1. When you don't clean up your incompletes, they subtly subtract energy from your life instead of adding energy to your life. They are "expiring" you rather than "inspiring" you.
2. I. The Fundamentals of Success
2.1. 1. Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life
2.1.1. The principals always work if you always work the principals.
2.1.1.1. "You can't hire someone to do pushups for you" -Jim Rohn
2.1.1.2. Event + Response = Outcome
2.1.2. You have control over only three things in your life- the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take (behavior). How you use these three things determines everything you experience.
2.1.2.1. If you keep on doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always got.
2.1.3. If you don't like what you are producing and experiencing, you have to change your responses. Change your negative thoughts to positive ones. Change what you day dream about. Change your habits. Change what you read.
2.1.4. The man who complains about the way the ball bounces is likely the one who dropped it. -Lou Holtz
2.1.4.1. In order to complain about something or someone, you have to believe that something better exists. You have to have to have a reference point of something you prefer that you are not willing to take responsibility for creating.
2.1.4.2. Complaining is an ineffective response to an event that does not produce a better outcome.
2.1.5. To avoid risking any uncomfortable feelings, such as change, risk, effort, difficult, you stay put and complain about it.
2.2. 2. Be Clear Why You're Here
2.2.1. When you are truly and passionately on purpose, the people, resources, and opportunities you need naturally gravitate toward you. The world benefits, too, because when you act in alignment with your true purpose, which may at first glance seem selfish, all of your actions automatically serve others.
2.2.2. Figure out what you love to do as young as you can, and then organize your life around figuring out how to make a living at it.
2.3. 3. Decide What You Want
2.3.1. At this stage in the journey, it is not necessary to know exactly how you are going to get there. All that is important is that you figure out where "there" is. If you get clear on the what, the how will show up.
2.3.1.1. "Always dream big dreams. Big dreams attract big people." - General Wesley Clark
2.3.1.2. "If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is a compromise."
2.3.1.3. "Create your future from your future, not your past." -Werner Erhard
2.4. 4. Believe It's Possible
2.4.1. "Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve."
2.5. 5. Believe in Yourself
2.5.1. Here's another statistic showing that belief in yourself is more important than knowledge, training, or schooling; 20% of America's millionaires never set foot in college, and 16 of the 492 Americans listed as billionaires in 2014 never got their college diplomas; 2 never finish high school.
2.5.1.1. Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule: When you're 18, you worry about what everyone is thinking of you; when you're 40, you don't give a darn what anyone thinks of you; when you're 60, you realize nobody's been thinking about you at all.
2.5.2. What others think about you is none of your business.
2.5.2.1. Don't ever let someone else tell you what you are not capable of. With training, determination, and hard work you can eventually do anything you set your mind to. Remember, your beliefs are a choice. So make the choice to believe in yourself no matter what anyone else says.
2.5.3. "You have to believe in yourself when no one else does. That's what makes you a winner." -Venus Williams
2.5.3.1. If having others believing in you and your dream was a requirement for success, most of us would never accomplish anything. You need to base your decisions about what you want to do on your goals and desires- not the goals, desires, opinions, and judgements of your parents, friends, spouse, children, and coworkers. Quit worrying what other people think about you and follow your heart.
2.5.4. Meanwhile, all that time you are wasting- worrying about what other people think about your ideas, your goals, your clothes, hair, home etc.- could all be better spent focusing on doing the things that will achieve your goals.
2.6. 6. Use the Law of Attraction
2.6.1. What you think about, talk about, thank about, believe strongly about, and feel intensely about, you will bring about.
2.6.1.1. Where attention goes, energy flows. Where intention goes, energy flows.
2.6.2. "When you radiate outward in your thoughts, feelings, mental pictures, and words, you attract into your life." -Catherine Ponder
2.6.2.1. Worrying is like negative goal setting. You're creating pictures in your mind of what you don't want.
2.6.3. The law of attraction responds either way, and brings you more of what you are vibrating. This is shocking to most people. To learn that the life they're living now is the result of the thoughts and vibrations they've offered in the past is revolutionary.
2.6.3.1. "By the thought, the thing you want is brought to you; by action; you receive it." -Wallace D. Wattles
2.6.4. If you want to listen to jazz, you have to tune your dial to a station that broadcasts jazz, not one that plays heavy metal. If you want more abundance and prosperity in your life, you have to tune the frequency of your thoughts and feelings to ones of abundance and prosperity.
2.7. 7. Power of Goal-Setting
2.7.1. The ultimate benefit of overcoming these considerations, fear and roadblocks is not the material rewards that you enjoy but the personal development that you achieve in the process.
