* Recurring dreams and/or thoughts about former lovers
* Inability to achieve emotional intimacy with spouse
* Regret or bitterness toward people who hurt us in past relationships
* Comparing our spouse with former lovers in sexual performance
* Distorted understanding of true love (corrupted by lust or other selfishness)
* Increased promiscuity, in attempt to find true intimacy and love
See our prayers for healing memories for more info., "Dear Lord, I pray that you will not remember the sins of my youth. Please think of me according to Your mercy and for Your goodness' sake, O LORD. Lord I turn from all of those sins that I committed. Please wash my memory of my sin and help me remove the sin from my mind completely. Help me not to return to those memories for lust any longer. Please restore me to faithfully obey Your Word. Please fill me with Your Holy Spirit anew, so that I may keep Your commands all the days of my life." (Based on Psalm 25:7), "Lord God, how can I understand my errors? Cleanse me from secret faults and my cherished sins. Keep me back from blatant habitual sin. Lord, do not let sin rule over me. Cleanse me, forgive me and heal me. Then I will be blameless and innocent from my many sins. Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable to you. Lord, you are my strength and my redeemer. I pray this in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen." (based on Psalm 19:12-14 NKJV), "Father God, please forgive me for cherishing sinful images in my mind. Lord, I commit my thoughts to You. I surrender the burden of holiness to You, and ask that You will strengthen me now to direct my thoughts in righteousness. Father, help me to not dwell on any image or memory that will cause me to sin. Please wash my mind with the blood of Jesus Christ. Please remove every depiction of sin from my memory and teach me how to walk in obedience and faithfulness to You. Please give me the strength and endurance to walk to victory, no matter how long it takes. I invite Your Holy Spirit to fill me afresh now and restart the renewal process of my body, mind and spirit in Jesus Christ. Thank You, Father and may I glorify You in everything that I do from this point forward. In Jesus name, Amen."
If we want to gain complete victory, we will have to stop lusting over the memories of past.
cherishing memories of sin can block our prayers, healing and deliverance (Psalm 66:18).
With the Holy Spirit's help, we can put the old memories to death, shut off the porn input and focus our minds on God (Romans 8:11,13).
The first step toward healing is to ask God to remove our pleasure from the sin memories and to help us want to surrender them.
We also want to ask God to help us to see our sin the way he does.
we need to confess and renounce the sin in the memories
we must start training our minds to think pure thoughts., "Father God, please wash my memory with the blood of Jesus and help me die to any sinful pleasure I have in it. Please forgive me for any sin I have committed in my thoughts. Thank you, Father. In Jesus' name I pray, Amen.", I say something like, "The blood of Jesus cleanses my mind from that memory." I often repeat this until the temptation subsides., we have spiritual enemies (Ephesians 6:12) who are masters at tempting us in our thoughts, The power of the imagination:, Our imagination is a powerful gift from God. Imagination is a collection of focused thoughts that creates a reality in our mind. As we are made in God's likeness, our imagination is a scaled down version of God's imagination. God spoke the universe into existence from his imagination. Similarly, we can create things in our imaginations. For example, with one glimpse at a porn picture, I can imagine what it might be like to have sex with the person in the picture. Where the picture only gives me a visual impression, my imagination fills in the rest of the details: sounds, feelings, words, scenario, etc. Through such a fantasy, I commit sexual sin with the person in my mind (Matthew 5:28).
begins when we start pursuing the pleasures of sin and disregard our conscience of right and wrong
The more we pursue sin, the more our conscience becomes dulled
A dull conscience causes us to be susceptible to enemy's lies which will draw us progressively further from God
we may not even think our actions are sinful and our ability to repent can be hindered
Solomon, the wisest person that ever lived, descended into spiritual confusion through sexual idolatry with his pagan wives.
sexual promiscuity and idolatry opened the door to many other forms of evil, Romans 1:28-32
Any sin we practice will grieve God's Spirit (Ephesians 4:31)
It puts out the "fire" of the Holy Spirit in our life (1 Thessalonians 5:19).
The more we quench God's Spirit, the less we will be inclined to live a changed life in righteousness.
Sex sin is unique in that we commit it against our own bodies (1 Corinthians 6:17).
Our bodies function as temples of God's Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:12-20).
When we repeatedly sin, we give evil an increasingly protected place in our lives.
The more we give in to our sinful lusts, the more they have control over us., slavery to sin in Romans 6:16.
Sexual strongholds are particularly powerful, since they involve our body, soul and spirit.
Sex sin usually feeds a growing fire of lust in our minds.
If we continue to feed that fire, we can easily drift further and further into decadence.
Paul described this state as indulgence in every kind of impurity, with continual lust for more (Ephesians 4:19, Romans 1:24-28)., Romans1:24-28, Ephesians4:19
Take the thought captive: When evil thoughts come into our mind, we must recognize them, arrest them and command them to submit to Jesus Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5). We have about 2-3 seconds to make the decision not to sin with the thought. After that point, we're much less likely to stop resisting the temptation.
* Ask God to help us
* Bind any evil spirits that may be projecting the thoughts: "In the name of Jesus Christ, I bind any evil spirits that are projecting these thoughts, I loose the peace of Christ in my mind" (see binding prayers). Our authority to bind evil spirits comes from these scriptures: Matthew 12:29; Matthew 16:19; Matthew 18:18; Luke 10:19-20; Mark 16:17-18; Psalm 91:13; Acts 16:18.
* Apply the blood of Jesus: "I cover my mind and thoughts with the blood of Jesus. It cleanses and protects me.", "Lord, I cover myself and everyone around me with the blood of Jesus. I cover all of the members of my family (state them by name) with the blood of Jesus. I cover my home, my land, my car, my finances, my marriage, my ministry, with the blood of Jesus. In the Name of Jesus Christ, by the power of His blood, I break off every power of the kingdom of darkness and cancel every argument in heaven that has established itself against the plans of God in my life and spoil every attack of the enemy. I call forth, in the name of Jesus, all of God's plans and purposes for my life, and my family. As for me and my house, we shall serve the Lord. Satan, the blood of Jesus is against you and you have no authority over my life. NO WEAPON FORMED AGAINST ME (OR MY FAMILY) SHALL PROSPER!"**, Applying the blood of Christ should be done with understanding, reverence and recognition of its meaning. As with all spiritual weapons, our understanding combined with belief (faith) will unleash God's power in the situation we are facing.
Links, help, binding prayers, Matthew 12:29; Matthew 16:19; Matthew 18:18; Luke 10:19-20; Mark 16:17-18; Psalm 91:13; Acts 16:18, blood of Jesus, "It is when we testify personally to what the blood of Jesus does for us that we can claim all the benefits that God has provided for us through the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross. Our bold, continuing personal testimony becomes the hyssop that applies the blood of Jesus to our lives.", Using the blood in spiritual warfare:, * Redeems and cleanses me from past, present and future sin (Ephesians 1:7, 1 John 1:7), * Justifies me, making me righteous, as if I had never sinned (Romans 5:9, Hebrews 13:12), * Cleanses my mind and conscience from sin and the memories it created (Hebrews 9:14), * Reconciles me with God, because Jesus bore all the punishment for my sin (Romans 5:1, 1 Peter 2:24); I am forgiven for all my sins (1 John 1:9)!, * Enables me to boldly approach God's throne without fear of punishment (Hebrews 10:19)
Matthew 5:28 "But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." (NKJV)
Luke 11: 34 "Your eye is the lamp of your body. When your eyes are good, your whole body also is full of light. But when they are bad, your body also is full of darkness." (NIV)
1 Corinthians 6:18 “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.” (NKJV)
2 Corinthians 10:-4-5 "For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds; Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ" (KJV)
Philippians 4:8 "Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy--meditate on these things." (NKJV)
Colossians 3:1-4 “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. When Christ, who is your life, appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.” (NKJV)
God instituted marriage between one man and one woman to be the closest earthly representation of a much greater reality; Christ and His Church
He knows that when believers act like the sanctified people they are God is released to do powerful wonders among them
Satan was cast out of heaven as a result. Likewise, using our imaginations sinfully places an obstacle between us and God. Thankfully, we have the power to control our thoughts and honor God with them.
