Firmer and Gentler Relationship
by Cuaresma Adrienne Leigh
1. Foster unity
1.1. There is unity in the family despite the differences
1.2. by doing its specific roles
1.3. promote it by building a bond among the members
2. Involve each other
2.1. Every member of the family is important. Include them in significant decision-making in family life.
3. Respect Individuality
3.1. Give higher regard by appreciating the uniqueness of every member
3.2. Respect can be earned without comparing one with another
4. Model the behavior
4.1. setting yourself as an example that is worth following to other members
5. Explain expectations and consequences
5.1. Let every family member understand their responsibility
5.2. consequences must be clarified, so they will also know their accountability.
6. Reward good behavior
6.1. excellent motivation for any family member
6.2. excellent motivation for any family member
7. Give love and forgiveness
7.1. give love and accept love
7.2. it is the core of relationships to make it stronger and better
8. Express gratitude
8.1. giving positive words and expressing gratitude.
8.2. Communicate with constructive words and affirmation.
9. Nurture trust
9.1. promotes dignity and integrity in the relationship.
9.2. it challenges the person to do better because others
10. Take time together
10.1. Spending time together helps to know each other better
10.2. promote authentic and stronger relationships
11. Listen attentively
11.1. Give your attention to the one who has concerns
11.2. enables you to understand the motives, feelings, and ideas of others
11.3. deeper the understanding between each family member, the stronger the family is.
12. Ensure safety
12.1. members should feel safe and secured
12.2. Be sure that no abuses and domestic violence are happening among the members
12.3. Do not put your family in danger.
13. Remember God
13.1. Acknowledge God as the Source, great provider,
13.2. and the center of the relationship.
13.3. pleasing both to God and others.
14. Pray always
14.1. Seek strength and help from God in all circumstances
14.2. A family that prays together stays stronger.
15. Learn good communication
15.1. promotes knowledge and understanding of the situation in the family.
15.2. expressing one's concerns and feelings, not blaming and condemning others.
16. Accept failures
16.1. Nobody is perfect; everyone makes mistakes.
16.2. gives room for learning and improvement in your relationship.
17. Nourish each other
17.1. Nourish the family with kindness and gentleness.
17.2. Stop being rude or harsh toward each other.
18. Serve one another
18.1. treating everyone as important to you.
18.2. the burden of the family becomes lighter.