2.7.1.1. Money, cars, fame, can all be taken away in a blink of an eye. But what can never be taken away is who you have become in the process of achieving your goal.
2.7.2. God needs our hands to complete His tasks on Earth. But to become masters and do this great work, we have to be willing to go through the considerations, fears, and roadblocks.
2.8. 8. Chunk it Down
2.8.1. The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret to getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into small, manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one. -Mark Twain
2.9. 9. Success Leaves Clues
2.9.1. Long ago, I realized that success leaves clues, and that people who produce outstanding results do specific things to create those results. I believed that if I precisely duplicated the actions of others, I could reproduce the same quality of results they had. -Anthony Robbins
2.10. 10. Release the Breaks
2.10.1. As long as you keep complaining about your present circumstances, your mind will focus on it. To change this cycle, you must focus instead on thinking, talking, and writing about the reality you want to create.
2.10.1.1. The significant problems we face cannot be solved by the same level of thinking that created them. -Albert Enstein
2.10.2. Use the present tense, describe what you want though you already have it, as though it is already accomplished.
2.10.2.1. State it in the positive. Affirm what you want, not what you don't want. The unconscious does not hear the words no, or not. Your creative subconscious doesn't think in words- it thinks in pictures.
2.11. 13. Take Action
2.11.1. Some psychologists are now claiming that one hour of visualization is worth 7 hours of physical effort.
2.11.2. The world doesn't pay you for what you know, it pays you for what you do.
2.11.2.1. All manner of good things begin to flow in your direction once you begin to take action.
2.11.3. People with similar goals become aligned with you. You begin to learn things from your experience that cannot be learned from listening to others or from reading books. You get feedback how to be better
2.11.3.1. How you do anything, is how you do everything.
2.11.4. Most successful people have a low tolerance for excessive planning and talking about it. They just do.
2.11.4.1. READY FIRE AIM
2.11.4.2. Successful people understand that failing is an important part of the learning process.
2.12. 14. Just Lean Into It
2.12.1. Roadblocks are put in your path to force you onto a different path- a path that may be truer to your real purpose.
2.12.1.1. Be willing to start without seeing the whole path.
2.12.2. You can get from where you are now to where you want to be if you just trust that if you lean into it, the path will appear.
2.12.2.1. Sometimes it will be like driving through the fog, where you can only see the road 10 yards ahead of you.
2.12.3. Take action and get started today. You do not have to know everything to get going. Just get into the game, you will learn by doing.
2.12.3.1. First jump off the cliff, then build your wings on the way down.
2.12.3.2. Quit waiting until you are perfectly ready. You will never be.
2.12.4. Some of the most important things can only be learned in the process of doing them. YOu do something and you get feedback- about what works and what doesn't.
2.12.4.1. If you don't do anything for fear of doing it wrong, poorly, or badly, you never get any feedback, and therefore you never get to learn and improve.
2.13. 15. Experience Fear
2.13.1. Millions of years ago, fear was our body's way of telling us that we were out of our comfort zone. It alerted us to possible danger and gave us the adrenaline we needed to run away.
2.13.1.1. Unfortunately, this was useful in the days when saber-toothed tigers were chasing us, today most of our threats are not all that life-threatening.
2.13.1.2. Today, fear is more of a signal that we must stay alert and cautious. We can feel fear, but still can move forward.
2.13.2. Acknowledge that fear exists but don't let it keep you from doing important tasks.
2.13.2.1. All fear is self-created by imagining some negative outcome in the future.
2.13.3. One way to actually disappear fear is to ask yourself what you're imagining that is scary to you, and then replace that image with its positive opposite.
2.13.4. Progress always involves risk; you can't steal second base and keep your foot on first base.
2.14. 16. Be Willing to Pay the Price
2.14.1. PAIN IS ONLY TEMPORARY... THE BENEFIT LAST FOREVER
2.14.1.1. Practice isn't the thing you do once you're good. It's the thing you do that makes you good.
2.14.2. When you're not practicing, someone somewhere else is. And when the two of you meet, given equal ability, he will win.
2.14.2.1. It's not the will to win that matters- everyone has that. It's the will to prepare to win that matters.
2.14.3. Anything worth doing well is worth doing badly in the beginning.
2.15. 17. Ask Ask Ask!
2.15.1. Ask and it shall be given to you.
2.15.1.1. You have to become an "askhole."
2.15.2. To be successful, you have to take risks, and one of the risks is the willingness to risk rejection.
2.15.2.1. Truth is, you never have anything to lose by asking, and because there is something to possibly gain, by all means ask.
