. Work
4.1.1. Freedom is…
4.1.2. I lose track of time when…
4.1.3. What is the perfect day | what is not the perfect day
4.1.4. Questions
4.1.4.1. Thinking back to what has driven you to become an entrepreneur. If you could sum up what you’re trying to move towards into one word, what would it be?
4.1.4.1.1. What are you in the pursuit of? What value?
4.1.4.2. What is the filter you use to make your most important life decisions?
4.1.4.3. What does legacy mean to you?
4.1.4.4. What is the purpose of your business?
4.1.4.4.1. Is it for you?
4.1.4.4.2. Is it for others?
4.1.4.5. Reflection
4.1.4.5.1. What’s your biggest achievement over the last year? How did you do it? What's your biggest learning in one sentence?
4.2. Life Wheel
4.2.1. Lots of examples of this already
4.2.1.1. Since many have done some version, it would be interesting to have fresh approach to it.
4.2.1.1.1. Have primers to make the responses more honest
4.2.1.1.2. Instead of focusing on the future, what is one area you've made great traction in the past 1 to 3 years? How did you do it? (Share)
4.2.2. Ikigai
4.2.3. What area is good enough? (None)
4.3. List your goals for 2023?
4.3.1. Boring exercise -> then put through the perfect day filter
4.4. Exercise: What do people get wrong with goal setting
5. Storytelling
5.1. Personal
5.1.1. Mechanic story
5.2. Clay Hebert - Less but better
5.3. Jim Carey - I am enough
5.4. Mexican fable
5.5. Mortality (Strong storytelling)
5.5.1. Lots of tangible business quotes
5.5.2. Lots of examples as to how others frame life in such a way
5.5.2.1. Tim Urban
5.5.2.1.1. Long tail
5.5.2.2. Steve Jobs
5.5.3. Statistically who is going to get sick
5.5.3.1. Increase chances of getting sick grow
5.5.4. Quotes on the importance of health
5.5.5. Photos of cancer
5.5.5.1. https://www.thesunmagazine.org/issues/451/the-battle-we-didnt-choose
5.5.6. 5 regrets of the dying
5.5.6.1. What matters
5.5.7. Jordan - I will no longer have cancer when cancer no longer serves me.
5.6. Decisions
5.6.1. Your decisions, not your conditions will determine the quality of your life (privileged plays a part). You could make all the right decisions, but if you live in Sudan or in 1,300.
5.6.2. Value based decisions
5.6.2.1. Values are individual and can / should change with time
5.6.2.2. The perfect day is simply a way to to articulate what you value through a vision based lens.
5.6.2.3. Don't tell me what you value - Show me. We all have a gap.
5.6.2.4. I have such a negative relationship with the notion of "values"
5.6.3. Draw storytelling on decisions from new member orientation
5.6.4. Let's identify what you value?
5.6.4.1. What's the behaviours associated with that? Are they in your calendar?
5.6.5. Did you live a life of unconscious behaviours?
5.6.6. What do you need to say no to in order to get closer to your perfect day?
5.7. The challenges with traditional goal setting
5.7.1. BHAG
5.7.1.1. I'll be successful "when"
5.7.1.2. People don't believe it emotionally
5.7.1.2.1. Rarely tangible
5.7.1.3. I keep fighting against it
5.7.2. Outcome focused, but you can't control outcomes
5.7.3. There's nothing so useless and approaching with great efficiency something that should't be pursued at all.
5.7.3.1. Why x 3
5.7.3.2. Unconscious drivers at play
6. Brain Dump
6.1. Opening
6.1.1. You don't understand people, you don't understand business.
6.1.2. I want to make your better leaders. And I want to make you whole (feel at peace)
6.2. Power of the perfect day, I know how to find my way back
6.3. No living being can be happy or even exist unless his needs are sufficiently proportioned to his means.
6.4. You have to put yourself first… Being selfish in the morning is about being selfless during the day.
6.5. A friendly reminder that in three generations everyone who knew us will be dead. Including the people whose opinions stopped you from doing what you wanted all along. When I’m 50, I’d trade everything I own to be 37 again. Which makes right now ? All the wealth I’d ever accumulate. Actions prove who someone is, words just prove who they want to be.
6.6. If it doesn’t bring you: Peace, Profits or purpose Then don’t give it: Time, Attention or Energy
7. Action Step / Commitment / Take away
7.1. What is one non-negotiable that you’re committed to (add or remove) effective today to get you closer to your perfect day?
7.1.1. It's probably something hard. But the hard life is the good life. Hard decisions, hard conversations, etc...
7.2. 90 day letter
7.2.1. Why?
7.2.1.1. It can be such a powerful exercise
7.2.1.2. Physical artifact after the event
7.2.2. Why 90 days?
7.3. Picture in frame
7.3.1. What would your 70 year old self say to your present day self
7.3.2. Aged picture of them
7.3.3. Days you've been alive on the back
7.3.3.1. When you see your life in a perspective of days
7.3.4. We all fall going uphill
7.3.5. Think in the decades, not the days.
7.4. What's your word? Why is it meaningful for you?
7.4.1. Sufficient 62 times
7.4.1.1. It's ok being ok
7.5. Why not now?
7.5.1. What's one thing you can do (today) to pause and appreciate the grass you're on
7.6. Eulogy Exercise
7.7. Relax for the same result
7.7.1. Where can you relax?
7.7.2. 100 year company
7.7.2.1. If it's not fun it doesn't get
7.7.2.2. What's the most important rule?
7.7.2.2.1. Compounding (Warren Buffett idea)
7.7.2.2.2. Don't get knocked out of the game (death / disease)
7.8. You don't need a big committment - you're all moving so fast.
7.9. Discussion (crowdsourcing wisdom / inspire)
7.9.1. What habit do you use to invest in your most important relationships
7.9.2. How do you involve your significant other in your vision?
7.9.2.1. At what point should you collaborate?
7.9.2.2. Do you know your partner's definition of success?
7.10. Redifine Success
7.10.1. I am successful when...
7.10.1.1. Shared success board
8. Next steps
8.1. Family Brand (what's the guiding principles of your family)
8.2. Vivid vision it
8.2.1. Raj example
8.3. How do you know you're living your values? When it's tied to behaviours and your calendar
8.3.1. Calendar what's most important