Example of a Happiness mind map with a plan of action
Be happy with this mindmap to a happier life. Use the plan of action to make your own map. Harness your source energy. Deal with difficult people. Let go of the fantasy bond and decide who you want to be.
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2. what I will be like
2.1. how have your relationships improved?
2.1.1. calmer
2.1.2. nicer
2.1.3. more time
2.1.4. more intimacy
2.1.5. more talking together face to face
2.2. How to I maintain happiness in challenges?
2.2.1. perspective
2.2.1.1. understand about it
2.2.1.2. understand that other people can't impact my emotions
2.2.2. water off a ducks back
2.2.3. always happy
2.2.3.1. make the best of it
2.2.3.2. find the small stuff
2.2.3.3. stay in the moment
2.3. How has my home life improved?
2.3.1. enjoy more cooking
2.3.2. enjoy more stuff around the hse
2.4. How has work improved?
2.4.1. I am more positive
2.4.2. see it for what it is
2.4.2.1. accept praise
2.4.2.2. accept contribution
2.4.2.3. drop idea of is it worth what they are paying me?
2.4.2.3.1. where does that come from?????
2.4.2.4. accept the contributions I am making
2.4.2.5. see the skill sets I have and appreciate them
2.4.2.5.1. pragmatic
2.4.2.5.2. open
2.4.2.5.3. clarity
2.4.2.5.4. not hiding stuff
2.4.2.5.5. cutting to the chase
2.5. How do I treat others?
2.5.1. calmly
2.5.2. kindly
2.5.3. as I would like to be treated
2.5.4. understanding in face of anger/frustration etc.
2.6. How do they treat me?
2.6.1. as above
2.7. Camera pictures
2.7.1. smiling
2.7.2. open
2.7.3. relaxed
2.7.3.1. confident
2.7.3.2. calm
2.7.3.3. energised
2.7.4. moving forward
2.7.5. doing what I want
2.7.6. smiley
2.7.6.1. lisa
2.7.6.2. cats
2.7.6.3. outdoors
2.7.6.4. sunny
3. Buddy
3.1. each day
3.1.1. 3 x each day share happiness level
3.2. Sunday
3.2.1. happiness goal share
3.2.1.1. goal level
3.2.1.2. out of?
3.2.1.3. 10 is guess
4. all within yourself
4.1. thoughts
4.1.1. actions
4.2. happy thinking
4.2.1. yields happy thoughts
4.3. no man is happy, that does not think himself so
4.3.1. describe yourself
4.3.2. concious choice
5. dealing with inner critique
5.1. give it a voice
5.1.1. repeat it
5.1.2. then counter it
5.1.3. e.g. i am not a loser i have achived many things
5.1.4. everyone has moments when they feel they could have said something better
5.1.5. everyone even angelina
5.1.6. i am a successful person i will be fine
6. meditation practice
6.1. 10 mins not disturbed e.g. first thing in morning
6.2. sit up
6.3. hands in lap
6.4. thumb & index right hand touch
6.5. left open
6.6. three slow long deep breaths
6.7. close eyes on third
6.8. breath through mind
6.9. focus on breathing
6.9.1. sound
6.9.2. sensation
6.9.3. feel movements
6.9.4. track breaths
6.10. if able to complete one breath only thinking about breathing
6.11. move right thumb to middle finger and then to ring finger and then to pinky and so on.
6.12. one done four open right hand and keep track with left thumb
6.13. and so on
6.14. when other thoughts come to mind place into categories
6.14.1. e.g.
6.14.1.1. to do thought
6.14.1.1.1. think that is a to do thought and let it go
6.14.1.2. self-critical
6.14.1.3. teaching thoughts
6.14.1.3.1. another decoy
6.14.2. then start over
6.15. EGO WILL FIGHT YOU
6.16. Benefits
6.16.1. stay focus on work
6.16.2. person speaking
6.16.2.1. focus on lisa
6.16.3. act of meditating increases happiness
6.16.3.1. increases endorphines
6.16.3.2. separate ego and live spiritual live - soul
6.16.4. ego
6.16.4.1. based in fear
7. difficult people
7.1. criticism
7.1.1. gentle or otherwise
7.1.1.1. "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
7.1.2. as for feedback
7.1.2.1. present bin or use
8. fantasy bond
8.1. parents are fallable
8.1.1. their inability to give you what you needed
8.1.2. what not about you
8.1.3. nothing to do with you
8.2. changing your core belief
8.2.1. whatever you see in yourself you see mirrored in the world
8.2.1.1. change tone off thinking
8.2.2. affirm to yourself and others that you are already a happy person
8.2.3. I am happy
8.2.4. statements
8.2.4.1. personal
8.2.4.1.1. I
8.2.4.2. present
8.2.4.2.1. you are what you say you are here and now
8.2.4.3. positive
8.2.4.4. powerful
8.2.4.5. e.g.
8.2.4.5.1. I am very happy
8.2.4.5.2. I am dearly loved
8.2.4.5.3. I am certain that this experience that this experience is leading to something good
9. ABCD
9.1. A - Action
9.2. B - Believe
9.3. C - Consequences of believe
9.4. D - Disputation
9.5. when something knocks your happiness go through ABCD
9.6. Problems
9.6.1. think of 3 ways the problem may actually be useful
9.6.1.1. how is my life different?