Regardless of how many people look at it, regardless of how many respected businesses are marketing it, porn is evil. Perhaps the biggest profiteer from porn is not a place called the Lion's Den, but a corporation called General Motors. Maybe you thought the world's biggest company simply marketed cars and trucks, but General Motors also markets huge amounts of porn through its subsidiary, DirectTV. The New York Times reported that General Motors "sells more graphic sex films every year than does Larry Flynt, owner of the Hustler empire." Communications giants AT&T, NewsCorp, and AOL Time Warner make more profit peddling porn than Playboy does. Hotels and motels owned by Hilton, Marriot, and other famous names are into pornography big-time. The fact that mainstream corporations peddle porn might seem to make it respectable and acceptable, but it's not. It's evil.
Nude girls programs subconscious; telling it that it's what your body desires
We can fight it using this
Our brains like pictures
Pictures speak a thousand words
Something interesting I do is..., Look at Pictures, Starving Children, Abortion Photos, Genocide, Things that are going on in the world that we need to change, things that are close to God's heart.
Youth, Dating, Destiny, Flee, Lusts, Youthful, Pornography, The Bible says bluntly, "Flee from sexual immorality" (1 Cor. 6:18)., Pursue, Righteousness, Faith, Love, Peace
While masturbation, you lose blood, which means you lose energy. When energy has been lost, attention span and motivation reduces due to it. While sex, you do some action with your body, kinda like exercising, which livens you up and helps blood circulation too. If you exercise, play a sport, or any physical exercise. it should help.
Here’s a small list (though not an exhaustive one): - Fatigue - Lower back pain - Thinning hair/hair loss - Weak erection - Premature ejaculation - Groin/testicular pain - Concentration and memory problems - Sleep problems This doesn’t mean that one shall experience all of these effects, though they are very common. Did you know that every time you ejaculate, you lose approximately 3-5mg of zinc, that’s nearly a third of your RDA. Zinc is one of the main minerals responsible for testosterone production, therefore less zinc, less testosterone etc. I know some clever person out there is surmising that the same effects should occur when one has sexual intercourse, right? Sorry to disappoint! When a man has sexual intercourse with a female, certain trace minerals and prostaglandins are absorbed from the female vaginal secretions which balance this effect! Bet you didn’t know that?! Do you really want to be a one-minute man and look like an idiot when you are with your partner? I thought not. I advise those who masturbate regularly, to stop! Eat some Oysters (very high in Zinc) and plenty of fruit and vegetables. Fast, for fasting diminishes one’s sexual desires, unless of course you can get married or something and keep busy, “For idle hands make work for…” Masturbation Makes You Lazy Through masturbating, your energy will become lower and you'll lack drive and momentum to reach your goals. This happens very subtly and will not be noticeable at first. The more you masturbate, the more the results will be obvious. The other negative impact is that you want have the mental clarity you need to connect with women successfully, and masturbation doesn't help that. Masturbation Makes You Fantasise Fantasising makes you lose a state of presence, which is an absolute fundamental to being able to approach and talk to new women successfully. If you fantasise, you will also develop the momentum to fantasise even more which brings and keeps you out of the presence state as a default. Masturbation Makes Your Energy Flow In The Wrong Place In masturbation, your emphasis is on sensual pleasure, fantasising and desire, and it's in these places that your energy will flow. However, where you really want the energy to go is in the state of presence, being able to connect with a woman and being genuinely interested in her. Energy is like an investment, and wherever you put your attention and energy is what you're going to get more of. So placing your emphasis on the latter and not the former is what you must do to succeed. Masturbation Makes You Lose Masculinity Masturbation will have you being more reactionary and subordinate in your behavior. This basically means you won't be in control of your life and will be subject to the whims and desires of other people (such as your boss, parents, spouse, friends, colleagues etc). What To Expect Your objective should be to quit masturbation altogether. You will only really quit for good when you genuinely realise deep inside how much of a waste of time it is. Second, you will need to re-direct your energy from a focus on masturbation, to a focus on being present, opening a conversation with a new woman and showing genuine interest in her. Please don’t believe the fallacy that these so-called experts proclaim! Masturbation is not healthy and is quite detrimental to put it mildly!
Take a piss try to force it out stronger thats a reverse kegel. Because regular kegels you suck in like your stopping you self from pissing. Step 1 Locate your frontal penile muscles when urinating. Contract the muscle at the front of your penis to allow the urine stream to evacuate faster. Step 2 Sit in a quiet room. Breathe deeply to clear your mind of any distracting thoughts. You should be focused and centered before starting. Dimming the lights and closing the curtains can help you to achieve a relaxed state. Step 3 Focus on your penile muscles, and start to contract the muscles located at the front of the penis. Keep your pelvic muscles relaxed as you do this. Step 4 Breathe deeply and "push" out the muscles, keeping pelvic muscles relaxed and focusing on the frontal penile muscles. Hold the muscle contraction for a few seconds, then relax and exhale. Step 5 Repeat for 10 to 15 repetitions, slowly increasing your repetitions daily. Take a leak, but stop half way. Those muscles activated are you regular kegel targets. Now start again but try to push the stream out as hard as you can. You've just performed a reverse kegel. Now that you know what you're doing, it's time to practice. Focus on the muscles to stop the flow, activate and hold for 10 seconds. Now do the opposite, but hold for the same duration. Repeat 10 times. If you want to see a significant difference you should aim to do these activities at least 3 times a day to begin with. You can do them anywhere, while driving, walking or having lunch. Even while watching TV. Build up till you're performing them 10 times a day. Male porn stars have been found to have incredibly strong and well conditioned PC muscles. They may have developed theirs by luck, but you can work on yours and get the same great effect. Reverse kegels may just be the secret for how to last like a porn star. Performing Reverse Kegel Exercises Find a quiet and private place to practice your reverse kegels. You’ll need to take your time when you first begin, so be patient if you don’t feel like you’re understanding the technique right away. You’ll need to settle into a place without any interruptions. Then, you will need to: 1. Relax the penile area completely and clear your mind of tension and anxiety. You want to be calm and relaxed so that the blood can flow into your penis. 2. Begin contracting the penile muscles. Focus on contracting the muscles near the front of your penis while keeping the rest of the pelvic area as relaxed as possible. The goal is to make your penis become more stronger and more erect without actually having an erection. 3. Breathe deeply and slowly as you push out the muscles in the penile area and maintain focus on strengthening only the top and lower end of the penis. Take note of how relaxed and loose the muscles directly under your penis are. 4. Let go of the contraction and breathe more deeply as you exhale. Let your penis relax, then take another deep breath and contract again. Make sure you are only focusing on the front of your penis; push out, hold for a few seconds, then relax the muscles. 5. Repeat the cycle for at least 10-15 times per session so that you feel comfortable with the movement. The entire process will feel awkward at first, but it’s very important to focus on relaxation and keeping the muscles as loose as possible outside of the contractions. You can work your way up to 40-50 exercises per session as your penis becomes stronger. Tips for Performing Reverse Kegels If you’re a beginner at reverse kegel exercises, use some of these tips for better results: Breathe deeply and suck in the air against the diaphragm during the initial stages to help you relax better. Focus on relieving the contraction of the frontal penile muscles as if you are ‘letting go.’ You can experience the reverse kegel contraction while urinating; essentially, you will want to focus on supplying the penis with more energy so that you urinate at a faster rate. The process occurring here is the same as releasing the muscles when you are ejaculating. You’ll notice a significant increase in strength and in your contractions within a few weeks; continue doing the exercises to build up more strength in the frontal area of the pelvis Kegel exercises will also strengthen the bladder muscles, which can reduce your risk of urinating during sexual intercourse and further enhancing your sexual experience. If you experience any type of pain when you are performing these exercises, consult with your physician for a checkup. Other Benefits of Kegel Exercises Most people undertake kegel exercises for a more satisfying sex life; when a partner can maintain a longer erection, the act of love making can be a more sensual and satisfying experience. Reverse kegel exercises may also give men more confidence in the bedroom. Performing kegel exercises regularly may also reduce the risk of prostate cancer in some men; an unhealthy prostate typically results from a poor diet and inefficient circulation in the penile area. Kegel exercises can help to keep the prostate healthy and performing at its optimal level. This is an exercise mainly dedicated for men. It promises to increase erections and penile control. The reverse Kegel is a great exercise for men that have problems with sexual endurance, particularly with regards to premature ejaculation. This being said, if your partner is at time frustrated with the fact that you get off before she does, then you may want to consider doing these exercises regularly in order to improve your endurance and provide the sexual satisfaction she deserves. Blowing your load too early is really something you should work on. Here are some tips on how to do the reverse Kegel to turbo boost your experience in the bedroom. Start with a place of practice. Since this exercise is sensitive in nature and quite awkward, you will first want to select an area that is enclosed, secure, and private. You will want to do the exercises without distractions as well so going with a serene place is highly recommended. Remember that relaxation is key here so make sure you are not too stressed out by the environment as well. The fewer elements distracting you, the better. Start contracting. It may seem funny to you but the exercise is done by contracting the muscles found in your penis. Yes, it has muscles and you need to be able to contract and control it. What you want to do is to focus primarily at the base of your penis. The muscle found here is what you will want to contract as your pelvis is completely relaxed. You will know when you are able to feel the muscles when you feel your penis being pushed up. The muscles found in your buttocks will contract as well but do make sure your pelvis is relaxed when you do this. Don’t neglect breathing. Breathing is critical as you do this exercise. You will want to inhale as you contract and hold your breath while your muscles are contracted. As you release the contraction, you will want to exhale. Deep breathing is another key factor here so make sure you consciously make an effort to breathe. Contract and release. To properly perform the exercises, you will want to know how to do it in terms of repetitions and the holding and release of the contractions. With regard to repetitions, you will want to start with a set of 10 reps. As you progress up the ante by adding more reps to each set. With regards to the holding and releasing of the contractions, you will want to contract the muscles and hold it for about 10 to 15 seconds then release. When you release, your entire pelvic area including your buttocks and penis should be relaxed. This will simulate erecting your penis and then relaxing it while in intercourse. This will help you fend off the urge to explode while maintaining the hard erection your partner will always look for.
First, something so basic it should hardly need saying: recognize that pornography is bad. It's not enough to know that porn is bad, but it's a starting point. You'll never escape from a trap if you think it's not a trap at all, but a haven of happiness and pleasure.
Once you recognize that pornography is evil and harmful, make it your goal to stay away from it. Willpower alone can't overcome an attachment to porn. You need power from God and fulfillment in him. But before God gives you that power, your will must be aiming at God's will.
How should you deal with sexual temptation? First of all, stay as far from it as you possibly can. The Bible doesn't say, "Get close to tempting situations and prove how strong you are by resisting as well as you can." The Bible says bluntly, "Flee from sexual immorality" (1 Cor. 6:18). Flee! Run away! Get as far from it as possible. Stay out of stores that sell porn. Stay away from stores that rent sex videos. Don't subscribe to any TV package with filthy shows. Avoid motel rooms that offer "adult" material on the television. Scripture warns a young man about a tempting woman: "Her steps lead straight to the grave.... Keep to a path far from her" (Prov. 5:5, 8).
When temptation can't be avoided and comes very close, what can you do? Well, be on the lookout for the best way out of it. Don't look for a way to go further in; watch for the surest way to escape. The Bible promises followers of Jesus, "God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it" (1 Cor. 10:13).
Force your feet to go in another direction immediately. If you're in a motel room with bad stuff, don't pick up the TV remote. Pick up the telephone and call someone, either your wife or, if you're single, someone who can encourage you and hold you accountable. Temptation grows stronger in secrecy; it wilts in the light. Many Christian men help each other by telling their struggles to each other and by helping each other to be honest and to keep seeking purity.
If you are married, do all you can to make the marriage stronger and warmer – and don't neglect lovemaking. Singles with strong sexual passions should seek and pray for someone to marry, and married couples should enjoy each other's bodies passionately and frequently – that's part of biblical wisdom and common sense for handling God-given sexual desires. But if you're already in the pornography trap, don't assume a good marriage will fix it. If you're single and have a porn habit, don't assume you'll be able to kick the habit simply by getting married and having a real woman. While you're still unmarried, before you have a wife, face your problem and fight it. Otherwise, you're likely to carry the pornography habit into the marriage, and you'll hurt your wife, yourself, and your relationship. Married men who have a porn habit shouldn't try to say that their habit would vanish if only their wife were nicer and sexier. If you have a porn problem, don't make it someone else's problem. Take responsibility for your own actions and character. Seek to change what's wrong with you, not what might be wrong with someone else. Bring your problem to God, ask for forgiveness and help, and become accountable to someone else.
Having said all that, let's get back to where we started: when a man looks at pornography, he is really looking for God. He is trying to satisfy an emptiness than only God can fill. So don't settle for trying to remove pornography from your life. You don't just need less pornography; you need more of the grace of God and the Spirit of God. If you have not been born again and don't belong to Jesus, you must be born again into a living relationship with the Lord. Pornography may be a sin, but it's not your most serious sin. Your most serious sin is unbelief: turning from God and choosing to live without him. Repent. Confess your rebellion. Ask God to forgive you for Jesus' sake, and trust that he will do so. His blood can cover your sin, and his Spirit can put the God-life inside you, transforming you into a new person. If you're already a born-again, committed Christian, keep growing in God's grace and in having more and more of your heart and life filled by the Holy Spirit. Just because you're a genuine Christian, it doesn't mean you'll never be tempted. Just because you're a real Christian, it doesn't mean you'll never sin. You'll fight temptation more effectively and you'll sin less frequently than you did without Christ, but you are still far from perfect in this life. Be realistic about that, but don't let it discourage you. The Bible says, "Though a righteous man falls seven times, he rises again" (Prov. 24:16). Even if you still sin, it is spiritual growth to hate sin rather than love it, to fight it rather than wallow in it. Pray for God to fill you with more of his living water and to keep you from trying to satisfy your deepest thirst with pornography or any other idol. Spend time with the Lord each day in prayer and Bible reading. Worship with other Christians every week in church, and if you need special help, find an accountability partner to encourage you and help you stay on track. None of this is a magic cure for pornography, but these things will help you get closer to God. The more you seek the Lord and the closer you get to him, the more he will fill your heart and the less room there will be for pornography. Trust God's grace to pardon you and liberate you, and live in dependence on the Holy Spirit's power. Take to heart God's Word: "The grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men. It teaches us to say 'No' to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age" (Titus 2:12). "Live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature" (Gal. 5:16).
