Is the idea of having one partner
for life still a realistic one?
by Kenneth Teo
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Is the idea of having one partner
for life still a realistic one?
Opposing argument 2
TOPIC SENTENCE: Negative influence
coming from the media as well as
people with influence, such as
politicians and celebrities.
EXPLANATION 1: gives the impression
that having multiple partners is
EXPLANATION 2: government leaders are
increasingly becoming involved in scandals,
influencing their followers who may think that it is
okay to follow suit
Consider carefully - are the examples of government
leaders really that important in considering marriage? Do
people look up to government leaders as marriage
models?, Scandalous behaviour by politicians can cause normalizing of
such social behaviour, more so if they are allowed to continue to
hold their leadership position. They may also influence policies,
which may change the mindsets of society to accepting this
EXPLANATION 3: The Media has undeniably became one of the most powerful tool of
communicating ideas and information in our world today. It is an influential institution that has
the innate ability to affect the way people live and behave. The media has since proliferated
the idea of having multiple partners through popular sitcoms, advertisements, etc, instilling in
people the idea that having multiple partners in their lives may actually be normal and
EXAMPLES: Celebrity scandals like tiger
woods/ Jack Neo, Government leaders
like Nicholas Sarkozy
Opposing argument 1
TOPIC SENTENCE: In our present society,
more and more people are unable to stay
committed to one partner for life.
EXPLANATION 1: Increasing divorce rate
Marriage is a social union or legal contract between people that creates kinship.
People are committing themselves into an agreement that they have pledged to stay truthful to.
When divorce rates are seen to be on the rise, it shows a break in commitment of staying truthful
and faithful to that one partner you have pledged to do so.
There is no faith to
see their marriage
through for life.
Many of them just
want the easy
way out of
EXPLANATION 3: demands of career results in stress and lesser
time available for their spouses. Hence leading to a lack of
communication and understanding, resulting in the inability to
commit to the relationship
EXAMPLES: Divorce rates in Singapore:
Reasons for divorce:
EXPLANATION 4: The value of
marriage has drastically changed
over the years. What was
deemed as a sacred matter is
now often taken very lightly.
EXAMPLE: Interesting article!
In relevance to article: "The issue is that people forget that they have become one, and today we
like to run from struggles. We allow what society holds as a standard (lack thereof) or what we’ve
become accustomed to overshadow what is really valuable. People don’t just disregard marriage,
but in today’s world people are ready to give up on anything when things become tough. We see
a struggle, and our first reaction is to run instead of jumping over the hurdle and seeing the glory
at the end of a tough run."
Is it a tussle between individual
No, it is no longer realistic.
Trends have been changing
from the past till the present
Considering the world that we live in today in
terms of social norms, cultural practices and
With the value of marriage becoming more and
more diluted, the younger generations do not
deem one partner for life a realistic one.
The idea of having one partner for life is slowly become an
ideal as compared to a reality in the past. However, in
Singapore, this ideal still prevails with respect to our Asian
Introduction is relevant to the question
requirements. Beware though - yr intro reads like it
has inherent contradictions. You say marriage for
life is no longer realistic, then you say the ideal
still prevails in SG. Hmm. Do you mean that while
it is still an ideal for many in most societies, this
ideal is no longer realistic in the context of modern
societies, even in more conservative societies?
Avoid saying that 'an ideal prevails' because that
makes it seem like you believe the statement to be
Supporting argument 1
TOPIC SENTENCE: Traditional
cultures still hold for many people
EXPLANATION 1: our roots still maintain from
past generations, prompting us to retain
important values on family and on faith
EXPLANATION 2: Religious institutions
also impart moral and social values
EXPLANATION 3: Our asian values and beliefs still prevail despite the huge
influence from the west and many Singaporeans still hold firm to these beliefs
and one of the significant belief is the idea of a family and staying loyal to one
partner. Divorce was very much a taboo word in the past and still is to older
Quote: "Asian values disappear
most slowly in SEA
communities."http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/1076055.stm, Good source
EXAMPLES: Churches of
different religions, cultural
A book in the bible, Genesis 2:24, suggests that marriage is the strongest
human bond that transforms two people into "one flesh." The priests and
pastors reemphasize the importance of having one spouse through biblical
teachings and do not condone polygamy by refusing to solemnise such
marriages., Good point to show the influence of religion, but be careful not to let this
point merely describe what the Bible says without linking it to the role of
religion in influencing marriage. Organisation is needed in this section.
You have too many explanations for one main point. Some of your
explanations (e.g 2 can be a point in itself). Explanations 1 and 3 are too
All in all
This is due to the amplification of the 'glory' of famous
political and cultural icons having more than one partner
in life, highly influential media, the increasingly
independent younger generation being able to support
themselves both financially and emotionally, as well as
the unwillingness of couples to stay committed to each
other throughout their lives.
Opposing argument 3
TOPIC SENTENCE: The idea of
individualism is strongly evident as our
EXPLANATION 1: In the past, divorce was for very practical
reasons as compared to today. Children were always seen to
"tie down" a marriage and holds back married couples
whenever they want to separate. However, the women in our
society today are becoming more and more independent and
do not believe in relying on men for financial support. Going
beyond that, women believe that they are able to provide
enough love to somewhat substitute for the lack of fatherly
love. Hence, children seem lesser of a concern when it
comes to divorce.This is more evident for women as
compared to men.
Research: In the past(1990s), there was strong social stigma for divorce
especially in chinese and indian families where the common grounds for divorce
is usually the inability of the husband to continue providing for the family. This is
opposed to the vast and diverse reasons that we have for divorce today,
infidelity, character differences, ideal deviation, changes in desires etc.
EXPLANATION 2: Individuals
value less of the idea of marriage
being a unity. Hence, once they
feel that they are not satisfied or
are not fulfilled as an individual
in the marriage, they are willing
to forgo this unity, with much
emphasis on "I".