10 Qualities That Make You Attractive — Regardless Of Your Appearance
da Danny Forest
1. Be willing to do your own thing even when it’s not popular.
1.1. Sometimes you need to compromise or give in to maintain group cohesion. Stubbornness is not an attractive quality.
1.2. But pursuing your interests and expressing your individuality dials up your allure, especially when you do so in the face of disapproval.
2. Don’t get involved in petty nonsense.
2.1. It's very unattractive to gab about and stress over trivial nonsense
2.2. Recognize pettiness and avoid it
2.3. Stay above the fray and involve yourself only to make peace when relations begin to redline.
2.4. Remain temperate when everyone else runs hot.
3. Remember the finer details.
3.1. Remembering a birthday doesn’t make you attractive; everyone expects that of you.
3.2. To stand out, be the person who makes it a habit of remembering odd interests and obscure details.
3.3. When you remember tiny details about someone’s life and thoughtfully use that information, it demonstrates to them that they matter to you.
4. Defend the unwanted.
4.1. Be the brave soul who stands up for others. Double points if you’re the first in the crowd to do it.
5. Be comfortable being alone.
5.1. A partner comfortable being alone probably won’t hang on you once you start dating.
5.2. They’ll give you the distance to do your own thing and express your individuality.
5.3. They’ll likely enjoy personal pursuits, which adds to their intrigue.
5.4. A person who cannot spend time alone probably has issues we’d like to avoid in a mate.
6. Recognize and validate the good in others.
6.1. Praising just to manipulate others or control a situation can render anyone unattractive
6.2. But complimenting someone when it’s warranted, sincere, specific, and devoid of personal gain makes you charming.
6.3. Compliment someone based on something they do or maintain some control over.
6.4. If you can validate someone’s skill, taste, or preferences, you’ll score a more significant impact.
6.5. Make your praise ultra-specific
6.5.1. It helps point out that you’ve noticed the effort they’ve put in to better themselves or accomplish something.
7. Let your actions advertise your greatness.
7.1. Self-promotion is a necessary component in business
7.2. But boasting about your awesomeness mostly just irritates the heck out of others.
7.3. Those who don’t speak of their accomplishments and good deeds exude a quiet self-assuredness.
7.4. They don’t need external validation to feel good about themselves.
7.5. Do great things, but avoid boasting about your deeds. The braggart repels, but the humble one attracts.
8. Embrace your quirkiness.
8.1. Allowing your quirky traits to reveal themselves in public makes you attractive, not to everyone, but to some people.
8.2. And even if it doesn’t, it at least makes you interesting.
9. Don’t hide your darkness.
9.1. When you let someone peak under the covers of your outer-shell, you put your trust in that person.
9.1.1. You make yourself vulnerable.
9.2. Those who are self-aware enough to know we struggle with our own flaws will find that courage and honesty attractive.
9.3. The perfect people out there will express their disgust.
9.3.1. But it’s not your flaws that bother them; it’s their fear of letting others see through their facade.
9.3.2. They lack the courage and resent that you possess it.