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The Love System by Mind Map: The Love System
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The Love System



Average Male of Group


Demonstrating Lower Value


Indicators of Interest


Demonstrating Higher Value

Emotional Progression


Types, Direct, Screening, Examples, "Hey, I think you're attractive, but I wasn't sure if you were my type, so I figured I'd come over and find out", “Is there more to you than meets the eye?”, “I saw you from over there and wanted to see what you were like. What are your three best qualities?”, “What do you have going for you more than your looks?”, “Why would I want to get to know you?”, "What nationality are you?”, None, Examples, I'd give you a 9.5, You're hot. You should talk to me., You guys seem cool... are you friendly?, “Don’t look at me like that or I’ll fall in love.”, “If you’re going to look at me like that, you should at least talk to me.”, “Are you (guys) shy, or something?”, “Because we’ve been here for almost 15 minutes and you haven’t even come over and said, ‘Hi’ yet.”, "Here's the deal, I've been looking around this place, and I've come to the conclusion that you are the only girl here who's cute enough for me to talk to. So great, now we're talking.", "You should wear your hair open.", “Open that up one more button.”, Just fix their clothes for them, tell them what would look amazing on them, From there, it’s easy to launch right into a routine. For example you can talk about what and how much clothes say about people and cold–read her right there or go in a different direction., Point, (Act like Mom counting to 3) Go over and say Look, I'm here, now you take it from here., Middle Finger, Hi, I'm me, who are you?, Point, (Act like Mom counting to 3) Go over and say Look, I'm here, now you take it from here., *?*, explicitly express some degree of interest, The success of a direct opener has less to do with the actual script of the opener and more to do with the level of confidence and congruence which is delivered, Train your eye to look for imperfections, but make your commentary ambiguous, as though it’s almost a compliment., Indirect, Opinion, Examples, My friend’s girlfriend is planningto have breast enlargement surgeryas her birthday present to him.He doesn’t know about this and I don’tthink he’ll be happy. Should I saysomething to her? Or to him?, I’m planning my friend’s birthday party next Friday and I’m trying to decide between an 80stheme and a jungle theme. What do you think?, “Hey, do you guys think drunk “I love you’s” count?”, “OK, check this out… my friend Nick got really drunk last night and told his girlfriend that he loved her, then this morning he took it back. Do you think he meant it?”, “Here’s my take. When you’re drunk you say things that you actually mean but are afraid to say, so I told her that he probably meant it but just need more time to say it sober.”, “My friend is about to marry a girl I can’t stand. How do I tell him not to?”, “It’s not even that I don’t like her. I get along with her just fine.. It's just that he doesn't get along with her. It's like oil and water. They fight all the time. You probably know couples like that., Like you and me, We’d never get along. I can already tell…, Move into a Transition or Relationship–related routine, “Would you read your boyfriend’s email if you thought he was cheating on you?”, “My friend thought his girlfriend was cheating on him so he had these guys in China hack into her email for $250…I know, it's shady; anyway, he finds out she is cheating, but should he tell her he hacked her email or just tell her out of the blue?, “If he breaks up with her out of the blue it’ll seem weird to everyone. They’ve been together for like two years. But if he says he read the email, she’ll totally turn it around on him and make it about the hacking. That’s totally a brilliant girl tactic. Turning it around on the guy even when you’re wrong…”, Turning to the One you Want, You would totally do that, “Hey guys, how do you tell someone you’re not interested without hurting their feelings?”, “OK, check this out, I came out with some friends of mine and my friend Mindy is trying to set me up with her friend, and she’s cute but she’s just not my type. What should I say?”, ”Hey guys, you won’t believe what’s going on with a friend of mine and his girlfriend. They’ve been dating each other for six months now, and my friend really loves her. But they had this big fight a few weeks ago, and she went to visit her mother to cool down. While she was gone my friend was do depressed, that he ended up hooking up with a random girl he met at a club. Anyway, a few days later, his girlfriend comes back, and she finds this girl's thong in the bathroom, and she knows the thong isnt hers., So she confronts my friend on this and he lies and says that the panties are his! And that he secretly likes to dress up in women’s underwear. So I don’t know if his girlfriend knew he was lying and just wanted to punish him, or if she really is into this or not, but she said she thinks that’s really kinky and turns her on and wants him to wear women’s underwear around the house. So he’s been doing this for a few weeks now and is absolutely miserable! So I think he should just come clean and let his girlfriend know what happened. What do you guys think? How important is trust in a relationship? Or do you think some things should remain hidden, even if it means being miserable?”, “Hey, if a guy and a girl get to the bar at the exact same, who gets served first?, “See, my ex–girlfriend was a bartender and she used to reckon that the girls got served first unless the guy was better at making eye contact, I bet I'll get served before you do.", Topics, Philosophy, Relationships, Gossip, Fashion, New Age, These tend to work very well because they interest most women., Situational, Examples, You're looking pretty intense at that cereal box, thinking of switching bands are ya?, *?*, an opener that does not imply romantic or sexual interest in a woman, the most versatile form of openers we have, don’t require an inordinate amount of skill, and can be tweaked, for just about any situation, easy to deliver,, avoids making women uncomfortable and risking an initial loss of value because you do not have to express overt sexual interest in the woman or her group, Using Indirect Openers is all about positioning., Humorous, Groups, Examples, “Which one of you is the richest?”, “OK, you get to be my sugar mama. But hmm.... We need someone to cook for us. Who is the best cook?”, "You're awesome. High five.", "You know what? You're awesome too. High five.", Then when she goes to High Five you say, ohh you fell for the oldest one in the book!, This routine can be used to meet additional women. If you talk to the first set of women for a while and you're not interested in them... have them help you approach the second set by saying, "I can't believe you fell for my High Five joke! How many girls in here do you think will fall for that?", "How about that girl?", Okay well, you go stand next to her. I'll high five you first; and we'll see if she falls for it., “Hi. I’m from – (name of bar/restaurant/parking garage)– quality control. I’d like to know if your experience with us has been average, bettter than average, or crappier than average?”, I think I know you! Did we have sex last week? YES! It's you! Oh my God! So good to see you again!, “Hey sorry I haven’t called, been really busy.”, “Tell your friend I said hi and she was great too.”, “No? Wasn’t you? Hmm, you look just this girl I had sex with.....actually ya know, I can barely remember what she looks like at the moment.... No, I’m pretty sure it was you.”, Just walk right up to the group, plant yourself and say:, “Hey guys, sorry I’m late…” Then stand and wait for a response., Eye her up and down, smile, and say: “I was totally going to wear that tonight.”, Teasing, Examples, "So what's with the big purse? Are you carrying a gun in there?, "Those are some pretty tall shoes, what are you like 4' tall without them?", "So my girl name would have been Erica, if you were a boy what would your parents have named you?", Whatever she says, start teasing her about it and introduce her to people as that name, If she doesnt give a good name make up a good one for her, Steve, Jeremiah, Bob, Give her a childlike nickname, Princess, Tiger, Sport, Fake Palm Read, Set up that you read palms in a semi-serious, believable way and do the following “reading.” “Interesting... this line says you’ll have a long life... This says you’ll marry rich... And this says you like to give hand jobs.”, (She’ll feign shock of some sort.) “Oh, it’s not one of the lines… It’s just that your hand is sticky.” (Then wipe your hand on your shirt…), The Moral of the Story, If you tease a woman, it shows that YOU'RE NOT INTIMIDATED BY HER, and that you have a fun sense of humor., The Rules of Teasing, Don't answer her questions directly., Answer with funny answers, and don't give her what she wants., If she asks what you do... say, "Oh, funny you should ask. I'm a Calvin Klein Underwear Model...What do you do?..." (This is especially funny ifit's OBVIOUS that you are NOT a model) Do you get it? Keep it up and keep her laughing., Make your funny remarks with a care free, detached tone. You want to sound like you're talking to your best friend., *?*, neither direct nor indirect, If you are naturally funny, use these openers frequently., Great because the humor acts as a distraction from women wondering why you have approached them.

