Personal Development

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Personal Development by Mind Map: Personal Development

1. Third party resolution

1.1. Arbitration

1.1.1. 3rd person listens both sides

1.1.1.1. Renders a decision

1.2. Mediation

1.2.1. 3rd person with negotiation

1.2.1.1. Decision offered

2. Rights

2.1. Enjoyed

2.1.1. 9-year compulsory education

2.1.1.1. Smoking

2.1.2. No imprisonment penalty

2.1.3. Special protection from gambling, alcoholic consumption, indecent flims and publications

2.1.4. Police Superintendent's Discretion Scheme

2.1.4.1. Give chance to correct themselves

2.2. Not enjoyed

2.2.1. Drinking

2.2.2. Employment

2.2.3. Right to vote

2.2.4. Marriage

2.2.5. Driving

2.3. Reasons

2.3.1. Smoking or drinking may affect physical development of teenagers

2.3.2. Teenagers' characteristics

2.3.2.1. Curious

2.3.2.1.1. haven't try that before

2.3.2.2. Fluctuate emotions

2.3.2.2.1. affect by hormons

2.3.2.3. Impulsive

2.3.2.3.1. affect by hormons

2.3.2.4. Finding one's identity and value

2.3.2.4.1. want to get peeers recognition

2.3.2.5. immature

2.3.2.5.1. may not select the suitable decision

2.3.2.6. Not enough life experience

2.3.2.6.1. May mistakenly break the law

2.3.2.7. Attached more to peers than family members

2.3.2.7.1. More peer influence than parents' influence

2.3.2.8. Strive for autonomy and test adults' boundaries

2.3.2.8.1. rebellious behavior

3. Self-esteem

3.1. Elements

3.1.1. Sense of security

3.1.1.1. Feeling comfortable

3.1.1.2. Commonly seen: Supported by peers

3.1.2. Belonging to a group, feel accepted, appreciated, respected,

3.1.3. Sense of affiliation

3.1.3.1. Commonly seen: Relationship with peers

3.1.4. Sense of selfhood

3.1.4.1. Knowing ourselves, feeling we are unique

3.1.4.2. Commonly seen: Develop interests

3.1.5. Sense of mission

3.1.5.1. Purpose and Motivation in life

3.1.5.2. Commonly seen: Goal Setting

3.1.6. Sense of competence

3.1.6.1. Feeling of Sucess

3.1.6.1.1. Commonly seen: After achievement

3.1.6.1.2. Academic Acheievements

3.2. +ve self-evaluation

3.3. Factors

3.3.1. Internal

3.3.1.1. Appearance Body image

3.3.1.1.1. Attractive enough

3.3.1.2. Emphasis on materialsm

3.3.1.2.1. increase self-esteem level

3.3.1.2.2. peer recognition

3.3.1.2.3. pursue enjoyment

3.3.1.3. personality

3.3.1.3.1. +ve personality

3.3.1.3.2. -ve personality

3.3.2. External

3.3.2.1. Peer/Family support

3.3.2.1.1. encouragement

3.3.2.1.2. peer recognition and appreciation

3.3.2.2. Parents' Socio-economics Background

3.3.2.2.1. Income

3.3.2.2.2. take care of family

3.3.2.2.3. Educational level

3.3.2.2.4. Low SES

