The DECIDE Process

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1. Define: My friend is asking me to go to a party but I know I'd be sneaking out behind my parents backs. This is affecting my social wellness.

1.1. Explore: I could agree and sneak out behind my parents' backs but that would be wrong. Instead, I could say no thank you or say maybe another time so that our social relationship isn't messed up. I could also ask my parents if I could go to the party and see if they say yes, but if they say no and I over react, they might be keeping a closer watch on me.

1.1.1. Consider consequences: If I do sneak out without my parents knowing and agreeing, I could be punished, (which would ruin my social relationship with them) or I could be punished in other ways, like being told I can never hang out with that friend ever again because she influenced me to go. Identify values: One of the values I would be loosing is trust with my parents if I were to go to the party. If I weren't, I could keep my trust with my parents but maybe not with my friend. In the future, I plan on going to a good college, if I do something irresponsible, it could go on my permanent record and could ruin a lot in my life. (It would be better not to go.) Decide and Act: I will be choosing to ask my parents if I can go to the party. If they say yes then I won't have to worry about getting in trouble with them and ruining our social relationship. If they say no then I would respect their decision, whine a little, but still stay out of trouble and away from the party. I might not have an as strong relationship with the friend but if she won't understand that I can't go and that's it, we might not be that good of friends anyway.