The Bible says, "Live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature" (Gal. 5:16). . Jesus said, "Anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matt. 5:28). . Job said, "I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl" (Job 31:1). The Bible says, "Treat ... younger women as sisters, with absolute purity" (1 Tim. 5:12) The Bible says, "Do not lust in your heart after her beauty.... Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned?" (Prov. 6:25, 27). Matthew 5:28 - But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Proverbs 6:25 - Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes. 1 Peter 2:11 - Dear friends, I urge you, as aliens and strangers in the world, to abstain from sinful desires, which war against your soul.
Entrapment in pornography happens when your wires get crossed inside and the craving for God gets mixed up with the craving for sexual stimulation. Each of us is designed for a love relationship with God. We're made in such a way that we can be fully satisfied only by connecting with the Lord and by savoring a joy that is out of this world. The Bible says that God has "set eternity in the hearts of men" (Eccl. 3:11). This built-in craving for the eternal is so powerful that if we try to satisfy it with anything but God, we will be trapped, enslaved, and addicted by that thing. Whether it's pornography or alcohol or food or sports or achievement or something else, if we try to fill our God-craving with a non-God object, we get hooked. When you lock your eyes on a sex scene, you are really looking for God and for an adventurous, eternal relationship with him. But you're looking in the wrong place. All sin, including use of pornography, is a matter of not being satisfied in God and looking for satisfaction outside of God and outside of his way. The built-in desire for God is so strong that if it latches onto something less than God, it becomes slavery and addiction to that thing. Jesus said, "Everyone who sins is a slave to sin" (John 8:34). People without any relationship to God can be trapped by pornography, and so can some Christians who have real faith and have tasted something of God's grace, but still have misdirected desires. To be free of the pornography trap, they need to find fuller satisfaction in God. John Eldredge says, "In the heart of every man is a desperate desire for a battle to fight, an adventure to live, and a beauty to rescue." This is no accident; it's part of the way God has put us together. The male heart wants to prove its strength against some obstacle, do something daring and exciting, and be a hero to a woman and win her admiration and love. In his book Wild at Heart, John Eldredge writes, If a man does not find those things for which his heart is made, if he is never even invited to live for them in his deep heart, he will look for them in some other way. Why is pornography the number one snare for men? He longs for the beauty, but without his fierce and passionate heart he cannot find her or win or keep her. Though he is powerfully drawn to the woman, he does not know how to fight for her or even that he is to fight for her. Rather, he finds her mostly a mystery that he knows he cannot solve, and so at soul level he keeps his distance. And privately, secretly, he turns to the imitation. What makes pornography so addictive is that more than anything else in a lost man's life, it makes him feel like a man without ever requiring a thing of him. The less a guy feels like a real man in the presence of a real woman, the more vulnerable he is to porn. Pornography provides false fulfillment when what men really hunger for is God, and pornography provides false manhood to men who are starving to be masculine. If a woman, or lots of women, are willing to get naked just for you, you must be a man! Of course it's not really just for you, says Eldredge, but it feels that way when you're alone with the pictures. Greater freedom comes with greater fulfillment: your craving for the eternal must be filled fuller with God's Holy Spirit, and your craving for real manhood must be filled fuller by living your God-given masculine identity.
TRANSUMATION The meaning of the word "transmute" is, in simple language, "the changing, or transferring of one element, or form of energy, into another." Why Men Seldom Succeed before Forty I discovered, from the analysis of over 25,000 people, that men who succeed in an outstanding way, seldom do so before the age of forty, and more often they do not strike their real pace until they are well beyond the age of fifty. This fact was so astounding that it prompted me to go into the study of its cause most carefully, carrying the investigation over a period of more than twelve years. This study disclosed the fact that the major reason why the majority of men who succeed do not begin to do so before the age of forty to fifty, is their tendency to DISSIPATE their energies through over indulgence in physical expression of the emotion of sex. The majority of men never learn that the urge of sex has other possibilities, which far transcend in importance, that of mere physical expression. The majority of those who make this discovery, do so after having wasted many years at a period when the sex energy is at its height, prior to the age of forty-five to fifty. This usually is followed by noteworthy achievement. The lives of many men up to, and sometimes well past the age of forty, reflect a continued dissipation of energies, which could have been more profitably turned into better channels. Their finer and more powerful emotions are sown wildly to the four winds. Out of this habit of the male, grew the term, "sowing his wild oats." The desire for sexual expression is by far the strongest and most impelling of all the human emotions, and for this very reason this desire, when harnessed and transmuted into action, other than that of physical expression, may raise one to the status of a genius. One of America's most able business men frankly admitted that his attractive secretary was responsible for most of the plans he created. He admitted that her presence lifted him to heights of creative imagination, such as he could experience under no other stimulus. One of the most successful men in America owes most of his success to the influence of a very charming young woman, who has served as his source of inspiration for more than twelve years. Everyone knows the man to whom this reference is made, but not everyone knows the REAL SOURCE of his achievements. t is not just having a high sex drive, but knowing how to use it. Sexual desire is the most motivating emotion to man. We think we are rational beings but emotion is stronger than rational thinking. How do you persuade someone? Through emotion, by targeting someone’s heart. By knowing what ‘pulls their strings”. Emotions stimulate powerful chemicals in our body. Biology is pretty hard to override. Chemicals can be mind controlling whether they are natural or synthetic. Our sexual hormones and chemicals can be as powerful as heroine and morphine. Modern scientists have compared the brain tomography of an orgasm to shooting up heroine. We have seen the affects that drugs and heroine have on our youth and society, so that comparison is a startling discovery that our own bodies can produce natural chemicals and powerful and controlling as an illicit illegal street drug responsible for ruining lives and increasing crime rates. So the bottom line is, if we don’t control our sexual hormones, then our hormones will control us. So how do we control and override nature? Napoleons book focuses on self development and the power of the mind. The key is learning to control our mind which will enable us to gain more control over our emotions and biology. Napoleon also talks about the power of the subconscious mind and auto suggestion. These are important ingredients to mix with the emotion of sex to produce powerful results. A high sex drive needs an outlet. Know what your passion is so that you can focus all your powerful sexual energy into productivity. The emotion of sex has back of it the possibility of three constructive potentialities, they are: 1. The perpetuation of mankind. 2. The maintenance of health, (as a therapeutic agency, it has no equal). 3. The transformation of mediocrity into genius through transmutation. Sex desire is the most powerful of human desires. When driven by this desire, men develop keenness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence, and creative ability unknown to them at other times. So strong and impelling is the desire for sexual contact that men freely run the risk of life and reputation to indulge it. When harnessed, and redirected along other lines, this motivating force maintains all of its attributes of keenness of imagination, courage, etc., which may be used as powerful creative forces in literature, art, or in any other profession or calling, including, of course, the accumulation of riches. The transmutation of sex energy calls for the exercise of will-power, to be sure, but the reward is worth the effort. The desire for sexual expression is inborn and natural. The desire cannot, and should not be submerged or eliminated. But it should be given an outlet through forms of expression which enrich the body, mind, and spirit of man. If not given this form of outlet, through transmutation, it will seek outlets through purely physical channels. A river may be dammed, and its water controlled for a time, but eventually, it will force an outlet. The same is true of the emotion of sex. It may be submerged and controlled for a time, but its very nature causes it to be ever seeking means of expression. If it is not transmuted into some creative effort it will find a less worthy outlet. Relationship of Achievement to Highly Developed Sex Natures Fortunate, indeed, is the person who has discovered how to give sex emotion an outlet through some form of creative effort, for he has, by that discovery, lifted himself to the status of a genius. Scientific research has disclosed these significant facts: 1. The men of greatest achievement are men with highly developed sex natures; men who have learned the art of sex transmutation. 