1. 2 Forces that shape our lives
1.1. Pain
1.2. Pleasure
1.3. Our decisions are being driven by pain and pleasure rather than intellectual calculation
1.4. Get leverage on yourself to change
1.4.1. Associate massive pain for NOT changing now
1.4.1.1. Greatest leverage = PAIN that comes from inside not outside
1.4.1.1.1. Not living up to your standards = ultimate pain
1.4.1.2. What will it cost me if I do not change?
1.4.1.3. Ultimately, what will I miss out on?
1.4.1.4. How will it affect my family/loved ones
1.4.2. Associate massive pleasure to changing NOW
2. How to Change anything - Conditioning
2.1. 1. What do you want?
2.1.1. Whats stopping you from getting it?
2.2. 2. Get leverage
2.2.1. Associate massive pain for NOT changing now
2.2.1.1. Greatest leverage = PAIN that comes from inside not outside
2.2.1.1.1. Not living up to your standards = ultimate pain
2.2.1.2. What will it cost me if I do not change?
2.2.1.3. Ultimately, what will I miss out on?
2.2.1.4. How will it affect my family/loved ones
2.2.2. Associate massive pleasure to changing NOW
2.3. 3. Interrupt the limiting patterns of feelings
2.3.1. scramble the sensations linked to the memories
2.3.2. Scramble it
2.3.2.1. 1. See the situation in your mind
2.3.2.2. 2. turn it into a cartoon
2.3.2.3. 3. How does the new situation feel?