2.16. 18. Reject Rejection
2.16.1. To get over rejection, you have to realize that rejection is really a myth. It doesn't really exist. If you ask Patty to have dinner with you and she says no, you didn't have anyone to eat dinner with before asking her and after. The situation didn't get worse, it stayed the same.
2.16.1.1. It only gets worse if you go inside and tell yourself something extra like "See mother was right, no one will ever like me. I am the slug of the universe."
2.16.2. SWSWSWSW
2.16.2.1. Some will, some won't; so what- someone's waiting. Some people are going to say yes and some will say no. So what! Other there somewhere, someone is waiting for you. What you want, wants you.
2.16.3. But because she had a dream of sharing with others the life-transforming experience that she had, she preserved in the face of a lot of rejection, knowing that it was indeed a numbers game.
2.16.3.1. Success consists of going from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.
2.16.4. Get used to the idea that there is going to be a lot of rejection along the way to your goals. The secret to success is to not give up.
2.16.4.1. When someone says no, you say NEXT.
2.16.5. Remember to get what you want you are going to need to ask, ask, ask, and say next, next, next until you get the yes(es) you are looking for.
2.16.5.1. Asking is, was, and always will be a numbers game. Don't take it personally, because it isn't personal.
2.17. 19. Using Feedback
2.17.1. Feedback is the breakfast of champions
2.17.1.1. To reach your goals more quickly, you need to welcome, receive, and embrace all the feedback that comes your way.
2.17.2. I was off course more than I was on course, and I still got there. Just by continually taking action and constantly adjusting to the feedback.
2.17.2.1. Negative feedback is like "improvement opportunities." Think of it as correctional guidance instead of criticism.
2.17.3. Knowing in detail what will satisfy them gives you the information you need to do what is necessary to create a winning product, service or relationship.
2.17.3.1. Ask on a scale of 1 to 10 how would you rate the meeting we just had? What would make it a 10? Take feedback.
2.18. 22. Practice Persistance
2.18.1. You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine. -John Maxwell
2.18.1.1. No is a word on your path to yes. Don't give up too soon. Not even if well-meaning parents, relatives, friends tell you to get a real job. Your dreams are your real job.
2.18.1.2. Measure what you want, not what you don't want.
2.18.2. Sometimes the universe will test your commitment to the goal you're pursuing.
2.18.2.1. For every failure, there's an alternative course of action. You just have to find it. When you come to a road block, take a detour. -Mary Kay Ask
2.19. 23. Rule of 5
2.19.1. If you would go everyday to a very large tree and take five swings at it with an ax, eventually, no matter how big it is, it would have to come down. How simple and true!
2.19.1.1. Rule of 5 is that every day, we do five specific things that will move our goal toward completion.
2.20. 24. Exceed Expectations
2.20.1. It's never crowded along the extra mile. -Wayne Dyer
2.20.1.1. Help people, make friends, and have fun.
2.20.2. If you are willing to do more than you are paid to do, eventually you will be paid to do more than you do.
2.20.2.1. Instead of focusing on how you can get more, you focus on how you can give more.
3. II. Transform Yourself for Success
3.1. 25. Surround Yourself with Successful People
3.1.1. You are an average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. -Jim Rohn
3.1.1.1. If you want to become successful, you have to start hanging out successful people.
3.1.2. There are two types of people- anchors and motors. You want to lose the anchors and get with the motors because the motors are going somewhere and they're having more fun. The anchors will just drag you down. -Wyland
3.1.2.1. Pay any price to stay in the presence of extraordinary people.
3.2. 26. Postive Past
3.2.1. Research has shown over and over again the more you acknowledge your past successes, the more confident you become in taking on and successfully accomplishing new ones.
3.2.1.1. It's easy to be negative and unmotivated, but it takes some work to be positive and motivated.
3.3. 28. Clean Up Your Messes
3.3.1. When you clear out the old you also make room for something new. Make room for it psychologically as well as physically.
3.4. Complete Past Embrace Future
3.4.1. As long as you don't forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy rent-free space in your mind. -Isabelle Holland
3.4.1.1. Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.
3.4.2. Remember that all people are always doing the best they can do to meet their basic needs with the awareness, knowledge, skills, and tools they have at the time. If they could have done better they would have done better.
3.4.2.1. As they develop more awareness of how their behavior affects others, and as they learn more effective and less harmful ways to meet their needs, they will behave in less harmful ways.
3.4.3. Some healthcare professionals even believe that an illness or chronic pain in a specific area of the body is a result of a specific emotional pain stored in that meridian.
3.4.3.1. Hatred can consume you, and it's a wasted emotion.