2. The men who have accumulated great fortunes and achieved outstanding recognition in literature, art, industry, architecture, and the professions, were motivated by the influence of a woman. The research from which these astounding discoveries were made, went back through the pages of biography and history for more than two thousand years. Wherever there was evidence available in connection with the lives of men and women of great achievement, it indicated most convincingly that they possessed highly developed sex natures. The emotion of sex is an "irresistible force," against which there can be no such opposition as an "immovable body." When driven by this emotion, men become gifted with a super power for action. Understand this truth, and you will catch the significance of the statement that sex transmutation will lift one to the status of a genius. The emotion of sex contains the secret of creative ability. Destroy the sex glands, whether in man or beast, and you have removed the major source of action. For proof of this, observe what happens to any animal after it has been castrated. A bull becomes as docile as a cow after it has been altered sexually. Sex alteration takes out of the male, whether man or beast, all the FIGHT that was in him. Sex alteration of the female has the same effect. The Ten Mind Stimuli The human mind responds to stimuli, through which it may be "keyed up" to high rates of vibration, known as enthusiasm, creative imagination, intense desire, etc. The stimuli to which the mind responds most freely are: 1. The desire for sex expression 2. Love 3. A burning desire for fame, power, or financial gain, MONEY 4. Music 5. Friendship between either those of the same sex, or those of the opposite sex. 6. A Master Mind alliance based upon the harmony of two or more people who ally themselves for spiritual or temporal advancement. 7. Mutual suffering, such as that experienced by people who are persecuted. 8. Auto-suggestion 9. Fear 10. Narcotics and alcohol. The desire for sex expression comes at the head of the list of stimuli, which most effectively "stepup" the vibrations of the mind and start the "wheels" of physical action. Eight of these stimuli are natural and constructive. Two are destructive. The list is here presented for the purpose of enabling you to make a comparative study of the major sources of mind stimulation. From this study, it will be readily seen that the emotion of sex is, by great odds, the most intense and powerful of all mind stimuli. This comparison is necessary as a foundation for proof of the statement that transmutation of sex energy may lift one to the status of a genius. Let us find out what constitutes a genius. Some wiseacre has said that a genius is a man who "wears long hair, eats queer food, lives alone, and serves as a target for the joke makers." A better definition of a genius is, "a man who has discovered how to increase the vibrations of thought to the point where he can freely communicate with sources of knowledge not available through the ordinary rate of vibration of thought." The person who thinks will want to ask some questions concerning this definition of genius. The first question will be, "How may one communicate with sources of knowledge which are not available through the ORDINARY rate of vibration of thought?" The next question will be, "Are there known sources of knowledge which are available only to genii, and if so, WHAT ARE THESE SOURCES, and exactly how may they be reached?" We shall offer proof of the soundness of some of the more important statements made in this book— or at least we shall offer evidence through which you may secure your own proof through experimentation, and in doing so, we shall answer both of these questions. "Genius" Is Developed through the Sixth Sense The reality of a "sixth sense" has been fairly well established. This sixth sense is "Creative Imagination." The faculty of creative imagination is one which the majority of people never use during an entire lifetime, and if used at all, it usually happens by mere accident. A relatively small number of people use, WITH DELIBERATION AND PURPOSE AFORETHOUGHT, the faculty of creative imagination. Those who use this faculty voluntarily, and with understanding of its functions, are GENII. The faculty of creative imagination is the direct link between the finite mind of man and Infinite Intelligence. All so-called revelations, referred to in the realm of religion, and all discoveries of basic or new principles in the field of invention, take place through the faculty of creative imagination. Where "Hunches" Come From When ideas or concepts flash into one's mind, through what is popularly called a "hunch," they come from one or more of the following sources: 1. Infinite Intelligence 2. One's subconscious mind, wherein is stored every sense impression and thought impulse which ever reached the brain through any of the five senses 3. From the mind of some other person who has just released the thought, or picture of the idea or concept, through conscious thought, or 4. From the other person's subconscious storehouse. There are no other KNOWN sources from which "inspired" ideas or "hunches" may be received. The creative imagination functions best when the mind is vibrating (due to some form of mind stimulation) at an exceedingly high rate. That is, when the mind is functioning at a rate of vibration higher than that of ordinary, normal thought. When brain action has been stimulated, through one or more of the ten mind stimulants, it has the effect of lifting the individual far above the horizon of ordinary thought, and permits him to envision distance, scope, and quality of THOUGHTS not available on the lower plane, such as that occupied while one is engaged in the solution of the problems of business and professional routine. When lifted to this higher level of thought, through any form of mind stimulation, an individual occupies, relatively, the same position as one who has ascended in an airplane to a height from which he may see over and beyond the horizon line which limits his vision, while on the ground. Moreover, while on this higher level of thought, the individual is not hampered or bound by any of the stimuli which circumscribe and limit his vision while wrestling with the problems of gaining the three basic necessities of food, clothing, and shelter. He is in a world of thought in which the ORDINARY, work-a-day thoughts have been as effectively removed as are the hills and valleys and other limitations of physical vision, when he rises in an airplane. While on this exalted plane of THOUGHT, the creative faculty of the mind is given freedom for action. The way has been cleared for the sixth sense to function, it becomes receptive to ideas which could not reach the individual under any other circumstances. The "sixth sense" is the faculty which marks the difference between a genius and an ordinary individual. Developing the Creative Faculty The creative faculty becomes more alert and receptive to vibrations, originating outside the individual's subconscious mind, the more this faculty is used, and the more the individual relies upon it, and makes demands upon it for thought impulses. This faculty can be cultivated and developed only through use. That which is known as ones conscience operates entirely through the faculty of the sixth sense. The great artists, writers, musicians, and poets become great, because they acquire the habit of relying upon the "still small voice" which speaks from within, through the faculty of creative imagination. It is a fact well known to people who have "keen" imaginations that their best ideas come through so-called "hunches." There is a great orator who does not attain to greatness, until he closes his eyes and begins to rely entirely upon the faculty of Creative Imagination. When asked why he closed his eyes just before the climaxes of his oratory, he replied, "I do it, because, then I speak through ideas which come to me from within." One of America's most successful and best known financiers followed the habit of closing his eyes for two or three minutes before making a decision. When asked why he did this, he replied, "With my eyes closed, I am able to draw upon a source of superior intelligence." How an Inventor Got His Best Ideas The late Dr. Elmer R. Gates, of Chevy Chase, Maryland, created more than 200 useful patents, many of them basic, through the process of cultivating and using the creative faculty. His method is both significant and interesting to one interested in attaining to the status of genius, in which category Dr. Gates, unquestionably belonged. Dr. Gates was one of the really great, though less publicized scientists of the world. In his laboratory, he had what he called his "personal communication room." It was practically sound proof, and so arranged that all light could be shut out. It was equipped with a small table, on which he kept a pad of writing paper. In front of the table, on the wall, was an electric pushbutton, which controlled the lights. When Dr. Gates desired to draw upon the forces available to him through