Location, You have to make it look casual by moving into an appropriate position or location where you might start a random, situational conversation with her. Also, it can often help to “ground” yourself to the situation, for example by picking up a book in a bookstore, or buying a cup of coffee in a café and sitting down (near to the woman)., Bookstore, It can be easy to start a conversation with a woman in a book or music store. Just transition off the original topic reasonably quickly, “Hey, can you recommend any good X books/music albums? I’m really into X but completely bored of what I’m reading/listening to at the moment.” If she gives a good suggestion, you can get into a role-play by saying, “Awesome. You should be my personal shopper. The pay is bad, but the perks are good – you get to hang out with me.”, “No way, I totally had you pegged for an Avril Lavigne girl. I can’t believe you don’t like melodramatic teenage rock music.”, If you see a woman holding a book, you can use that for an opener. Transition off it by asking more about what she’s into, for example other books by that author, another author or even a different genre (represented by ‘X’ in the opener). “Oh, I’ve read that, it’s an incredible book. Are you into X as well?”, Cafes, Any item that a woman has with her in a coffee shop is great to use for a situational opener. One of my favorites is when you catch a woman working on her laptop in the middle of the day. It’s easy to use an opener like this one, and then start a normal conversation., “Wow, your laptop is so much cooler than mine. I’m jealous. I totally have laptop envy right now.”, “You’re not from around here, are you?”, “Hey, can you watch my stuff for me? You look tough so I’m trusting that you’ll beat up anyone who tries to steal it. Okay, thanks.”, “So did anyone try to take my stuff? No? But you would have totally kicked their ass if they did, right?”, Bar, Drink, • “I need a drink. Come keep me company.”, • “I’m thirsty, let’s grab a drink.”, • “What are you drinking?” (She answers.) “Cool, let’s go.”, Sometimes, though, her friends may act weird when you try to take her away. Here’s a good way around this if you have a wing: Look at the group and ask everyone, but end up looking at your wing: You: “Hey, we’re going to go grab a drink, cool?” (Then your wing jumps in and “answers” for the whole group.) Wing: “Sure, go ahead.” This creates the illusion that the group has approved. You then lead the woman away to get a drink., Fake Palm Read, Set up that you read palms in a semi-serious, believable way and do the following “reading.” “Interesting... this line says you’ll have a long life... This says you’ll marry rich... And this says you like to give hand jobs.”, (She’ll feign shock of some sort.) “Oh, it’s not one of the lines… It’s just that your hand is sticky.” (Then wipe your hand on your shirt…), Street, “Excuse me, you’re absolutely gorgeous. I was going to kick myself if I didn’t come say hello.”, “Excuse me, I just saw you walking past and I thought to myself, ‘That girl is so cute, I have to talk to her.’”, “You’re absolutely stunning; I had to come meet you.”, “Oh my god, you are absolutely beautiful. Don’t get me wrong, there are some good looking girls out today, but there is something so… elegant about the way you walk.”, I would aim to get the woman from the street into a bar for an “instant date,” at which point I would certainly say some similar things to what I would say to the woman in the bar., Supermarket, "You look really serious about that X, thinking of switching brands?", “If this was a game show for clothes shopping/salad bar selection/text messaging/book choosing, you would be the grand champion. I can tell that you’re a highly competitive contestant and I should steer clear from you if I want to have any chance of winning!”