2.3.2.3.1. All our feelings are based on images we hold in our minds
2.4. 4. Create a new empowering alternative
2.5. 5. Condition the new pattern untill its consistent
2.5.1. Setup a schedule to reinforce this new behavior
2.6. 6. Test It
3. State Management
3.1. What is State
3.1.1. Our state of being -- it determines how we ACT
3.1.2. Everything we do is to avoid pain or gain pleasure
3.1.2.1. We can change what will lead to pain or pleasure by changing our state
3.2. Triad
3.2.1. Physiology
3.2.1.1. Emotions are created by motion
3.2.1.2. Components
3.2.1.2.1. Breathing pattern
3.2.1.2.2. How you hold your body
3.2.1.2.3. How you move
3.2.1.2.4. facial expression
3.2.1.3. You can change the way you feel with an instant change in your physiology
3.2.1.4. Firewalking
3.2.1.4.1. Chest out
3.2.1.4.2. Standing tall
3.2.1.4.3. Resolute face
3.2.2. Focus
3.2.2.1. Whatever we focus on - becomes our idea of reality
3.2.2.2. Focus on where you want to go
3.2.2.2.1. Not what you fear
3.2.2.3. Fire walking experience
3.2.2.3.1. Focus on the end result - at the end of the walk, celebrating with joy
3.2.2.3.2. Rather than focus on the possibility of getting burnt.
3.2.2.4. Using questions to focus your mind
3.2.2.5. Submodalities
3.2.2.5.1. Visual
3.2.2.5.2. Auditory
3.2.2.5.3. Kinesthetic
3.2.2.5.4. We need to change our sub-modalities in order to change our feelings
3.2.3. Language/Meaning
3.2.3.1. This is challenge and I will dominate it
3.2.3.2. This is a stressful situation and I feel out of control
3.2.3.3. The words we use in our heads
4. How to accomplish anything
4.1. 1. Change your standards
4.2. 2. Change your limiting beliefs
4.2.1. How to change belief systems
4.2.1.1. Pain is the ultimate tool for shifting beliefs
4.2.1.2. Write down a list of your disempowering beliefs
4.2.1.3. Write down
4.2.1.3.1. How will this belief affect my health, wealth, relationships etc
4.2.1.3.2. How is the belief ridiculous or absurd?
4.3. 3. Model an effective strategy or change it
5. Questions
5.1. As human beings
5.1.1. We are always asking questions to ourselves
5.1.2. Whether knowingly or unknowingly
5.2. What happens as a result of asking questions
5.2.1. Our brain is forced to find answers to those questions
5.2.2. Difference in people = difference in questions they ask
5.2.3. Questions create the quality of our lives
5.2.3.1. Questions you ask and the questions you fail to ask
5.3. In face of Current crisis, most People are asking themselves
5.3.1. How will this situation continue to get worse?
5.3.2. What if I run out of money?
5.3.3. What is the worst case scenario?
5.3.4. What if I can't take care of my loved ones
5.3.5. Whose fault is this?
5.3.6. What if I lose my business because of this crisis?
5.3.7. What if I lose my job?
5.3.8. Why now?
5.3.9. What will the government do to help me?
5.4. What happens as a result of these questions?
5.4.1. Questions are the lens of our consciousness
5.4.1.1. They change our thoughts
5.4.1.2. They change what we are focussing on
5.4.2. Your brain focuses on finding answers to these questions
5.4.2.1. How this situation will continue to get worse
5.4.2.2. What will happen when you lose your business and get wiped out
5.4.2.3. Why right now is the worst time to go through such a crisis
5.4.2.4. How you might run out of money and become homeless
5.4.2.5. The worst case outcome of this crisis.
5.5. "The quality of our life is determined by the quality of questions we ask ourselves"
5.5.1. Questions change the resources available to us
5.6. Empowering Questions you can ask yourself
5.6.1. How can I make this situation even 1% better?
5.6.2. How can I make the best of this situation?
5.6.3. How can I win in this situation?
5.6.4. Why will I win in this situation?
5.6.5. What is the 1 thing I can do right now that help me/my family?
5.6.6. And my personal favorite questions in face of obstacles are:
5.6.6.1. I know that this crisis will turn out to be one of the greatest things that ever happened to me - I just need to figure out how it will happen.
5.6.6.2. What is the positive in this situation?
5.6.6.3. How will this crisis become an advantage for me?
5.7. What will happen as a result of asking these Empowering Questions?
5.7.1. You will shift your focus away from negativity
5.7.1.1. You will be looking for solutions
5.7.1.2. You will be looking for ways to grow and get better
5.7.1.3. You will be looking for ways to WIN and thrive
5.8. Exercise
5.8.1. Step 1
5.8.1.1. List out all the questions that are current running through your mind
5.8.2. Step 2
5.8.2.1. Write down all the empowering questions you could ask yourself
5.8.3. Step 3
5.8.3.1. Write those empowering questions in a journal or a piece of paper
5.8.4. Step 4
5.8.4.1. Every morning upon waking up
5.8.4.1.1. Ask yourself those empowering questions
5.8.4.2. Every Night before going to bed
5.8.4.2.1. Ask yourself those empowering questions
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6. Metaphors
6.1. Candle v/s Forest Fire
6.2. A kite flies highest against the strongest wind
7. Goals
7.1. RAS
7.1.1. It determines what you will NOTICE and pay ATTENTION to
7.1.2. Your brain deletes most of the stimuli coming in to you
7.1.2.1. Focuses only on what is important to you
7.2. Visualize
7.2.1. 2x a day
7.2.1.1. See yourself accomplishing the goal
7.2.1.2. Feel the feelings of accomplishing the goal
8. Living by your Values
8.1. The thoughts/feelings you most deeply value
8.1.1. Above everything else
8.2. Growth/learning
8.3. Greatness
8.3.1. Not ordinary
9. The Power of Rules
9.1. Whether you feel like you are achieving you values or not is totally dependent on your rules -
9.2. What has to happen for you to feel that you are growing
9.3. What has to happen for you feel that you are achieving greatness
9.4. Most people have
9.4.1. difficult empowering rules
9.4.2. Easy disempowering rules
10. The Most powerful force in human Nature
10.1. The strongest force in human nature
10.1.1. We always act consistent with it
10.2. We become the labels we give ourselves
10.2.1. Self fulfilling prophecy
10.3. Identify the current identity you have for yourself
10.4. What is the new identity you wish to have
10.4.1. WHO do you want to be
10.5. What actions do you need to take in order to live true to this identity
10.5.1. Our actions determine who we think we are