his Creative Imagination, he would go into this room, seat himself at the table, shut off the lights, and CONCENTRATE upon the KNOWN factors of the invention on which he was working, remaining in that position until ideas began to "flash" into his mind in connection with the UNKNOWN factors of the invention. On one occasion, ideas came through so fast that he was forced to write for almost three hours. When the thoughts stopped flowing, and he examined his notes, he found they contained a minute description of principles which had not a parallel among the known data of the scientific world. Moreover, the answer to his problem was intelligently presented in those notes. In this manner Dr. Gates completed over 200 patents, which had been begun, but not completed, by "half-baked" brains. Evidence of the truth of this statement is in the United States Patent Office. Dr. Gates earned his living by "sitting for ideas" for individuals and corporations. Some of the largest corporations in America paid him substantial fees, by the hour, for "sitting for ideas." The reasoning faculty is often faulty, because it is largely guided by one's accumulated experience. Not all knowledge, which one accumulates through "experience," is accurate. Ideas received through the creative faculty are much more reliable, for the reason that they come from sources more reliable than any which are available to the reasoning faculty of the mind. Methods Used by Geniuses Are Available to You The major difference between the genius and the ordinary "crank" inventor, may be found in the fact that the genius works through his faculty of creative imagination, while the "crank" knows nothing of this faculty. The scientific inventor (such as Mr. Edison, and Dr. Gates), makes use of both the synthetic and the creative faculties of imagination. For example, the scientific inventor, or "genius, begins an invention by organizing and combining the known ideas, or principles accumulated through experience, through the synthetic faculty (the reasoning faculty). If he finds this accumulated knowledge to be insufficient for the completion of his invention, he then draws upon the sources of knowledge available to him through his creative faculty. The method by which he does this varies with the individual, but this is the sum and substance of his procedure: 1. HE STIMULATES HIS MIND SO THAT IT VIBRATES ON A HIGHER-THAN-AVERAGE PLANE, using one or more of the ten mind stimulants or some other stimulant of his choice. 2. HE CONCENTRATES upon the known factors (the finished part) of his invention, and creates in his mind a perfect picture of unknown factors (the unfinished part), of his invention. He holds this picture in mind until it has been taken over by the subconscious mind, then relaxes by clearing his mind of ALL thought, and waits for his answer to "flash" into his mind. Sometimes the results are both definite and immediate. At other times, the results are negative, depending upon the state of development of the "sixth sense," or creative faculty. Mr. Edison tried out more than 10,000 different combinations of ideas through the synthetic faculty of his imagination before he "tuned in" through the creative faculty, and got the answer which perfected the incandescent light. His experience was similar when he produced the talking machine. There is plenty of reliable evidence that the faculty of creative imagination exists. This evidence is available through accurate analysis of men who have become leaders in their respective callings, without having had extensive educations. Lincoln was a notable example of a great leader who achieved greatness, through the discovery, and use of his faculty of creative imagination. He discovered, and began to use this faculty as the result of the stimulation of love which he experienced after he met Anne Rutledge, a statement of the highest significance, in connection with the study of the source of genius. The Driving Force of Sex The pages of history are filled with the records of great leaders whose achievements may be traced directly to the influence of women who aroused the creative faculties of their minds, through the stimulation of sex desire. Napoleon Bonaparte was one of these. When inspired by his first wife, Josephine, he was irresistible and invincible. When his "better judgment" or reasoning faculty prompted him to put Josephine aside, he began to decline. His defeat and St. Helena were not far distant. If good taste would permit, we might easily mention scores of men, well known to the American people, who climbed to great heights of achievement under the stimulating influence of their wives, only to drop back to destruction AFTER money and power went to their heads, and they put aside the old wife for a new one. Napoleon was not the only man to discover that sex influence, from the right source, is more powerful than any substitute of expediency, which may be created by mere reason. The human mind responds to stimulation! Among the greatest, and most powerful of these stimuli is the urge of sex. When harnessed and transmuted, this driving force is capable of lifting men into that higher sphere of thought which enables them to master the sources of worry and petty annoyance which beset their pathway on the lower plane. Unfortunately, only the genii have made the discovery. Others have accepted the experience of sex urge, without discovering one of its major potentialities— a fact which accounts for the great number of "others" as compared to the limited number of genii. For the purpose of refreshing the memory, in connection with the facts available from the biographies of certain men, we here present the names of a few men of outstanding achievement, each of whom was known to have been of a highly sexed nature. The genius which was theirs, undoubtedly found its source of power in transmuted sex energy: GEORGE WASHINGTON NAPOLEON BONAPARTE WILLIAM SHAKESPEARE ABRAHAM LINCOLN RALPH WALDO EMERSON ROBERT BURNS THOMAS JEFFERSON ELBERT HUBBARD ELBERT H. GARY OSCAR WILDE WOODROW WILSON JOHN H. PATTERSON ANDREW JACKSON ENRICO CARUSO Your own knowledge of biography will enable you to add to this list. Find, if you can, a single man, in all history of civilization, who achieved outstanding success in any calling, who was not driven by a well developed sex nature. If you do not wish to rely upon biographies of men not now living, take inventory of those whom you know to be men of great achievement, and see if you can find one among them who is not highly sexed. Sex energy is the creative energy of all genii. There never has been, and never will be a great leader, builder, or artist lacking in this driving force of sex. Surely no one will misunderstand these statements to mean that ALL who are highly sexed are genii! Man attains to the status of a genius ONLY when, and IF, he stimulates his mind so that it draws upon the forces available, through the creative faculty of the imagination. Chief among the stimuli with which this "stepping up" of the vibrations may be produced is sex energy. The mere possession of this energy is not sufficient to produce a genius. The energy must be transmuted from desire for physical contact, into some other form of desire and action, before it will lift one to the status of a genius. Far from becoming genii, because of great sex desires, the majority of men lower themselves, through misunderstanding and misuse of this great force, to the status of the lower animals. 1. The handshake. The touch of the hand indicates, instantly, the presence of magnetism, or the lack of it. 2. The tone of voice. Magnetism, or sex energy, is the factor with which the voice may be colored, or made musical and charming. 3. Posture and carriage of the body. Highly sexed people move briskly, and with grace and ease. 4. The vibrations of thought. Highly sexed people mix the emotion of sex with their thoughts, or may do so at will, and in that way, may influence those around them. 5. Body adornment. People who are highly sexed are usually very careful about their personal appearance. They usually select clothing of a style becoming to their personality, physique, complexion, etc. When employing salesmen, the more capable sales manager looks for the quality of personal magnetism as the first requirement of a salesman. People who lack sex energy will never become enthusiastic nor inspire others with enthusiasm, and enthusiasm is one of the most important requisites in salesmanship, no matter what one is selling. The public speaker, orator, preacher, lawyer, or salesman who is lacking in sex energy is a “flop,” as far as being able to influence others is concerned. Couple with this the fact, that most people can be influenced only through an appeal to their emotions, and you will understand the importance of sex energy as a part of the salesman’s native ability. Master salesmen attain the status of mastery in selling, because they, either consciously, or unconsciously, transmute the energy of sex into SALES ENTHUSIASM! In this statement may be found a very practical suggestion as to the actual meaning of sex transmutation. The salesman who knows how to take his mind off the subject of sex, and direct it in sales effort with as much enthusiasm and determination as he would apply to its original purpose, has acquired the art of sex transmutation, whether he knows it or not. The majority of salesmen who transmute their sex energy do so without being in the least aware of what they are doing, or how they are doing it. Transmutation of sex energy calls for more will power than the average person cares to use for this purpose. Those who find it difficult to summon