Caveats, The most important thing to remember is that despite all the weight put on opening by many guys, it is not a big deal., Opening is the act of beginning a conversation with a woman or group of people who you don’t already know., It’s what you do in the few minutes after the opener that matters most in terms of the impression you will make on a woman; not necessarily what you open with. That is why we have the crucial Transitioning phase, Always start talking to a woman within a few seconds of seeing her 1..2..3!!, Ask the question like the situation is really going on, not like you're taking a survey., The actual content of the responses you get from women after the opener is not important. You can disregard or integrate it as you choose, just make sure that you are steering the interaction in the direction of your choosing and not letting them hijack the conversation., You will be doing 90% of the talking in the first 5 minutes. Don't let silence happen. Keep talking.


Caveats, Once they've started talking about your friends birthday or whatever for a FEW SECONDS, cut them off by noticing something about them, You can and should interrupt them after a few seconds and talk about something else that you notice about them., The point of the transition is to get from talking about your opener to having a normal conversation., The key is to notice something about them and use that to change the topic of the conversation. This justifies staying and continuing the conversation without appearing to be "trying too hard."

Examples, Alright it seems that you [pick one woman at random] are the good one and you [the other woman] are the bad one. And thats okay. One of you can be my angel and the other can be the devil. Like we'll roll down the street, one of you on each arm, we'll make all the other women jealous, and every time theres a decision to be made, you guys can whisper in my ear and we'll see who's more tempting.