3.3.2.3. social norms

3.3.2.3.1. Resort to misbehavior to gain peer recognition

3.3.2.3.2. Gender Sterotype

3.4. Ways to build up

3.4.1. Explore one's strengths

3.4.2. Set appropriate goals

3.4.3. Recognize one's life direction

3.4.4. Build good interpersonal relationships

3.4.5. avoid unnecessary comparison with others

3.4.6. analyse the criteria

3.5. too extreme self-esteem level

3.5.1. Self-esteem level being too high

3.5.1.1. emphasis on money

3.5.1.1.1. income

3.5.1.1.2. consumption culture

3.5.1.2. narcissistic,defensive,conceited

3.5.1.3. self-centered

3.5.1.4. prejudice,discrimination,social dominance

3.5.1.5. no progress due to overconfidence

3.5.1.6. unrealistic

3.5.2. self-esteem level being too low

3.5.2.1. no confidence

3.5.2.2. escape/retreat/give up

3.5.2.3. self-isolated

3.5.2.4. lack of ability to discern right from wrong

3.5.2.5. low expectation,future is gloomy

4. A creative solution by joint effort

5. Life skills

5.1. Responsible for others

5.1.1. Treat others properly and correctly

5.1.2. considering only what we want

5.2. Concern for others

5.2.1. Show consideration, care, and be thoughtful to others

5.2.1.1. Put yourself into others' shoes by sharing

5.3. Empathetic

5.3.1. Understanding others' emotions and feelings

5.4. Consideration of consequences

5.4.1. Anticipate both intended and unintended consequences before taking action

5.5. Critical thinking

5.5.1. Collect and process different information

5.5.1.1. logical conclusion

5.5.1.2. formulate one's stance

5.6. Problem solving

5.6.1. Recognize and define the problem we face

5.6.2. Understand why the problem exists

5.6.3. Generate different solutions and select the most effective way to solve

5.7. Self-reflection

5.7.1. Think about the wrong doings we have committed and areas to be improved after completing the task

5.8. Self-discipline

5.8.1. Do things we ought to know without having other's reminders

5.9. Time/Emotion/Finance Management

5.9.1. exercise conscious control according to limits, avalibility or expectations

5.10. Importance

5.10.1. Social skills

5.10.1.1. work in teams or groups harmoniously

5.10.1.2. enable them to work towards a common goal with other teams members

5.10.2. Cognitive skills

5.10.2.1. enable to read, think, prioritize, understand, plan, remember and solve the problem efficiently

5.10.2.2. capable and making decisions intelligently

5.10.2.3. process, analyse and make association and judgement on the information

5.10.3. Self-management skills

5.10.3.1. meet the expectations

5.10.3.2. can resolve dilemmas when they are overwhelmed by different sorts of responsibilities and workloads

