"You will beat cancer but your relationship wont" A Guide to Relationship Survival!
by Shanyn Cardinale
1. Facts
1.1. Communication is Key
1.2. Listening is more important than talking
1.3. Relationships are easy. Relationships are hard work
1.4. A relationship has 2 individuals 2 sets of goals 2 sets of ideas
2. Relationship Stocktake
2.1. Your loved them once? Why!!
2.2. Im not putting up with.....! Phase
3. My Story
3.1. I am a chick with friends, family, children and a loving supportive partner. Oh! and I have cancer.
3.2. When they diagnosed my body they diagnosed my relationship. "I would survive cancer but my relationship wouldn't." What did they know? They weren't counsellors! They didn't know me! They didn't know my partner! and they had no knowledge of my relationship! What did they know! Well they were nearly right. We have been lucky so far we are beating the odds.
3.3. Im not a counsellor or a psychiatrist amd maybe the only help this book will be to you is as a heavy object to throw or maybe there might be something here for you or your partner
4. Unknown random throughts with no heading yet
4.1. Be positive v be practical
5. Inspirations
5.1. Dont Lose them before you've Lost Them
6. Relationships
6.1. All people and relationships have baggage. Its how you pack your baggage that counts
6.2. Some of the greatest movies are about finding and keeping love. So celebrate your victory.
6.3. Negotiating a relationship is like negotiating world peace. "Put down to nuclear warhead before you poke someones eye out"
7. Having a discussion
7.1. It is normal to discuss strenuously (fight/argue/disagree)
7.2. Keep your arguements on topic
7.3. dont dig up your dead in an argument - prior issues dealt with and buried should remain buried
7.3.1. I can talk like that I have cancer