Cold Reads, “Ah, so you’re the good one and you’re the bad one.”, "So who would win in a fight? I've got money on you.", “Interesting… Firm handshake, limp handshake… She’s the dominant one I guess.”, "You're bad.", "Ohhhh noooo. You guys are trouble!", "You guys are the nice ones... I can only hang with you.", "Yeah, you're more quiet. Like Velma from Scooby Doo. You're smart, and you solve mysteries too!", "I don't know about you… I have a x–feeling about you.", "There's something suspicious going on here... I'm not sure what, but I can just feel it.", "You guys are fiesty. Like powerpuff girls.", "You guys are crazzzy.", "I can't trust you guys.", "Okay, I can trust you now.. you guys are *IN*.. you're trustworthy.", "You guys are like crime fighters", "You guys are total badgirls.", "You're the leader.", "Dude, these girls are obviously VERY adventurous.", "You seem like you'd be a (pick their occupation), You can pretend to notice what she is doing with her eyes in the middle of a conversation, whether or not she actually does what you “notice.” “Interesting… Are you a visual person?”, “Do you think in pictures and see little movies in your head? You tend to look up when you think. People who are creative and are visually oriented tend to look up when they think. I'm the same way.", “We all favor different directions. People who tend to be logical, like lawyers and accountants, tend to look to the side when they think.” (Demonstrate by looking to the side.), Hand Shakes, "You know you can tell alot about a women by the way they shake your hand.", Just from the time we meet you we can whether you are, "Confident; a women who is confident will have a good firm grip, but not a death grip on the person she is meeting. She won't have a handshake like a cold fish. She will have a clear gaze, unwavering voice, and will make eye contact, and can joke with a guy she doesn't know. I can tell that you are relatively confident by the way you shake hands.", "I think you may be genuinely confident in most situations... but maybe not here.”, “Insecure…if you are, you will seem to be trying hard to get our approval. I’ll bet that you are generally secure in terms of knowing who you are, but sometimes you find yourself in situations that make you feel a little unsure of yourself.", “Competitive with other women…if you are, your body language will change when other attractive women enter the room. I can tell you aren’t one of those women who rolls her eyes when a hot girl walks in.”, “A girl who likes sex…if your handshake lingers or has a sensual feel to it, you like sex. Here, give me your hand... I’ll demonstrate.”, "Judgemental in evaluating a man. I noticed from the way you looked at your friend while talking to me that you were making judgments about the way I am acting and behaving.", "Happy... You are if your laugh is genuine and you seem genuinely pleased to meet others and have an attitude of "Who knows what door might open?" I’ll bet that you are a genuinely happy person. You might have your ups and downs, but you seem genuinely open and pleased to meet me, so I'll be that you are happy in general.", "A diva or a drama queen... You are if you make a big drama out of small stuff, and from the way you describe everyday events, I'll bet that you aren't a drama queen, but I'll also bet that you like to have at least a little drama going on in your everyday life so you have something to talk about with your girlfriends.", "Give me your hand again. A woman who like sex will shake hands the way that you just did. A women who doesn't will have a very abrupt handshake, like this.", You look like you should be a schoolteacher


Caveats, Your brain will start to get used to improvising and dealing with social pressure., Dont do anything that would be interpreted as hitting on her, UNTIL SHE EARNS IT, She needs to be showing that she is interested in you before you can show her that you are interested in her., HOLD OFF on the what's your name? And what do you do? Until it's OBVIOUS and that you are both interested in each other. (Evidenced by IOI's), Create mutual attraction before you build comfort, She needs to be showing that she is interested in you before you can show her that you are interested in her., HOLD OFF on the what's your name? And what do you do? Until it's OBVIOUS and that you are both interested in each other. (Evidenced by IOI's), With each Attraction routine you use or develop, think of how it can help you demonstrate these eight qualities

Triggers, Foundation, Health, Humor, Social Intuition, Attributes, Wealth, Status, Outcomes, Confident, Pre-selected, Challenging

Examples, Stories, You can tell a story about something that happened to you that subtly communicates that you have status, Sometimes it will be through how you say it, Target the Trigger, Being able to capture a group’s attention and have it focused on you (in a positive way) demonstrates social skills and strong social intuition, Routines, Eyebrow, You have a very expressive face. I bet you're a lousy liar, “Really… Have you done any acting? Because it’s quite interesting… the most important part of being an actor is having an expressive face. Looks and training are obviously important, but an expressive face is crucial. OK, can you move your eyebrows independently? Try it.”, “See, you couldn’t/could do comedy. To do comedy, you have to be able to move your eyebrows independently., “My ex–girlfriend was Russian, and she was trying to make it as an actress, but she couldn’t quite do it, because she had that very proper Russian face, you know, the kind of expressionless Russian look.” (Make a stoic face at this point.) “Anyway, she would keep on applying for serious parts, but all she could get was modeling gigs and dancing in music videos and stuff like that, and it was because she didn’t have an expressive face.”, What a Shame, "You know it's a real shame we met here because I'm sure that outside of this you're a really fun and interesting person, and I am too. But people can never really be themselves in a bar/club. I mean - look around you - it's guys trying to be super confident and girls trying to be super bitchy. Interesting thing is, someone like you is probably cautious at first, which is cool, but you're probably pretty cool once people getting to know you - it's just that no one really gets that far.", Penis Implant, "Yeah I dont want to brag or anything, but I had a bit of plastic surgery done... and it went really well. I mean it cost alot of money... but it was really worth it!", “Well it’s kind of a secret… OK I got a penis implant. They doubled my size; I’m 4 inches now.”, This is a good way to turn things sexual under the veil of humor. Start talking about what they’ve had done. If there is a good sexual vibe going, squeeze their butts or boobs to “check” if they are real. Say you think a woman’s lips are fake and use that as an excuse to kiss her., Self Conscious, Find something you think she may be a little self–conscious about and bring it up. Here are a couple of examples:, “Omigod! I just noticed that!”, “How adorable!”, "You have the cutest little... overbite!", "You know I haven't even heard a word you've said just because I've been looking at... wait... smile again, “ have the....cutest little....crooked smile!”, Insecurities, Height, Unusual smiles, Braces, Freckles, Beauty marks, Make her feel a bit self–conscious, thereby knocking her out of her normal social program. If she is beautiful, her normal social program probably includes men who compliment and worship her. This changes that dynamic., Hug Test, "Okay we've been talking for the last 5 minutes, and I want to be sure I'm not wasting my time. Hug test!", “I have to see if you can hug worth a damn, otherwise I have to stick you in the friend zone. So you better give it your all.”, When you hug her she always gets a “B minus.” If she is annoyed with the substandard rating, tell her do to it again; she’ll almost always give an amazing hug, for which you can give her a reluctant “A.”, Run Away, “I’d just be terrible for you. I’m toxic. I’ll only hurt you… Run away, while you still can, little girl., "You know what? We need to find you a nice guy. Someone who will bring you chicken soup when you're sick and hold your purse for you in Pottery Barn how about him? Point to an average dorky looken guy and say “He looks perfect…”", Questions, “If you could meet anyone alive or dead, who would it be?”, “So, if you had your mom, your grandma and Jesus… And you had to punch one of them in the face as hard as you could or they all would die, which would you punch?”, “What do you secretly want to brag about?”