9.6.1.1.1. more relaxed
9.6.1.1.2. fewer cross feelings
9.6.1.1.3. do more fun stuff
9.6.1.1.4. feel more energy
9.6.1.1.5. probs drink less don't need the reward
9.6.1.2. release them to spirit and have faith that they be resolved.
9.6.1.3. or work out in your favour over time
10. Wayne Dyer
10.1. Top 10
10.1.1. 1.
10.1.2. 2.
10.1.3. 3.
10.1.4. 4. Be Open-Minded
10.1.4.1. no one knows enough to be a pessimist
10.1.5. 5. Change the way you look at things
10.1.5.1. do I live in friendly or hostile universe?
11. How to be HAPPY
11.1. look for reasons to be happy
12. Conscious vs sub conscious
12.1. conscious
12.1.1. I want to do active stuff
12.1.1.1. I long to
12.1.1.1.1. learn to surf
12.1.1.1.2. learn to be a bad ass mountain biking
12.1.1.1.3. learn to kite surf
12.1.1.1.4. do more snowboarding
12.1.1.1.5. swim, run
12.1.1.1.6. do fighting
12.1.2. i want to feel part of something i care about
12.1.3. i want to be of service
12.2. sub-conscious
12.2.1. you need something to fall back on
12.2.2. no one else wants to do that
12.2.3. sport is serious
12.2.4. you must excel (you must take it seriously)
12.2.5. this is not about fun!
12.2.6. fun is friviously
12.2.7. fun/sport is not safe
12.2.8. to much fun gets punished
12.2.8.1. bad things happen when you let yourself be happy
12.2.8.1.1. enjoy
12.2.8.1.2. be silly
12.2.8.1.3. race around
12.2.8.1.4. do dangerous stuff
12.2.9. you will have to be isolated to do these fun sporty things
12.2.9.1. you won't be accepted by those people doing those things
12.2.9.2. no one will want to join you
12.2.9.3. you will have to force things to make it happen
12.2.9.4. or you will have to pay to do these things
12.2.10. doing that snowboard jump is embarrasing
12.2.10.1. people will watch
12.2.10.2. people will take the piss
12.2.10.3. you need to be in the cool gang to do that cool thing
12.2.10.3.1. you are not cool enough to do those things
12.2.10.3.2. you are not bad ass enough to do those things
12.2.11. NO ONE WILL REMEMBER
12.2.11.1. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS LEGACY
12.2.11.2. WHATS THE POINT
12.2.11.3. SOMEONE WILL OVERTURN WHAT YOU HAVE DONE
12.3. PUSH BACK
12.3.1. i already have friends who are into cool activities
12.3.1.1. Esther
12.3.1.1.1. kite surfing partner
12.3.1.1.2. seriously stretching skiing
12.3.1.2. Jack
12.3.1.2.1. skiiing
12.3.1.3. Sarah
12.3.1.3.1. swimming
12.3.1.4. Helen
12.3.1.4.1. walking & hectic adventures
12.3.1.5. Fred
12.3.1.5.1. he is up for lots of stuff
12.3.2. if you are doing something important in the moment
12.3.2.1. that has immediate present impact then it doesn't matter if - impact on a person or animal
12.3.2.1.1. doesn't matter if things change later
12.3.2.1.2. you are impacting a life right there and then
12.3.2.2. what?
12.3.2.2.1. caring for an animal(s)
12.3.2.2.2. working for a hands on charity
12.3.2.2.3. working for a fundraising charity with clarity on where the money goes
12.3.2.2.4. supporting a really important service
12.3.2.2.5. enabling something to happen
12.3.2.3. doing?
12.3.2.3.1. content management
12.3.2.3.2. caring for animals
12.3.2.3.3. fundraising??
12.3.2.3.4. infographics
12.3.2.3.5. training guide dogs
12.3.2.3.6. training hands on people
12.3.2.3.7. building a website from scratch for a charity
12.3.2.3.8. creating new cool things to teach people
12.3.2.3.9. being a 999 call handler
12.3.2.4. EXAMPLES OF JOBS THAT MEET THIS CRITERIA
13. SOURCE ENERGY
13.1. ATTENTION to
13.1.1. meditate
13.2. invisible super power
13.2.1. within me
13.3. loving spirit
13.4. all THINGS energy vibrates at a certain frequency
13.4.1. surrounding and within
13.4.2. all connected to limitless power
13.4.3. made up of and connected to source energy
13.4.4. VIBRATION ATTRACTS LIKE VIBRATION
13.5. aka
13.5.1. universe
13.5.2. spirit
13.5.3. intuition
13.6. all things have an energy
13.6.1. THE UNIVERSE OF SOURCE ENERGY
13.7. WHEN YOU ARE VIBRATING AT A HIGH FREQUENCY
13.7.1. you stumble over awesome people
13.7.1.1. = the people will come to you
13.7.1.2. you will find them!
13.7.2. and awesome things
13.7.3. coincidence is gods way of staying annoymous