will-power sufficient for transmutation, may gradually acquire this ability. Though this requires will-power, the reward for the practice is more than worth the effort. The entire subject of sex is one with which the majority of people appear to be unpardonably ignorant. The urge of sex has been grossly misunderstood, slandered, and burlesqued by the ignorant and the evil minded, for so long that the very word sex is seldom used in polite society. Men and women who are known to be blessed-yes, BLESSED-with highly sexed natures, are usually looked upon as being people who will bear watching. Instead of being called blessed, they are usually called cursed. Millions of people, even in this age of enlightenment, have inferiority complexes which they developed because of this false belief that a highly sexed nature is a curse. These statements, of the virtue of sex energy, should not be construed as justification for the libertine. The emotion of sex is a virtue ONLY when used intelligently, and with discrimination. It may be misused, and often is, to such an extent that it debases, instead of enriches, both body and mind. The better use of this power is the burden of this chapter. It seemed quite significant to the author, when he made the discovery that practically every great leader, whom he had the privilege of analyzing, was a man whose achievements were largely inspired by a woman. In many instances, the “woman in the case” was a modest, self-denying wife, of whom the public had heard but little or nothing. In a few instances, the source of inspiration has been traced to the “other woman.” Perhaps such cases may not be entirely unknown to you. Intemperance in sex habits is just as detrimental as intemperance in habits of drinking and eating. In this age in which we live, an age which began with the world war, intemperance in habits of sex is common. This orgy of indulgence may account for the shortage of great leaders. No man can avail himself of the forces of his creative imagination, while dissipating them. Man is the only creature on earth which violates Nature’s purpose in this connection. Every other animal indulges its sex nature in moderation, and with purpose which harmonizes with the laws of nature. Every other animal responds to the call of sex only in “season.” Man’s inclination is to declare “open season.” Every intelligent person knows that stimulation in excess, through alcoholic drink and narcotics, is a form of intemperance which destroys the vital organs of the body, including the brain. Not every person knows, however, that over indulgence in sex expression may become a habit as destructive and as detrimental to creative effort as narcotics or liquor. A sex-mad man is not essentially different than a dope-mad man! Both have lost control over their faculties of reason and will-power. Sexual overindulgence may not only destroy reason and will-power, but it may also lead to either temporary, or permanent insanity. Many cases of hypochondria (imaginary illness) grow out of habits developed in ignorance of the true function of sex. From these brief references to the subject, it may be readily seen that ignorance on the subject of sex transmutation, forces stupendous penalties upon the ignorant on the one hand, and withholds from them equally stupendous benefits, on the other. Widespread ignorance on the subject of sex is due to the fact that the subject has been surrounded with mystery and beclouded by dark silence. The conspiracy of mystery and silence has had the same effect upon the minds of young people that the psychology of prohibition had. The result has been increased curiosity, and desire to acquire more knowledge on this “verboten” subject; and to the shame of all lawmakers, and most physicians-by training best qualified to educate youth on that subject-information has not been easily available. Seldom does an individual enter upon highly creative effort in any field of endeavor before the age of forty. The average man reaches the period of his greatest capacity to create between forty and sixty. These statements are based upon analysis of thousands of men and women who have been carefully observed. They should be encouraging to those who fail to arrive before the age of forty, and to those who become frightened at the approach of “old age,” around the forty-year mark. The years between forty and fifty are, as a rule, the most fruitful. Man should approach this age, not with fear and trembling, but with hope and eager anticipation. If you want evidence that most men do not begin to do their best work before the age of forty, study the records of the most successful men known to the American people, and you will find it. Henry Ford had not “hit his pace” of achievement until he had passed the age of forty. Andrew Carnegie was well past forty before he began to reap the reward of his efforts. James J. Hill was still running a telegraph key at the age of forty. His stupendous achievements took place after that age. Biographies of American industrialists and financiers are filled with evidence that the period from forty to sixty is the most productive age of man. Between the ages of thirty and forty, man begins to learn (if he ever learns), the art of sex transmutation. This discovery is generally accidental, and more often than otherwise, the man who makes it is totally unconscious of his discovery. He may observe that his powers of achievement have increased around the age of thirty-five to forty, but in most cases, he is not familiar with the cause of this change; that Nature begins to harmonize the emotions of love and sex in the individual, between the ages of thirty and forty, so that he may draw upon these great forces, and apply them jointly as stimuli to action. Sex, alone, is a mighty urge to action, but its forces are like a cyclone-they are often uncontrollable. When the emotion of love begins to mix itself with the emotion of sex, the result is calmness of purpose, poise, accuracy of judgment, and balance. What person, who has attained to the age of forty, is so unfortunate as to be unable to analyze these statements, and to corroborate them by his own experience? When driven by his desire to please a woman, based solely upon the emotion of sex, a man may be, and usually is, capable of great achievement, but his actions may be disorganized, distorted, and totally destructive. When driven by his desire to please a woman, based upon the motive of sex alone, a man may steal, cheat, and even commit murder. But when the emotion of LOVE is mixed with the emotion of sex, that same man will guide his actions with more sanity, balance, and reason. Criminologists have discovered that the most hardened criminals can be reformed through the influence of a woman’s love. There is no record of a criminal having been reformed solely through the sex influence. These facts are well known, but their cause is not. Reformation comes, if at all, through the heart, or the emotional side of man, not through his head, or reasoning side. Reformation means, “a change of heart.” It does not mean a “change of head.” A man may, because of reason, make certain changes in his personal conduct to avoid the consequences of undesirable effects, but GENUINE REFORMATION comes only through a change of heart-through a DESIRE to change. Love, Romance, and Sex are all emotions capable of driving men to heights of super achievement. Love is the emotion which serves as a safety valve, and insures balance, poise, and constructive effort. When combined, these three emotions may lift one to an altitude of a genius. There are genii, however, who know but little of the emotion of love. Most of them may be found engaged in some form of action which is destructive, or at least, not based upon justice and fairness toward others. If good taste would permit, a dozen genii could be named in the field of industry and finance, who ride ruthlessly over the rights of their fellow men. They seem totally lacking in conscience. The reader can easily supply his own list of such men. The emotions are states of mind. Nature has provided man with a “chemistry of the mind” which operates in a manner similar to the principles of chemistry of matter. It is a well known fact that, through the aid of chemistry of matter, a chemist may create a deadly poison by mixing certain elements, none of which are-in themselves-harmful in the right proportions. The emotions may, likewise, be combined so as to create a deadly poison. The emotions of sex and jealousy, when mixed, may turn a person into an insane beast. The presence of any one or more of the destructive emotions in the human mind, through the chemistry of the mind, sets up a poison which may destroy one’s sense of justice and fairness. In extreme cases, the presence of any combination of these emotions in the mind may destroy one’s reason. The road to genius consists of the development, control, and use of sex, love, and romance. Briefly, the process may be stated as follows: Encourage the presence of these emotions as the dominating thoughts in one’s mind, and discourage the presence of all the destructive emotions. The mind is a creature of habit. It thrives upon the dominating thoughts fed it. Through the faculty of will-power, one may discourage the presence of any emotion, and encourage the presence of any other. Control of the mind, through the power of will, is not difficult. Control comes from persistence, and habit. The secret of control lies in understanding the process of transmutation. When any negative emotion presents itself in one’s mind, it can be transmuted into a positive, or constructive emotion, by the simple procedure of