Voice, The Apple is Red, +, Say it in a PLAYFUL tone, +, Say it in a SEXY tone, +, Say it in a CONFIDENT tone


Caveats, Tell your stories as if they are emotional journeys,not recitations of facts.


Caveats, When she is giving you IOIs... switch gears., Now you can indulge your curiosity about her., #, Screening Questions, *, So, what do you do for fun?, No more than 3 compliments.. Make her earn them, When she tells you things about herself that you are attracted to, compliment her on them., To get her to see you again, or to have her willing to invest herself emotionally and build comfort with you... you need to convince her that you like her for things other than her looks and sexuality, look for non-physical things as “reasons” to be attracted to them, Give her hoops, Ask questions, You should also sometimes release the tension after a compliment with a non-sequitur tease, something along the lines of: “Too bad you’re such a dork!”

Examples of Hoops, “What nationality are you?”, "Oh my Gosh you're German! I love German girls. My family is German and we went over there and traced our whole family tree. It's a really cool culture.", “What are your three best qualities?”, “What do you have going for you more than your looks?”, “How tall are you?”, “Hey, you know what?”, “My ex used to always say everyone’s got a body double in the world, like a perfect unrelated twin version of themselves. Well, you totally remind me of a friend of mine I met while travelling Australia. This girl is like your doppelganger. Her name’s Kate but we all call her Cat. In fact, I’m calling you Cat all night.”, “Cat is one of the most fun and interesting people you’ll ever meet – I mean this girl was pretty, sure, but she had an amazing personality too. Tell me two interesting things about yourself.”, “Are you adventurous?", "Are you a good friend?", “What do you do for fun?”, “What’s your favorite color?”, “Are you spontaneous?”, “If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go?”, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”, "And don't say, "Princess!"", “If you could do anything in the world without fear of failure, what would you do?”, “Can you cook?”, "Do you like animals?", “What’s your favorite book?”, “What are 3 reasons I would want to get to know you?”, “What would your friends say about you?”, “OK, now teach me something interesting…” (After having done a killer routine), “What are your three best qualities?”, “If you had to pick one thing that makes life worth living, what would it be?”, “Is there more to you than meets the eye?”, “If everyone looked the same what would make you stand out?”, “Who are you?” (emphasize the word ”are”), “I can't believe this… Can you believe we met at a bar?", “I have to hang out with you again sometime.”, “What is the craziest place you’ve ever had sex?”, “What’s your favorite place to be touched?”, “What’s your favorite sexual position?”, “Tell me a secret.”, “If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?", “When was your first kiss?”


Examples, “This is so crazy. I can’t believe we met just a few hours ago at X. I just feel so comfortable with you.”, What Are We Girl, This is a way to set a sexual frame for the future that the relationship is going to be casual and both of you are perfectly cool with that. At some point as things are heating up and you are making out, stop and say in a playful teasing way: “You’re like the ‘What-are-we?’ girl, aren’t you? We’re going to wake up tomorrow and you’re going to be like, ‘What are we?’ ‘Where do you see this going?’ ‘Should I get your initials tattooed on my ass?’” She will laugh and deny it and then you should seem satisfied and proceed. Then the next morning when you wake up, spoon her in a silly, needy way and say: “Wow. That was amazing last night. You’re awesome… So, what are we now? Where do you see this going? Can I be like, your boyfriend now?”


