1. Psalm 139:23–24 (NLT) 23 Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. 24 Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of everlasting life.
1.1. Where am I
1.1.1. Arrogant
1.1.2. Judgmental
1.2. Harboring anger?
1.2.1. Carrying offense
1.2.2. Get rid all anger
1.2.3. Kind
1.3. Devil
1.3.1. Divide
1.3.2. Distract
1.3.3. Discredit
1.3.4. Angry
1.3.5. Easily offended
1.4. Every minute you are angry you lose a minute of joy, peace and the ability to make a difference.
1.5. Being offended is inevitable. But, living offended is a choice.
2. The day of your hurt should also be the day of your healing
2.1. The day you’re hurt
2.1.1. Betrayed or offended
2.1.2. Reconcile
2.2. Strong marriage
2.2.1. Don't go to sleep mad
2.3. Didn’t say we
2.3.1. BED mad
2.3.2. Go to sleep
2.4. Score points by huffing
2.4.1. Yanking covers
2.4.2. Lose points if feet touch!
2.5. Imagine how diff friendships
2.5.1. Marriages
2.5.2. Families would be
2.5.3. Same day
2.5.3.1. So sorry
2.5.3.2. Wrong
2.5.3.3. Will you forgive?
2.5.3.4. Let it go
2.6. Ephesians 4:29 (NLT) 29 Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.
2.6.1. Don’t let any unwholesome talk!
2.6.1.1. Belittling
2.6.1.2. Bad mouthing
2.6.2. When fighting
2.6.2.1. Only what’s helpful building up
2.6.2.1.1. Never call names
2.6.2.1.2. Never raise your voice
2.6.2.1.3. Never get historical.
2.6.2.1.4. Never say “never”or “always.”
2.6.2.1.5. Never threaten divorce.
2.6.2.1.6. Never quote your pastor during a fight
2.6.3. Don’t let any unwholesome talk
2.6.3.1. Only helpful building up
2.6.4. Tempted to defend our anger
2.6.4.1. They hurt me!
2.6.4.2. Righteous!
2.6.5. Do we call any other destructive force
2.6.5.1. Righteous?
2.7. Righteous Greed
2.7.1. Righteous Lust
2.7.2. Righteous Gluttony!
2.7.3. Ephesians 4:31 (NLT) 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior.
3. Verse 32 doesn’t say...
3.1. Be arrogant about your moral superiority..
3.2. Be critical of everyone who thinks differently from you..
3.3. Be harsh because you are dealing with idiots...
3.3.1. Ephesians 4:32 (NLT) 32 Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.
4. Be kind
4.1. Compassionate
4.2. Forgiving
4.3. How?
4.3.1. Up Close!
4.4. Easy to shout truth from a distance
4.5. Time and effort to love up close!
4.6. Have a friend
4.6.1. One of Those people
4.6.2. Always right!
4.7. Everything
4.7.1. Church
4.7.2. Theology
4.7.3. Kids
4.8. Government does wrong
4.8.1. Truth about Covid
4.8.2. Sources right
4.9. Thank God for you
4.9.1. 8 billion in world
4.9.2. Friends smartest
4.10. He’s one of Those People
4.10.1. Doesn’t know he’s one
4.10.2. Dawned on me
4.10.3. Problem is, I am "Those People"
5. Dealing With “Those” People
5.1. As followers of Jesus we are even called to love those people.
5.1.1. Some more difficult to love today than before?
5.2. Ephesians 4:26–27 (NLT) 26 And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 for anger gives a foothold to the devil.
5.2.1. Ephesians 4:29 (NLT) 29 Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.
5.2.2. Ephesians 4:31–32 (NLT) 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. 32 Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.
5.3. In anger
5.3.1. Don’t sin
5.3.2. Implies
5.3.3. Not sin be angry!
5.4. Great news
5.4.1. Angry
5.4.1.1. Online
5.4.1.2. News
5.4.1.3. Offensive
5.4.2. If we could live un-offended...
5.4.2.1. Life is never better!
5.4.2.2. Peace
5.4.2.3. Joy
6. Talk about
6.1. Those People
6.1.1. Raise hand
6.1.1.1. Some idea who I’m talking about
6.2. Those People
6.2.1. Critical
6.2.2. Controlling
6.2.3. Arrogant
6.2.4. Mean
6.3. Those People
6.3.1. Know everything about everything
6.3.2. Going tell you!
6.4. The arrogant jerk Pastor
7. Being offended is inevitable. Living offended is a choice
7.1. We are going to be offended but we don't have to live offended!
7.2. Be careful
7.2.1. Hold on anger
7.2.2. Nurture offense
7.2.3. Rehearse hurts
7.3. Give devil
7.3.1. Satan
7.3.2. Father Lies
7.3.3. Prince Darkness
7.3.4. Foothold
7.4. Topos
7.4.1. Giving devil place heart
7.4.1.1. Room to work against you
7.4.1.2. τόπος
7.4.1.2.1. Ephesians 4:27 (NLT) 27 for anger gives a foothold to the devil.
7.4.2. Don’t want give devil any access to
7.4.2.1. Marriage
7.4.2.2. Children
7.4.2.3. Friends
7.4.2.4. Church!
7.5. If I were a demon in a strategy meeting in hell...
7.5.1. Break God’s heart
7.5.2. Destroy those he loves?
8. 3 D’s of Destruction
8.1. Divide
8.1.1. Families
8.1.2. Friends
8.1.3. Churches
8.1.3.1. Easier than ever
8.1.3.1.1. Politics
8.1.3.1.2. Racial division
8.1.3.1.3. Vax/Masks
8.1.4. Destroy friendships
8.1.4.1. Family members stop talking
8.1.5. Ruin marriages
8.1.5.1. Split churches
8.1.6. Divide Christians
8.1.6.1. United unstoppable
8.1.6.2. Divided weak/ineffective
8.2. Distract Christians from their mission
8.2.1. Get ’em mad about anything culture!
8.2.1.1. Boycott business
8.2.1.2. Sin
8.2.2. Complain Netflix series
8.2.2.1. Complain Christians aren’t complaining
8.2.3. Normal distractions don’t work
8.2.3.1. Arguing SM
8.2.3.1.1. Send stupid conspiracy videos
8.2.4. Distract from mission
8.3. Discredit their witness
8.3.1. Focus on what they’re against
8.3.1.1. Arguing
8.3.1.2. Mad about!
8.3.2. Keep angry
8.3.2.1. Critical
8.3.2.2. Judgmental
8.3.2.3. Hypocritical!
8.3.3. Self-centered
8.3.3.1. Self-righteous
8.3.3.2. Easily offended
8.3.3.3. Ticked world