Social Effectiveness Skills

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Social Effectiveness Skills by Mind Map: Social Effectiveness Skills

1. Recommended Reading, by section: http://tinyurl.com/SocialSkillsMap

2. Receiving communication

2.1. Listening

2.2. Hearing voice tone

2.3. Reading faces

2.4. Reading body language

2.5. Modeling people

2.5.1. Human psychology

2.5.1.1. Read psychology textbooks

2.5.1.2. Read evolutionary psychology textbooks

2.5.2. Building a model

3. Nonverbal communication

3.1. Gestures

3.2. Touch ('haptics')

3.2.1. Greeting

3.2.1.1. Handshake

3.2.1.2. Hugging

3.2.1.3. Light touch greeting

3.2.2. Conversational touching

3.2.2.1. Warm touching

3.2.2.2. Comfort touching

3.2.2.3. Touching for flirting

3.2.3. Sex

3.2.3.1. Kissing

3.2.3.2. Foreplay

3.2.3.3. Non-penetrative sex

3.2.3.4. Penetrative sex

3.3. Body language

3.3.1. Sitting posture

3.3.2. Standing posture

3.3.3. Walking

3.3.4. Hand placement

3.4. Facial expression

3.5. Eye contact

3.5.1. Holding eye contact

3.5.2. Timing eye contact

3.6. Fashion

3.6.1. Basic principles

3.6.2. Women's fashion

3.6.3. Men's fashion

3.7. Hair

3.8. Vocal qualities

3.8.1. Voice tone & pitch

3.8.2. Voice rhythm

3.9. Hygiene

3.10. Diet & fitness

3.10.1. Diet

3.10.1.1. Eating the right things

3.10.1.2. Controlling appettite

3.10.1.3. Food habits

3.10.2. Activity

3.10.2.1. Exercise

3.10.2.2. Lifestyle activity

3.11. Symbols & handwriting

3.12. Physical space

4. Verbal communication

4.1. Conversation procedures

4.1.1. Opening

4.1.1.1. Warning/notifying a stranger

4.1.1.2. Opening a stranger

4.1.1.3. Opening a small group

4.1.1.4. Opening a large group

4.1.1.5. Opening for romantic interest

4.1.1.5.1. Man opening a woman

4.1.1.5.2. Woman opening a man

4.1.1.5.3. Man opening a man

4.1.1.5.4. Woman opening a woman

4.1.2. Closing

4.1.3. Transitions

4.1.4. Situational conversations

4.2. Humor

4.3. Persuading

4.4. Storytelling

4.5. Educating

4.6. Inspiring

5. Relationship management

5.1. Networking for business

5.1.1. Boundaries / professionalism

5.1.2. Allocating money

5.1.3. Allocating time

5.2. Dating

5.2.1. Boundaries

5.2.2. Allocating money

5.2.3. Allocating time

5.2.3.1. ...for one partner

5.2.3.2. ...for multiple partners

5.3. Family & friends

6. Wellbeing

6.1. Confidence

6.2. Happiness & satisfaction

6.3. Motivation

6.3.1. Increasing expectancy

6.3.1.1. Use success spirals

6.3.1.2. Use vicarious victory

6.3.1.3. Use mental contrasting

6.3.2. Increasing value

6.3.2.1. Get in 'flow'

6.3.2.2. Trace the task's purpose

6.3.2.3. Use rewards

6.3.3. Handling impulsiveness

6.3.3.1. Commit now

6.3.3.2. Set goals

6.3.4. Handling delay

6.3.4.1. Break projects into small, rewarding bits

6.4. Courage

6.5. Values & goals

6.5.1. Choosing & noticing your values

6.5.2. Choosing & specifying goals

7. Superskills (requiring combinations of above skills)

7.1. Gaydar

7.1.1. [everything in 'receiving communication']

7.2. Improvisation

7.3. Acting

7.4. Public speaking

7.5. Leading & managing groups

7.6. Attraction & dating

7.6.1. [everything in 'wellbeing', 'relationship management -> dating', 'verbal communication', 'nonverbal communication', and 'receiving communication']