Caveats, Seduction comes down to simply leading and physically escalating, What you say while doing this can make a big difference in your success so the following routines will help you use effective language while physically leading the woman into the Seduction phase, A lot of times a woman will say things like, “We shouldn’t be doing this,” or, “I’m not going to sleep with you,” but she’ll let you keep kissing her and getting sexual. Most of the time this is her logical mind trying to interrupt her emotional flow. In these instances, simply agree with her and continue. “You’re right baby, we should totally slow down.”, If a girl says to you, “But I don’t even know you! This is too soon,” and won’t let you physically escalate, then you probably haven’t built enough comfort with her. This is not a problem. The great thing about comfort is that you can usually build it on an ad hoc basis. Here is my normal routine in these cases. “That’s okay. I totally understand… Listen, I really enjoy your company – you’re sexy and everything but you’re also a really cool girl. I like talking to you too… Come here, lie down with me and we’ll chat.” Then, talk with her for a while, and try escalating again. Chances are things will be different and go smoothly after this., The key is to not disagree with her and keep pushing. Simply agree with her, confidently divert the energy to getting to know one another and later steer things back to sexuality once the comfort is better established., Sometimes a woman may say something like: “I’m not going to have sex with you,” even though she seems very attracted to you. You can often bypass this just by saying, “Cool,” and carrying on by talking and building ad hoc comfort as discussed above and eventually physically escalating again., “I really don’t care if we have sex tonight or not. I’d like to, but baby I don’t need it.”, The important thing after that is to turn very slightly away from her. Create a physical vacuum, which she will then be inclined to fill.

Plant a seed of sexuality, “Baby, you look so hot in that dress... I love the way your neck feels on my lips. I’m curious what your legs feel like too. I’m going to have to explore there later on with lots of kisses. I bet your whole body is as luscious as this patch of skin right here.”, Talk about something else,, After using a sexual seed like that, PULL AWAY and keep talking about something else. Don’t let things get too heated or dwell on it too long because that gives her a chance to rationalize what just happened., “Let’s get out of here and grab some coffee.”


Caveats, You should always compliment a woman’s body when she gets naked with you, ALL women are insecure about their bodies in some way, so you should reassure them how sexy they are when you are getting intimate., Make them comfortable and they will open up much more to you sexually.

Examples, “Your breasts are beautiful.”, “Your skin is so soft.”, “I love the feel of your neck in my hand.”, “You smell incredible.”, “You have the most incredible X.”, “You have the sexiest X.”

Staying in Contact

Text Messaging, Feed Information



Physical Progression


Caveats, “Suit the action to the word, the word to the action.”, If it fits what you’re saying, the touching makes sense and will work., If you touch a woman too much randomly and haphazardly, you will eventually creep her out., A push/pull dynamic is almost always built into any flirtatious conversation. Match the verbal pushes and pulls with comparable physical ones and your physical progression will be much more successful and calibrated. Enjoy., Physical progression should start from the beginning of the conversation., This breaks the touching “taboo” in the course of conversation and will generally progress through a few stages in the course of an interaction:, •Social, •Friendly, •Romantic, •Sexual

