1. Key Points
1.1. Chapter 1
1.1.1. Don’t Assume A Woman’s Wants And Needs Are The Same As Your Own.
1.1.1.1. Remember that there is an inherent biological difference in the way male and female brains are wired
1.1.1.2. Instead of letting it confuse you (which happens to 99.9% of all men), learn to use it to your advantage so they will become interested in YOU.
1.1.2. Women Are FAR More Interested In The Way You Make Them FEEL Rather Than Looks, Money, Or Fame.
1.1.2.1. In most cases when a man is not physically attracted to a woman, there is very little she can do to turn his feelings around.
1.1.2.2. Luckily for us, women aren’t programmed the same way.
1.1.2.3. It’s very possible for a man who ISN’T tall, good looking, or rich to make a woman feel the same powerful feelings we do when we see a drop-dead gorgeous woman. Nice.
1.1.3. Communicate That You Are The SELECTOR And Not The SELECTEE.
1.1.3.1. There is nothing you can do to stand out in a woman’s mind faster than to let her know that you are SELECTIVE when it comes to women.
1.1.3.2. Most guys will ‘settle’ for anything they can get. When you let a woman know that you are actually sizing HER up, SHE’LL be the one trying to impress you.
1.1.4. Don’t Settle For Second-Class Behavior From Women.
1.1.4.1. Women are accustomed to having a guy kiss their ass and do anything and everything to attempt to please them... but all it does is drive them nuts.
1.1.4.2. When a woman meets a man she thinks she might be interested in, she wants to know RIGHT AWAY if he is one of “those guys” that she should stay away from. How does she do this? By TESTING him to see just how far she can go.
1.1.4.3. Letting her get away with things like being rude, whining, or complaining, tells her INSTANTLY that you aren’t the strong man she wants and needs.
1.1.4.4. So stand up for yourself and don’t ever except second-class behavior from a woman. She’ll thank you for it.
1.1.5. Don’t Try To ‘Buy’ Her Affection With Presents, Gifts, And Favors.
1.1.5.1. When a man takes a woman out to nice dinners and buys her gifts too early in the relationship, the woman will begin to think the man is trying to ‘buy’ HER.
1.1.5.2. Women see this as manipulation... and a LACK OF CONFIDENCE. Think about it.
1.1.5.3. Women want a man who has enough confidence in himself to know that he can please her WITHOUT having to pull out his wallet.
1.1.5.4. If you spend too much money on a woman or do too many favors for her, you are subtly telling her that your pocketbook is ALL YOU HAVE TO OFFER.
1.2. Chapter 2
1.2.1. It’sOKtobeaMAN.
1.2.2. Make A Long-Term Commitment To Practice And Learn This Material.
1.2.3. Never Stop Improving Your Physical Appearance.
1.2.4. Talk POSITIVELY To Yourself.
1.2.5. Find And Learn From Others Who Are Already Successful With Women.
1.2.6. Define The Outcome You Desire With Women.
1.3. Chapter 3
1.3.1. Learn To ATTRACT Women Instead Of Pursuing Them.
1.3.2. Insecurity And Neediness Are Your Two Worst Enemies.
1.3.3. Avoid “Relationship” Type Behavior.
1.3.4. Go To The Type Of Places That Attract The Women You Want.
1.3.5. Focus On Developing Personality Traits That Attract Women.
1.4. Chapter 4
1.4.1. Stay In Control By Passing Her Tests.
1.4.2. Be The First To End The Interaction.
1.4.3. Build Her Curiosity By Being Mysterious.
1.4.4. Use Cocky & Funny Humor To Keep Her Interest And Attention.
1.4.5. Develop A Deep, Resonating Voice That Women Are Drawn To.
1.5. Chapter 5
1.5.1. 93% Of Our Communication Comes From Body Language And Voice Tone.