changing one’s thoughts. THERE IS NO OTHER ROAD TO GENIUS THAN THROUGH VOLUNTARY SELF EFFORT! A man may attain to great heights of financial or business achievement, solely by the driving force of sex energy, but history is filled with evidence that he may, and usually does, carry with him certain traits of character which rob him of the ability to either hold, or enjoy his fortune. This is worthy of analysis, thought, and meditation, for it states a truth, the knowledge of which may be helpful to women as well as men. Ignorance of this has cost thousands of people their privilege of HAPPINESS, even though they possessed riches. The emotions of love and sex leave their unmistakable marks upon the features. Moreover, these signs are so visible, that all who wish may read them. The man who is driven by the storm of passion, based upon sex desires alone, plainly advertises that fact to the entire world, by the expression of his eyes, and the lines of his face. The emotion of love, when mixed with the emotion of sex, softens, modifies, and beautifies the facial expression. No character analyst is needed to tell you this- you may observe it for yourself. The emotion of love brings out, and develops, the artistic and the aesthetic nature of man. It leaves its impress upon one’s very soul, even after the fire has been subdued by time and circumstance. Memories of love never pass. They linger, guide, and influence long after the source of stimulation has faded. There is nothing new in this. Every person, who has been moved by GENUINE LOVE, knows that it leaves enduring traces upon the human heart. The effect of love endures, because love is spiritual in nature. The man who cannot be stimulated to great heights of achievement by love, is hopeless-he is dead, though he may seem to live. Even the memories of love are sufficient to lift one to a higher plane of creative effort. The major force of love may spend itself and pass away, like a fire which has burned itself out, but it leaves behind indelible marks as evidence that it passed that way. Its departure often prepares the human heart for a still greater love. Go back into your yesterdays, at times, and bathe your mind in the beautiful memories of past love. It will soften the influence of the present worries and annoyances. It will give you a source of escape from the unpleasant realities of life, and maybe-who knows?-your mind will yield to you, during this temporary retreat into the world of fantasy, ideas, or plans which may change the entire financial or spiritual status of your life. If you believe yourself unfortunate, because you have “loved and lost,” perish the thought. One who has loved truly, can never lose entirely. Love is whimsical and temperamental. Its nature is ephemeral, and transitory. It comes when it pleases, and goes away without warning. Accept and enjoy it while it remains, but spend no time worrying about its departure. Worry will never bring it back. Dismiss, also, the thought that love never comes but once. Love may come and go, times without number, but there are no two love experiences which affect one in just the same way. There may be, and there usually is, one love experience which leaves a deeper imprint on the heart than all the others, but all love experiences are beneficial, except to the person who becomes resentful and cynical when love makes its departure. There should be no disappointment over love, and there would be none if people understood the difference between the emotions of love and sex. The major difference is that love is spiritual, while sex is biological. No experience, which touches the human heart with a spiritual force, can possibly be harmful, except through ignorance, or jealousy. Love is, without question, life's greatest experience. It brings one into communion with Infinite Intelligence. When mixed with the emotions of romance and sex, it may lead one far up the ladder of creative effort. The emotions of love, sex, and romance, are sides of the eternal triangle of achievement-building genius. Nature creates genii through no other force. Love is an emotion with many sides, shades, and colors. The love which one feels for parents, or children is quite different from that which one feels for one's sweetheart. The one is mixed with the emotion of sex, while the other is not. The love which one feels in true friendship is not the same as that felt for one's sweetheart, parents, or children, but it, too, is a form of love. Then, there is the emotion of love for things inanimate, such as the love of Nature's handiwork. But the most intense and burning of all these various kinds of love, is that experienced in the blending of the emotions of love and sex. Marriages, not blessed with the eternal affinity of love, properly balanced and proportioned, with sex, cannot be happy ones—and seldom endure. Love, alone, will not bring happiness in marriage, nor will sex alone. When these two beautiful emotions are blended, marriage may bring about a state of mind, closest to the spiritual that one may ever know on this earthly plane. When the emotion of romance is added to those of love and sex, the obstructions between the finite mind of man and Infinite Intelligence are removed. Then a genius has been born! What a different story is this, than those usually associated with the emotion of sex. Ever feel drained after ejaculating? This is because you are losing your life energy. Sexual transmutation involves avoiding ejaculation and channeling your sexual energy into increased success, motivation, productivity, happiness, health, confidence and power. Sex is one of the most powerful desires. It's no surprise to say guys think about sex all the time. However, as soon as we ejaculate, we become docile-- slow and unmotivated. By refraining from ejaculating for 7-days at a time, and channeling this energy, you will develop an intense drive towards success in all areas of your life. Sexual transmutation is the "secret sauce" to accomplishing great things in your life! Reduce the frequency of ejaculation to preserve the energy which can be transformed into something else you can pursue The male reproductive system and the brain both compete for the same protein tyrosine (with B6, copper, iron etc). More tyrosine for one will deprive the other part of the body - naturally. Transmute the same type of energy and motivation that you get through "sexual energy" and apply that to getting things done. Remember the motivation/desire you had to get a date with your signifiant other? Or remember the motivation/desire you need to get a date if you are single? And remember how determined you could be to make that happen? Sexual desire is the most powerful human emotion. By achieving a state of sexual desire and maintaining it, you keep the mind in a heightened state of arousal and activity. When you mix sex and love, you have the perfect mix for drawing on the creative mind... if you can transmute or turn your desire for sex into a desire for something else, such as writing a poem, working out a business problem or getting direct spiritual insights. Over indulgence in sex and orgasm, will quell the feeling of desire and the affect that it has on the mind. Once a man ejaculates, more often than not he rolls over and falls asleep! One moment he's a tiger, straining with every part of his body and mind to get what he wants ... the next he's unconscious! Let's say that you want to brainstorm for a business idea. You've obviously given it a lot of "rational" conscious thought and not really come up with anything. Take yourself somewhere private and comfortable, settle down, relax. Begin to get aroused. You can fantasise about your lover, about getting naked and making love. You might also physically stimulate yourself through masturbation (hence the need for privacy!). Get good and hot! However, don't get too carried away. You are not to come or ejaculate. When you are aroused, use your will-power to turn your mind to your business, and turn that arousal and state of lust over to the problem or challenge. You can actually shift your desire for your lover over to the problem or rather to the solution to the problem. How? Well, it requires a bit of imagination. And imagination is the primary tool of genius, as it is the gateway to intuition and infinite wisdom. Simply imagine that you are equally turned-on by the idea of getting a solution to this problem. Make love to the problem and seek out the climax - the answers you are seeking. Yes, I know this is bizarre and weird but it works! Just fake it till you make it. You can do anything that you can conceive of. This will work in any field of endeavour. Get aroused. Then focus on your area of work and what you want to achieve in it. Focus your mind on all the known factors of your particular project (all the information you have gathered, all the actions that you have taken so far). Then allow a perfect mental picture to arise of all the unknown factors (what remains unfinished). Hold that vision and let it saturate your mind. Then let it go. Clear the mind of all thought. And wait for the answer to "flash" into your mind! When it is used intelligently and channelled into Love, romance and creative pursuits that add to the beauty and abundance of life, then it may be said to be the energy of the Creator. And that is You! The Supreme Intelligence of Life seeks to create and expand infinitely. The genes of all life forms fight and scheme to expand their dominance. Sex driving them on. Worship this living energy of Universal Intelligence that flows in your body... and you will gain access to that Infinite Source of Wisdom! Sex is the genius gene-in-us!