Examples, “You’re awesome, I’m adopting you as my new little sister.”, (With a hug.), “We’re breaking up… I want my CDs back.”, (With a little shove.), In the middle of the conversation as things are going well, put your arm over her shoulder and look to your friends, or her friends if yours aren’t there, and say as though you’re not sure: “So, what do you think? Is this going to work?” (Point back and forth between the two of you.) Regardless of the answer, you quickly release the arm on the shoulder and say: “Yeah, I don’t know yet…” And continue your conversation normally. It plants the seed that you’re interested and maintains a high-value but playful frame that you’re still screening., When a girl tells you something that isn’t really all that special, like “I just got cable” or “These are new shoes,” you can pretend to be overly excited about the news and pick her up and start swinging her around. “You got cable?! Oh my god! Now your life is complete!” You have to commit fully to this for it to work. She will play along and have fun with it if you appear to be getting a kick out of it., “Sorry, I’ve just been trying to work on being a more positive, enthusiastic person.”, Physical Progression Stack, 1) First find a way to reward her with a high five for something she says or does. “That’s awesome, high five!” High five her and put your fingers through hers when your hands are in the air. If she doesn’t wrap her fingers through yours, release the hand and abort mission. If she does, take the hand and move to, 2) Spin her around in a playful twirl. At the end of the spin, if she plays along enthusiastically and doesn’t stiffen up, move to, 3) End the spin move by pulling her to your side so she’s facing the same direction as you and your arm is over her shoulder. Hold onto her hand and see if she curls up against you and maintains the hand hold. You are in a fairly intimate spot now. Gauge her comfort with being this close to you. If she seems comfortable with all of it, you have the option to move to, 4) Holding her close to you, look her in the eye and give her a sly smile and see if she looks open to being kissed. If so, go for it. At any point along the way, if she stiffens up or lacks compliance, you can stop and not overextend yourself. If she is playing along with everything enthusiastically, this is a great accelerated way to get to the kiss. Helicase regularly uses this to kiss close in under five minutes., Muscle, If she’s in good shape and has been receptive to your physical progression maneuvers, you can say: “You’re diesel. What kind of workout do you do?” Whatever kind of workout she does, tell her you do a different kind, but you want to know how hers is by checking. “Let’s see… Make a muscle.” Have her flex her bicep then squeeze it. Even though she’s making a muscle tease her with: “No really… Make a muscle.” Then say “How are your abs?” Put your hands on her waist and push on her abs with your thumbs to check. Then take one of her hands and put it on your abs. This can work even if you aren’t in shape, just say that you have the hottest abs on the planet, and keep insisting on it even after she’s put her hands on your beer gut and say something along the lines of: “Yeah my workout is amazing… I found it on the Budweiser website. You should check it out.”, Gauge her comfort level and be very playful to make it seem innocent. “I really believe in giving back to society, so I volunteer my free time at the local hospital. I oscillate between doing janitorial work and brain surgery… you know, wherever they need me on a given day. In fact, I’m out here tonight because we’re trying to recruit new brain surgeons. You like helping out your fellow humans, right? Do you have steady hands? Let’s see, hold out your hands as steady as you can and don’t move them.” Notice whether she puts her palms up or down, and how enthusiastically she goes along with it. You can even balance a shot glass or two on her hands for extra fun. “Okay, wow, that’s pretty steady. Okay, now I’m going to try to distract you -- just like a real hospital -- and you have to keep your hands as steady as possible. Remember, a human’s life depends on this.” Start by lightly touching your hands to hers and see if she flinches or moves away. If she doesn’t, reward her with “Very good!” Then lightly grab her wrists and say: “Sometimes the gloves can get really tight around your wrists, but you still have to plow forward.” (Shake her elbows a little bit...) “In California, there are earthquakes.” (Then, lightly brush back her hair and blow on her neck.) “The air conditioning vent may cause your hair to blow out of the way and send a breeze down your neck.”, Then try to Tickle her, “Sometimes your orderlies will tickle you to see how good you are...”, You can improvise this routine all the way up to kissing her, all under the pretext of testing her worthiness as a brain surgeon. If she moves her hands too much, tease her that there’s no way she could ever work at the hospital and you’re shocked that she doesn’t value human life., This works best when her friends are around. It lets you build a little conspiracy with the woman you’re talking to. Gently tickle her back, either over or under her shirt, depending on how far along the physical progression ladder you are. Make sure her friends can’t see, so only she knows it is happening. Continue having normal conversation, as though nothing is going on at all.

Palm Reading

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*?*, also known as chiromancy or chirognomy, "God placed signs or seals in the hands of men, that all men might know their works, and there is always the timeless knowledge that God and nature make nothing in vain.", Unlike your zodiac sign, which you’re born with, the lines on your palm are not fixed from birth, your life determines what your palm looks like, rather than the appearance of your palm determining your life.

Hands, Long before languages came into vogue hand gestures played an important role in communciations., there are more nerves from the brain to the hand than to any other part of the body, We write with them, work with them, and touch others with our hands only.

Logistical Progression

You have to make it look casual by moving into an appropriate position or location where you might start a random, situational conversation with her. Also, it can often help to “ground” yourself to the situation, for example by picking up a book in a bookstore, or buying a cup of coffee in a café and sitting down (near to the woman).


1) How many people can hear what you’re saying. The more people around her or the quieter the venue, the more social pressure there is – on both you and her. If you use a direct opener, the social pressure can make her feel awkward and more likely to respond negatively. Use an indirect opener in situations like this, for example in subway carriages, bookstores and cafés.

2) How fast she is moving. The faster she is moving, the more you need to have a valid reason for talking to her specifically and not any of the other women that are standing near you. If you were to use an indirect opener on a woman rushing down the street with shopping bags, she would wonder why you were asking her and make the judgment that you have poor social calibration (which shows her that you are a low-value guy)., A woman moving on the street is not that hard to stop; you just need to approach with the right energy and calibration.

Use direct openers for women who are moving, for example on the street or walking through shopping malls. Women love a man who has the confidence to stop them directly – it shows that he is willing to take risks for the things he wants, which in turn suggests a powerful, successful lifestyle.