5.11. Respect others

5.11.1. Listen and accept others' opinions, feelings, thoughts and physical space

6. Rights and Responsibility

6.1. Responsibility

6.1.1. At school

6.1.1.1. Be punctual

6.1.1.2. Study hard

6.1.1.3. Submit homework on time

6.1.2. In the family

6.1.2.1. Respect parents

6.1.2.2. do housework

6.1.3. In the society

6.1.3.1. don't break the law

6.1.3.2. keeping the society clean

6.1.3.3. pay taxes

7. Conflicts

7.1. Pros

7.1.1. Allow both parties to understand each other’s views and feelings

7.1.2. Acquisition of life skills

7.1.2.1. Improve communication skills and empathy

7.1.3. Reflecting ourselves

7.1.4. Life skills of self-understanding and accepting difference

7.1.4.1. self-understanding

7.1.4.1.1. real self=/=ideal self

7.2. Cons

7.2.1. Hinder development of one’s self-esteem

7.2.1.1. Poorer relationships with others

7.2.1.1.1. Isolated

7.2.2. Damage interpersonal relationships

7.2.2.1. Disappointed

7.2.2.1.1. Might attack others who irritated them

7.2.3. Emotional physical harm

7.2.3.1. Unpleasant ways to relieve their emotions

7.2.3.1.1. Self mutilation

7.3. Possible causes

7.3.1. Stress

7.3.2. Different views/expectations

7.3.3. Lack of communication

7.3.4. Unfair treatment

7.3.4.1. Emotional disturbance

7.3.5. Lack of life skills

7.4. Approaches

7.4.1. Competition

7.4.1.1. High concern for self Low concern for others

7.4.1.1.1. Argue/Debate

7.4.1.1.2. Intensifies conflict

7.4.1.1.3. Force others to follow one’s will by using violent means

7.4.2. Avoidance

7.4.2.1. Low concern for both

7.4.2.1.1. Active listening, identify concerns, analyze input, non threatening confrontation

7.4.2.1.2. Only wanted to escape from or suppress the problem

7.4.2.1.3. Lack of confidence in managing conflict

7.4.3. Collaboration

7.4.3.1. High concern for both

7.4.4. Compromise

7.4.4.1. Moderate both concerns

7.4.4.1.1. Both assertive co-operative

7.4.4.1.2. To trade in order to win some consessions

7.4.4.1.3. Low concern for self High concern for others

7.4.5. Accommodation

8. Relationships

8.1. Significance

8.1.1. develop identities

8.1.2. Build self-esteem

8.1.3. Meet social needs

8.1.4. Provide emotional support

8.2. Parent-Child

8.2.1. Changes in family structure

8.2.1.1. Single-child families

8.2.1.1.1. self-centered child

8.2.1.1.2. More focus on the child

8.2.1.2. single-parent families

8.2.1.2.1. sense of security self esteem

8.2.1.2.2. work

8.2.1.3. One parent being mainlander

8.2.1.3.1. one parent has to work in mainland

8.2.1.3.2. siblings

8.2.1.4. Dual working parents

8.2.1.4.1. parental love and care

8.2.1.4.2. siblings

8.2.1.5. Hiring foreign domestic helper

8.2.1.5.1. rely on domestic helper reduce the chance to do housework

8.2.1.5.2. communication

8.2.1.5.3. neglect the conditions and needs

8.2.2. Parenting Styles

8.2.2.1. Authoritarian

8.2.2.1.1. high demand low acceptance

8.2.2.2. Authoritative

8.2.2.2.1. high demands high acceptance

8.2.2.3. Neglecting

8.2.2.3.1. low demands low acceptance

8.2.2.4. Indulgent

8.2.2.4.1. low demands high acceptance

8.2.3. Ways to maintain a harmonious relationship

8.2.3.1. Parent

8.2.3.1.1. be more open-minded

8.2.3.1.2. accept new ideas

8.2.3.1.3. try to adopt new methods to communicate with children

8.2.3.2. child

8.2.3.2.1. be more patient

8.2.3.2.2. be initiated to introduce new ideas to parents

8.2.3.2.3. do not always believe that "parents do not understand"

8.2.3.2.4. express their views appropriately

8.3. Don’t understand your habits or preferences

8.4. Sibling

8.4.1. Siblings rivalry

8.4.1.1. Causes

8.4.1.1.1. Competition

8.4.1.1.2. Fighting

8.4.1.1.3. Jealously

8.4.1.1.4. Sense of security/ affiliation

8.4.1.1.5. Lack of understanding

8.4.1.2. Consequences

8.4.1.2.1. Self image

8.4.1.2.2. Develop effective social skills

8.4.1.2.3. Loss of emotional support from siblings

8.4.1.2.4. Poorer relationships

8.4.1.3. Resolve

8.4.1.3.1. Learn to comprise

8.4.1.3.2. Let it end

8.4.1.3.3. Remain calm

8.4.1.3.4. Ask third party to mediate

8.4.1.3.5. Bear a grudge

8.4.2. Reflect on what you have done to cause the rivalry

8.5. Peer

8.5.1. Importance

8.5.1.1. Establish self-esteem with a sense of belonging and security

8.5.1.1.1. Loved, supported, accepted

8.5.1.2. Life skills

8.5.1.2.1. Assist in self-understanding in the process of identity development

8.5.1.2.2. Acquire social skills

8.5.1.3. Offer assistance

8.5.1.3.1. Encouragement

8.5.1.3.2. Readily available

8.5.1.3.3. Support

8.5.1.3.4. Source of comfort

8.5.1.4. Discover interests

8.5.1.4.1. Peers: Channel to other hobbies

8.6. Teacher-student

8.7. Love relationship

8.8. Colleague-Colleague