1.5.2. Eye Contact Is Key.
1.5.3. Don’t Waste Time Trying To ‘Read’ Women... Just Keep Advancing.
1.5.4. Learn To Talk To A Woman In A Way That Stimulates Her Imagination.
1.6. Chapter 6
1.6.1. Plan For Success
1.6.2. Be Chivalrous
1.7. Chapter 7
1.7.1. Online Dating
1.7.2. Best Opener
1.7.2.1. How you Say It
1.7.2.1.1. Mysterious
1.7.2.1.2. Slow
1.7.2.1.3. Confidence
1.7.2.2. “Hi, I was going to come talk to you earlier but I got busy... what’s your name? Do you have e- mail?”
1.7.2.3. Napkin Resturaunt
1.7.2.3.1. I have a friend who does something interesting in a restaurant. He’ll call the waiter over and say, “Can you deliver this napkin to that girl over there? But don’t tell her who it’s from.” Then, he’ll draw a tic- tac-toe game and put an X in one of the squares. (Always tip the waiter a dollar!) (The napkin almost always comes back, and the game is on... It’s fun, mysterious, and the girl always wants to know who’s playing with her. I’ve used this before, and it’s great fun. At some point, depending on whether you’re winning or losing, you can come over to her table and say something like, “Well, I had to meet my worthy opponent” or “I hope you talk better than you play”, etc.)
1.7.3. Go To Where The Women Are.
1.7.4. What To Say... And How To Say It.
1.7.5. Starting Conversations With Women Is No Big Deal.
1.7.6. Act ‘Uninterested’.
1.7.7. Practice Getting E-mails And Phone Numbers.
1.7.8. Mindset
1.7.8.1. quit EXPECTING to “pick up girls” and instead go make friends and give the women the opportunity to get to know you.
1.7.9. 3 Minute Close
1.8. Chapter 8
1.8.1. Your 7-Step Guide To Getting Physical
1.8.2. When You Meet
1.8.2.1. Total indifference.
1.8.2.1.1. At coffee, just sit and be the funny and cocky self, make jokes, and in general lean back and make ‘friends’.
1.8.2.1.2. I’ve now learned that if I lean back and almost don’t touch them at all on purpose, it creates this tension so that when I do actually touch them, they respond powerfully. In communication they call this ‘Building Response Potential’.
1.8.2.1.3. I’m just sitting there ACTING LIKE WE’RE BEST FRIENDS. When you act like they’re a best friend, they will rapidly get comfortable with you. I make fun of people, whatever. I just totally lean back and relax. I’m cool, relaxed, and constantly making comments about how we’re going to be friends, etc.
1.8.2.1.4. I’ve learned never to compliment a hot woman on her looks, period. I still mess up and forget, and I’m always reminded why I don’t do it. I try to find one thing that she’s insecure about and talk to her about it like ‘a friend’... not overly critical, but not saying, ‘No, you shouldn’t be insecure’... I just keep bringing it up and even make jokes about it.
1.9. Chapter 9
1.9.1. 10 Steps To A Guaranteed Great Date
1.9.1.1. New node
1.9.2. Good Conversation
1.9.2.1. Topics
1.9.2.1.1. These topics will light up a conversation like nobody’s business. And they create all kinds of opportunities to be cocky and funny while talking about the misfortunes and neurotic behavior of others. The trick is that you must remember you’re not there to impress her, and you’re not on a job interview. The more you act nervous, stilted, and uncomfortable... like you’re trying to impress her and get her approval... and like you don’t want to say anything that might make her disapprove of you, the less likely you are to trigger that all-important ATTRACTION inside of her.
1.9.2.1.2. And here’s a real twist on this theme: If SHE starts asking the ‘normal’ questions about school, job, family, etc. this is a perfect opportunity to bust on her and say, “What, is this a job interview?” or “Can’t you think of something interesting to talk about? Please, spare me the pain of the usual school-job-family conversation. Let’s save that until we’re picking names for our kids.”
1.10. Chapter 10
1.10.1. Relationships
1.10.1.1. Relationships aren’t like investing. If you want a lot, get used to giving more. But it’s worth it in the end, because love, attention, humor, and fun aren’t like money. If you give them out, you don’t have less. You have MORE. Get it?
1.10.1.2. Well, the short answer is, keep up the fun, interesting, unpredictable behavior. Notice the details. Do thoughtful things.