You must make sure you get her attention when you deliver a direct opener. If you don’t commit and say it weakly (which is what 99% of guys – including myself – do the first time they ever try a direct opener) then the girl will not stop moving. If this happens, do NOT keep moving with her. Stand there and simply project your voice louder.

You can also use a pre-opener such as “Excuse me,” in order to get her attention fully (just don’t say it in a supplicating manner).

The woman needs to feel that you’ve stopped her specifically as opposed to just stopping random hot girls on the street. The more passion you can put behind the opener, the more likely it is to work.

Changing the venue in the middle of the interaction anchors you in their immediate enviroment, Cell Phone, Wallet


o, Either Or, +, Do you want to chill after 7PM or before?

o, "I'm counting on you, I'm rearranging my schedule, what time are we meeting again?"


Burning Fire

If you meet a woman (especially a sharp, attractive woman who's intelligent), and you start doing all of those wonderful things that spark and amplify the ATTRACTION present in the situation, you must KEEP MOVING FORWARD, or you'll lose everything you've built.

if you don't take things to a physical level quickly after creating all of this sexual tension, it will eventually go away, and you'll be left with just "friend" material.

If you're going to spark and amplify attraction with a woman, you need to continue on to the next level SOON... or you're going to probably lose it.

When you just tease a woman, bust on her, get her all wired up and excited about you... then DON'T MOVE FORWARD PHYSICALLY, it's a let down.

the woman you're with has a first impression of you that says "This guy is sexy and attractive," but when you don't continue forward on a physical level, she starts to think "Uh Oh, he's either not interested in me 'in that way', he's gay, or he's seeing someone else," etc.

If you want to be "friends" with a woman, it's easy. Don't do anything. If you don't make any "moves", don't try to kiss her, and don't confidently lead in a physical way, a woman will only think of you as a "friend". Even if there is attraction based on personality, it's going to disappear if you don't cross over into the physical realm.

99% of the time, she's NOT going to be the one to make the first moves... it's just not going to happen. YOU have to do it.

Using the physical techniques... ways of touching, ways of getting her physically turned on and amplifying her arousal, that you've learned in the materials, will get a woman so turned on that just about ANY kind of sexual interaction will be fine with her.

The Real Keys

1) Knowing WHAT to do to proceed in each situation

2) Knowing WHEN to proceed in each situation

3) Knowing HOW to proceed in each situation... in a way that is smooth and natural... and that doesn't get you "rejected"

The KEY is that you have to at least PROGRESS physically with her. Explained differently, you don't necessarily have to go "all the way," but you do have to get pretty far down the field... and keep going a little farther each time... if you want to keep the attraction building.



You look like you're up to no good..., I saw you checking me out and I knew if I didn't confront you, you would probably try and follow me home later.

Are you going to like me the third time you see me?, You

Do you remember me?, Yea you were standing on the other side of the XXX, yea that was me walking by, The Gym, The BookStore, The Club

Hey what are you doing?

Hey did you miss me?

How are you?

Julie! Julie! Hey it's me!, Nah I'm just playin, whatsup?, You just looked like you were up to no good, just wanted to make sure


Hey everyone having a good time you having fun tonight? Yeah just making sure.

Hey you guys look like you're up to no good

Hey you guys all look like trouble over here


It's kind of hot


Ninja Roll, Throw the Beer

Hey come here!, Ohhh whatsup dude! Hey who's this? Man you can't be like that you need to introduce us! How long have you guys known each other?

Inner Game

Self Esteem

Confidence, Antidote for Anxiety, Courage

Equates with Happiness

Get use to the answer No - it builds you, Accept it - develop tough skin

Become creative, know what you want



Feared Object or Event


Amused vs Fearful

Anxiety vs Confidence

Seek & Destroy


Go and FIND a place where I would want her to BE, Barnes & Nobles (Ala Moana & Kahala)


Approaching the Women who I would want to be with, Say I am not interested in you, Don't think about what I'm going to say, Erase the inner monologue, Be positive


Comfort Zone is the ENEMY

Go for the HARDEST sets FIRST

What Women Want


Talking to the 10 and the 7 is all over you

Women want to be the #1 in the room

Men who have beautiful women

Well it was nice talking to you I have to get back to my friend she was giving me the eye earlier, she hates it when other girls talk to me

She wants to PROVE herself - so you can't reject her


If they're giving me the "help me" eye

She wants you to be NOT interested in her, she wants you to be TAKEN



Holding Hand out for a food item, Improvements, Logistical Moving Inbetween, Talk to the Ugly One, only if the ugly one is nice, Make the Hot one earn it

2 Guys 1 Girl

Sitting down next to her, Closest one says nothing, Farther one initiates with a, "Hi"