Personal Development

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Personal Development by Mind Map: Personal Development

1. Third party resolution

1.1. Arbitration

1.1.1. 3rd person listens both sides Renders a decision

1.2. Mediation

1.2.1. 3rd person with negotiation Decision offered

2. Rights

2.1. Enjoyed

2.1.1. 9-year compulsory education Smoking

2.1.2. No imprisonment penalty

2.1.3. Special protection from gambling, alcoholic consumption, indecent flims and publications

2.1.4. Police Superintendent's Discretion Scheme Give chance to correct themselves

2.2. Not enjoyed

2.2.1. Drinking

2.2.2. Employment

2.2.3. Right to vote

2.2.4. Marriage

2.2.5. Driving

2.3. Reasons

2.3.1. Smoking or drinking may affect physical development of teenagers

2.3.2. Teenagers' characteristics Curious haven't try that before Fluctuate emotions affect by hormons Impulsive affect by hormons Finding one's identity and value want to get peeers recognition immature may not select the suitable decision Not enough life experience May mistakenly break the law Attached more to peers than family members More peer influence than parents' influence Strive for autonomy and test adults' boundaries rebellious behavior

3. Self-esteem

3.1. Elements

3.1.1. Sense of security Feeling comfortable Commonly seen: Supported by peers

3.1.2. Belonging to a group, feel accepted, appreciated, respected,

3.1.3. Sense of affiliation Commonly seen: Relationship with peers

3.1.4. Sense of selfhood Knowing ourselves, feeling we are unique Commonly seen: Develop interests

3.1.5. Sense of mission Purpose and Motivation in life Commonly seen: Goal Setting

3.1.6. Sense of competence Feeling of Sucess Commonly seen: After achievement Academic Acheievements

3.2. +ve self-evaluation

3.3. Factors

3.3.1. Internal Appearance Body image Attractive enough Emphasis on materialsm increase self-esteem level peer recognition pursue enjoyment personality +ve personality -ve personality

3.3.2. External Peer/Family support encouragement peer recognition and appreciation Parents' Socio-economics Background Income take care of family Educational level Low SES social norms Resort to misbehavior to gain peer recognition Gender Sterotype

3.4. Ways to build up

3.4.1. Explore one's strengths

3.4.2. Set appropriate goals

3.4.3. Recognize one's life direction

3.4.4. Build good interpersonal relationships

3.4.5. avoid unnecessary comparison with others

3.4.6. analyse the criteria

3.5. too extreme self-esteem level

3.5.1. Self-esteem level being too high emphasis on money income consumption culture narcissistic,defensive,conceited self-centered prejudice,discrimination,social dominance no progress due to overconfidence unrealistic

3.5.2. self-esteem level being too low no confidence escape/retreat/give up self-isolated lack of ability to discern right from wrong low expectation,future is gloomy

4. A creative solution by joint effort

5. Life skills

5.1. Responsible for others

5.1.1. Treat others properly and correctly

5.1.2. considering only what we want

5.2. Concern for others

5.2.1. Show consideration, care, and be thoughtful to others Put yourself into others' shoes by sharing

5.3. Empathetic

5.3.1. Understanding others' emotions and feelings

5.4. Consideration of consequences

5.4.1. Anticipate both intended and unintended consequences before taking action

5.5. Critical thinking

5.5.1. Collect and process different information logical conclusion formulate one's stance

5.6. Problem solving

5.6.1. Recognize and define the problem we face

5.6.2. Understand why the problem exists

5.6.3. Generate different solutions and select the most effective way to solve

5.7. Self-reflection

5.7.1. Think about the wrong doings we have committed and areas to be improved after completing the task

5.8. Self-discipline

5.8.1. Do things we ought to know without having other's reminders

5.9. Time/Emotion/Finance Management

5.9.1. exercise conscious control according to limits, avalibility or expectations

5.10. Importance

5.10.1. Social skills work in teams or groups harmoniously enable them to work towards a common goal with other teams members

5.10.2. Cognitive skills enable to read, think, prioritize, understand, plan, remember and solve the problem efficiently capable and making decisions intelligently process, analyse and make association and judgement on the information

5.10.3. Self-management skills meet the expectations can resolve dilemmas when they are overwhelmed by different sorts of responsibilities and workloads

5.11. Respect others

5.11.1. Listen and accept others' opinions, feelings, thoughts and physical space

6. Rights and Responsibility

6.1. Responsibility

6.1.1. At school Be punctual Study hard Submit homework on time

6.1.2. In the family Respect parents do housework

6.1.3. In the society don't break the law keeping the society clean pay taxes

7. Conflicts

7.1. Pros

7.1.1. Allow both parties to understand each other’s views and feelings

7.1.2. Acquisition of life skills Improve communication skills and empathy

7.1.3. Reflecting ourselves

7.1.4. Life skills of self-understanding and accepting difference self-understanding real self=/=ideal self

7.2. Cons

7.2.1. Hinder development of one’s self-esteem Poorer relationships with others Isolated

7.2.2. Damage interpersonal relationships Disappointed Might attack others who irritated them

7.2.3. Emotional physical harm Unpleasant ways to relieve their emotions Self mutilation

7.3. Possible causes

7.3.1. Stress

7.3.2. Different views/expectations

7.3.3. Lack of communication

7.3.4. Unfair treatment Emotional disturbance

7.3.5. Lack of life skills

7.4. Approaches

7.4.1. Competition High concern for self Low concern for others Argue/Debate Intensifies conflict Force others to follow one’s will by using violent means

7.4.2. Avoidance Low concern for both Active listening, identify concerns, analyze input, non threatening confrontation Only wanted to escape from or suppress the problem Lack of confidence in managing conflict

7.4.3. Collaboration High concern for both

7.4.4. Compromise Moderate both concerns Both assertive co-operative To trade in order to win some consessions Low concern for self High concern for others

7.4.5. Accommodation

8. Relationships

8.1. Significance

8.1.1. develop identities

8.1.2. Build self-esteem

8.1.3. Meet social needs

8.1.4. Provide emotional support

8.2. Parent-Child

8.2.1. Changes in family structure Single-child families self-centered child More focus on the child single-parent families sense of security self esteem work One parent being mainlander one parent has to work in mainland siblings Dual working parents parental love and care siblings Hiring foreign domestic helper rely on domestic helper reduce the chance to do housework communication neglect the conditions and needs

8.2.2. Parenting Styles Authoritarian high demand low acceptance Authoritative high demands high acceptance Neglecting low demands low acceptance Indulgent low demands high acceptance

8.2.3. Ways to maintain a harmonious relationship Parent be more open-minded accept new ideas try to adopt new methods to communicate with children child be more patient be initiated to introduce new ideas to parents do not always believe that "parents do not understand" express their views appropriately

8.3. Don’t understand your habits or preferences

8.4. Sibling

8.4.1. Siblings rivalry Causes Competition Fighting Jealously Sense of security/ affiliation Lack of understanding Consequences Self image Develop effective social skills Loss of emotional support from siblings Poorer relationships Resolve Learn to comprise Let it end Remain calm Ask third party to mediate Bear a grudge

8.4.2. Reflect on what you have done to cause the rivalry

8.5. Peer

8.5.1. Importance Establish self-esteem with a sense of belonging and security Loved, supported, accepted Life skills Assist in self-understanding in the process of identity development Acquire social skills Offer assistance Encouragement Readily available Support Source of comfort Discover interests Peers: Channel to other hobbies

8.6. Teacher-student

8.7. Love relationship

8.8. Colleague-Colleague