1. Desire
1.1. Ada
1.1.1. pro
1.1.1.1. She is available and ready
1.1.1.1.1. upheld
1.1.1.2. she is beautiful
1.1.1.2.1. self evident - upheld
1.1.1.3. She is charming
1.1.1.3.1. self evident -upheld
1.1.1.4. I would be wanted rather than needed
1.1.1.4.1. would prevent all the usual feminine sacrifice - upheld
1.1.1.5. She is fun
1.1.1.5.1. elf evident -upheld
1.1.2. con
1.1.2.1. she lives on the grid, I live here (minor)
1.1.2.1.1. travel to the grid is easy - debunked
1.1.2.2. she's a very busy lady
1.1.2.2.1. She would not be pursuing anything she didn't have time for -debunked
1.1.2.3. If I choose her, then Nick may be more likely to seriously pursue Johnny, but Johnny is with Ches, so that would end badly.
1.1.2.3.1. Is this really my responsibility? They are all adults. This is their business, no matter how much I care about Nick and Johnny. - dubunked
1.1.2.4. Unconventional girl/girl romance
1.1.2.4.1. It is unconventional and would require adjustment. - Upheld
1.1.2.5. She seems pretty ok by herself, I would not be needed, per se
1.1.2.5.1. Not necessarily a bad thing - debunked
1.2. Nick
1.2.1. Pro
1.2.1.1. Conventional type of boy/girl romance
1.2.1.1.1. comfortable and I know what to do... mostly -uphheld
1.2.1.2. He is very sweet
1.2.1.2.1. self evident - upheld
1.2.1.3. I feel like he needs someone - i could be wrong
1.2.1.3.1. I do not know this for sure. -debunked
1.2.1.4. I feel a sense of duty to fix what the other Alice did
1.2.1.4.1. confusion of responsibilities - debunked
1.2.1.5. he is really handsome
1.2.1.5.1. self evident - upheld
1.2.2. Con
1.2.2.1. could be completely due to a sense of duty
1.2.2.1.1. bad idea for a relationship... upheld
1.2.2.2. He is not ready
1.2.2.2.1. he has said so -upheld
1.2.2.3. He has serious issues
1.2.2.3.1. upheld
1.2.2.4. he is in love with Johnny as well
1.2.2.4.1. upheld
1.2.2.5. Johnny (my best freind) loves him
1.2.2.5.1. bad idea to go after a man your best friend fancies -upheld
2. fear
2.1. Loss of friendship should things go badly
2.1.1. Being aboveboard in all dealings should help with this
2.2. Making the wrong choice
2.2.1. to err is human. It is sufficient to examine the issue and chose as best I can. I can never guarantee a perfect outcome.
2.3. the whole Johnny/Nick/Cheshire thing...
2.3.1. Is not my responsibility.